2007-03-12 16:21:17 · 13 answers · asked by RANDA G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
what you know and the reality can be totally different. Hey guys are not the emotionally type so its understandable that he is not saying the "L" word yet. Don't worry too much about it, as long as you know that he is in love with you and you are comfortable with your relationship than don't worry.
I mean if he doesn't love you, than he would not be with you for two years. My ex told me that he loved me after just two weeks of dating but it turned out that he was just in love with my body and used the "L" word to get it. Don't rush things, he would say it when he is comfortable so enjoy your relationship ~_^.
2007-03-12 16:32:03 · answer #1 · answered by Rose 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That's opposite of me. I didn't believe my partner loved me, and I told a third party that's how I felt. The "third party" turned out to be him chatting as a polite man on myspace, lol....and lo and behold...I GOT TOLD a few days later. I was so stunned, I nearly stopped breathing. Some men aren't good at saying it. Or they're afraid if they say it, the wedding magazines will come out, ha ha. You don't say whether or not you've told him. I only had ONCE...about 1 1/2 years earlier. I am stubborn and refused to keep ramming it down his throat (even though that's not what most people would think; that happens to be the way I am). He is a former marine and very logical...I'm an artist and terribly emotional, so we just show it different ways. I think maybe your boyfriend is just scared, but if you haven't said it, then you should look him in the eyes like the other answerer said, and tell him. He MAY NOT reciprocate right at that moment...he may need to absorb it a bit...but I am sure he will, if he does, in fact, love you, as you feel he does. Good luck!
2007-03-13 00:14:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
After age 18, do not invest more than 2 - 3 yrs. in a relationship
without marriage....Never have kids out of wedlock...
Get a good Pre-Nup to protect you both in case of death or divorce..
Do not marry anyone with personality / character problems,
they will get worse after marriage and you cannot fix them..
Marry someone with an education, future, assets, job, career,
money or something to guarantee your future..
During a very intimate moment after your having told him
that you love him, ask him if he loves you and if he thinks
you two will ever get married....If he says, yes, ask him when.
If he says no or he does not know, then you know what to do.
2007-03-12 23:32:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You don't. He will say it when he is ready. If he never does then he's not the one for you. Not every guy that comes into your life is going to say those words to you. And not every guy that says those words to you is going to mean them.
Wouldn't you rather it comes from his heart when it's said instead of you trying to 'get' him to say it because you want to hear it?
Saying those words to someone carries alot of weight. Maybe his "I love you" is not meant for you. I don't know how old you are but don't rush it. It will happen when it happens.
Good luck to you
2007-03-12 23:32:26 · answer #4 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just keep telling him that you love him no matter what and someday he jsut may say i love you too... Ask him if he loves you and tell him it would make you feel good and happy if he would tell you at times that he loves you. You cannot force or make him say it though and he may show it more then just saying it. If he shows it alot take that to heart as actions speak way louder then words.
2007-03-12 23:30:04 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"but I know he does...". How do you know this? Because you want him to? He hasn't said it. Sorry, that sounds harsh, but I think his silence speaks loudly.
Look for someone who is so madly in love with you he'd shout it out for anyone to hear! That sounds terribly corny, but you really need to quit wasting your time on someone who is emotionally unavailable and closed to you.
2007-03-13 00:27:19 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys hide their feelings..thats the way they was raised..
But to my brother stayed with his girl friend for 6 yrs and he never really loved her..he just stayed with her for a sex buddy
I tried to tell her but she never listened to me..
Just asked him do you love me..ans see what he has to say....
2007-03-12 23:33:10 · answer #7 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
say "break" with him, if he asking u why. Just told him that bcoz u don't want continuous with a guy who did not love you.
2007-03-13 01:22:25 · answer #8 · answered by Haze 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What if he says it and it doesn't satisfy your ears? Will you still be upset? Maybe he just doesn't feel what you want him to feel and he can't fake it. I know it's like that for me. I can't tell someone I love them just because they want to hear the words.
2007-03-12 23:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
When you are alone, saying goodnight with a long and passionate kiss, whisper in his ear, Darling I love you. Follow up with another deep kiss and then ask him Darling do you love me
2007-03-12 23:24:41 · answer #10 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋