suppose you have been in a loveless,passionless and abusive marriage for many years and you fall in love with someone else even though they are only your friend and you have no idea what the other person feels about you.One night you have a vivid dream of sleeping with someone you just met and don't even like,the sex feels good for the time being but you feel absolute disgusted and guilty afterwards more guilty then you have ever felt,and then when you wake up from this dream you cuddle up next to your husband even though you do not have a good marriage and are glad it was only a dream,but still in your heart feel flutters when you think of that friend you learned to love.Would this mean you are guilty for being with your husband against your love or your love against your husband?
2007-03-12 15:59:46 · 9 answers · asked by .. 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Why would you stay in a loveless, passionless and abusive marriage for many years? The dream to me symbolizes what you really want, love, warmth, feelings of being important to someone.
I would remove the guilt factor, your subconscious knows where your heart really is. If your mate will not even try by means of talking to you or therapy, it may be time to move on with your life. Good luck to you.
2007-03-18 22:13:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you are in love with the "idea" of being in love and you depsperatly need the passion you once shared with your spouse. You know it is wrong to love another person. Your concsience is telling you two things one, you need to feel love and two ,you need love that has not been in your marraige.You also must love your spouse or you wouldn't be feeling bad. If I were you, I would go to a couselor and work this out before you really act on the subconsious thought. Make sure you get your partner involved so they know you didn't keep anything a secret. If your spouse doesn't want to work on the reasons for the passionless marraige, then at least you will know you tried.
2007-03-12 16:18:40 · answer #2 · answered by java348 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means that this bad husband has this person whopped (slang term) even in their dreams. Why the hell would someone hang out in a bad marriage? I was in an abusive relationship and got out when I finally ended up in the ER. Some women have the balls to get out and some are just so weak and stupid they stay. Tell this person to grow some balls already.
2007-03-20 14:53:23 · answer #3 · answered by RoxanneZG 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds to me that you want a relationship with this other person,but you know its morally wrong because you are married. (loveless,passionless and abusive marriage for many years )I know how difficult it is to end a relationship,but you only live once!
2007-03-20 15:05:32 · answer #4 · answered by scott h 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The prime question here, you have already answered. The very first statement is "ABUSIVE" relationship. Unless your investment in this relationship is so great that it would be worth your while to pursue counseling, (I would expect of long duration) for you mental and physical health you must remove yourself. As for the rest of your statement. Your are suppressing you base needs, pushing them back in to your sub-conscience, they are coming to the fore in your dreams. You may want to seek help in resolving this. For me to attempt to pursue the further in this venue would be a dis-service. My best to you, hope you will seek assistance.
2007-03-12 16:27:00 · answer #5 · answered by All-One 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This shows that u have been starved of love (i did not mention passion). Any one in a similar phase would have the same dream
2007-03-12 16:03:54 · answer #6 · answered by spice 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It means you're wanting out of your marriage and want to have a good one.If you're abused, get out.
2007-03-18 17:42:22 · answer #7 · answered by Morningstar 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You want to have good marriage, that's all.
2007-03-12 16:58:40 · answer #8 · answered by Mattman 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no u just out of ur relationship that ur mind is playin tricks on u
2007-03-20 06:36:15 · answer #9 · answered by ryanhillard 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋