Why do lesbians have a prejudice against bisexual women?

Question

i was turned down by 5 girls when they found out i was "just bi"...

well i understand the thing about bi being a trend, it sucks... but i dont get why it hurts more if a girl is left for a guy...as opposed to a girl...

i had a girlfriend who was bi and i din't love her because she was bi, i loved her for who she was. same with my boyfriend, i loved him even after he went through his sex change... see... i date erveryoe! maybe i'm just a whore...

Answer 1

I for one am an equal opportunity lesbian :). I fall for women based on their personality and how well we fit together, not their sexual orientation. Lesbians who have a prejudice against bisexual women have their own issues to figure out. Especially the ones who think that bi chicks will break their heart by screwing around w/ guys on the side. I've had my heart broken by more lesbians cheating on me w/ other women, than bisexual women cheating on me w/ men.

Answer 2

It's not just lesbians, pretty much everyone, gay and straight has a prejudice against bis. We live in a country of stereo types and pigeon holes. Everyone fits into a neat little category. There is also a strong black/white/no shades of gray mentality. People insist you must be either straight or gay, that no other choice is possible. Bisexuals, like you or myself, live outside that dichotomy and are there antithetical to their concept of how the world must be. Add to this the widespread belief that bisexuality is a sign of inability to commit, the argument being that if you can't even commit to one gender, how can you commit to one person? There is also the argument that if your lover is bi then there are twice as many people out there for whom they might leave you. It has been my experience that a secure person has no problem with a bi lover, I might glance, look, even stare, but at the end of the day, they knew with whom I was going home. I can only suggest you try asking around and see if there are groups in your area where bis can interact, many gay groups do have sub-groups for bis, simply because of the widespread prejudice. Just don't get discouraged, and don't let anyone make you ashamed of who you are, "We are all of us as God made us, and many much worse". Miguel De Cervantes in "Don Quixote".

Answer 3

Whoa. I guess the idea of you sleeping with men is kinda icky. I guess I could date a bi girl, but I'd probably be hesitant. It could also be that there is twive the competition for bi girls. If my girl left me for a man, I'd be soooooo hurt. It's never happened, but if it did, I'd lock myself in my room and cry for a few days. It could also be that they don't want to touch something that a man has touched. There are so many reasons why people feel the way they do. If you get turned down again, ask her why.

Answer 4

cos they get screwed around by bi chicks. Im bi nd one of my best friends is a dyke nd she is the same she wants nothing to do (sexually or romantically) with bi chicks. She has been screwed over so many time nd had her partner leave 4 men a few times 2. Put yr self in her shoes it would make u feel quite inadequet. She has no problem with my bisexuality but then im not dateing her am i! not all lesbians avoid bi chicks but if yr realy having a problem how bout lookin 4 a bi chik

Answer 5

it's not that we dont like girls who are bi, its just that there are a lot of girls who say they are bi, but mean they are confused about their sexuality. There are a lot of girls i know who say that they are bi just to attrack male attention or say that they are "only a lesbian when they have a girlfriend but straight when they are with a man." I know that this doesn't go for all bisexuals, so the next time you tell a girl, make sure you have a discussion about it, you know one of those 'so when did u come out' discussions. When they get to know you better and see that you are comfortable with your sexuality, then they'll be more willing to give you a chance. so...when you first meet them dont just say, "Hey, I'm bi" let them get to know you first. Good Luck.

Answer 6

Do les actually hate bi's ? You must be in the Usa because they seem to hate anything not just quite like there selves. I dont see why because we are all human. I am not picking at anyone but it seems strange to me. I couldnt give a s**t what you or anyone one else is. I am les and bi's are bi's. But do les actually look down on bi's because they are not fully fledged in their minds. That is stupid and if they do are just bigots like the rest of people. I would never do that.

Answer 7

It's because of the negative stereotypes associated to being bi. I've gotta give ya props for staying with your one partner through their sex change. I've just about given up on finding a woman that won't freak out when I say I'm trans.

Answer 8

I don't know, but I've seen that too. Gay guys seem to be a bit prejudiced against bi guys too.

Most seem to assume we just haven't admitted that we are gay or lesbian. After 32 years being out to myself, I think I've figured out who I'm attracted to and get a little pissed off that somebody that doesn't know crap about me decides who I'm attracted to.

Answer 9

lots of straight people are pretending to be bi these days because they think it's trendy, could be they are assuming you fall into this catagory..

bottom line, you don't have to tell everyone you are bi. if you like a girl, tell her you like them. see if you can get them to date you, then only reveal your bi interests if you feel the need to want more than one partner at once

Answer 10

Well most lezbos have had their hearts broken by the Straight bi curious girls and so to avoid another heart break they have vowed never to date another boy liking girl..as they feel its To much of a risk..Im bi...ands always reasure my dates that I know who Iam and what I want..And if Im dating them its cuz I want to get to know them..If we fall into a relationship..Then its cause I want to be with her and her only..Its her loss if she doesnt want to give it a chance because of her prejudice.