I'm a goodlooking woman yet my husband has more excuses in why we don't have sex
2007-03-12 16:05:32 · 27 answers · asked by sugar c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe your husband is suffering from some form of erectile dysfunction and doesn't want to tell you about it. I would sit down with him and talk about it. I know coming from a guy it sounds strange but communication is the key. At least I think it is. Good luck.
2007-03-12 16:09:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many men (and women) have illnesses that keep them from desiring sex. Anti-depressants especially take away a sex drive. Many couples aren't able to have sex because of health problems other than medication. Heart issues can keep men from wanting to have sex as well.As long as your husband is still considerate and loving the sex is just one of the small things he isn't interested in.
If the two of you communicate, as hard as it is, talk about it. Ask him if there's a reason he's not interested in sex. Give him the opportunity to be open and honest and accept his answer. He may need to think about it for a while (that's guys) but eventually, he'll talk about it.
Trust me, it bothers him knowing the two of you aren't having sex as much as you.
2007-03-12 17:11:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband and I don't have sex?
2014-12-13 11:43:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are several things that could be knocking out his libido -
depression
poor nutrition
poor physical health
drinking or drug problem
guilt for something he is doing that you wouldn't approve of
boredom - same routine, in a rut
impotence
having an affair with someone else
passive/agressive anger over another issue
You need to sit him down and talk with him - be very kind/understanding, but firm enough not to let him wiggle his way out of the discussion.
2007-03-12 17:54:20 · answer #4 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're not having sex, then getting kinky or trying to seduce him or whatever is likely to put pressure on. I'm going to assume he knows you want it. So you could try having a real talk with him.
Is he worried about performance?
Is he worried about something else?
Is his drive way down?
2007-03-13 05:14:15 · answer #5 · answered by kheserthorpe 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes men withhold as well as woman can, like if you have been nagging him, or you two have had a disagreement. It could be an ongoing situation with him, is he stressed at work, impotent, cheating!!! Don't initiate anymore, just look hot and be non-chalant about it.
2007-03-12 16:11:19 · answer #6 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try making it exciting again by doing something new. Sit down and talk to him about what is working, what you like, and ask what he likes. Ask about fantasies, drink wine. Ask why you aren't having sex anymore. Buy sexy lingerie. Make a date, go out, talk sexy. If all that doesn't work, there may be more to it than just sex.
2007-03-12 16:10:12 · answer #7 · answered by Jacqui K 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
something is not right with this...talk to him and find out why...
I've worked over 40 hrs a week...take care of the kids in the evening while the wife works and still chase the wife like dog while the wife teases me...plus I'm in my late 30's...
2007-03-12 16:19:09 · answer #8 · answered by hononegah1988 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes men can get complacent when in a relationship for a long time. sometimes it's just nicer to share your time rather than f*cking. maybe he's not feeling attractive anymore. there's lots more reasons too
remind him that you love him
remind him that you would marry him over again
and if that fails, GET KINKY.
2007-03-12 16:25:10 · answer #9 · answered by jeffrey m 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Husband? Divorce? Help?
2016-11-13 06:23:12 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋