My wife and I have been separated for a few months to give each other some space and she dosn't wear her ring any more. Should I be concerned?
2007-03-12 15:56:16 · 25 answers · asked by jc22 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, you are separated its okay that she is not wearing your ring. This could have little to do with you, but her. I would want to look down at my ring and consistently remind myself and give me hope of what we had or what we could have. I would not wear and it has nothing to do with you.
2007-03-12 16:02:54 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should be concerned that you need space and are seperated for a few months. Her wearing a ring should be the least of your concerns. I have been married for near 15 year and have not wore a ring but the 1st 6 months. No problems here. You need to learn to show her the attention she wants in the way she wants it. A little freedom with friends. A sense of humor and some caring. You need to work on talking to her and doing stuff for her so that you can get back together before (if she is) testing the waters leads her to a permanent seperation.
2007-03-12 16:04:00 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say. In fact, now isn't the time to be concerned honey, it's time to panic. Your time of being concerned should have happened before you separated. I know this is hard to hear, but even you can admit that there were visible problems prior to the separation. That was when your concern should have voiced it's opinion. It may be too late. And please notice I say "May". That doesn't necessarily mean it is. That all depends on how much you love this woman and if this marriage is salvageable. I don't know what the situation was that led to the separation, but at this point in time, your wife made one heck of a statement in taking off her ring. As a woman who's been separated, it's a hard thing to do. Usually the ring is the last thing we hold on to. Maybe she's done holding on. Maybe she's tired of waiting for you to come around....there could be alot of "Maybe's", and the only ones that are going to know are you and her. I wish I had better advice, but the one you really need to ask is her. She was the one who took it off sweetie and only she knows why. If you love her and you aren't ready to throw in the towel, it's time to have a heart to heart with her and see where you stand. Yes, it's easier said than done (been through it), but do you always want to be left wondering about the one that got away? Do you want to live the rest of your life without her because you were afraid to ask? Don't make that mistake. I see far too many people let things slip away because of pride. Go work things out honey, if her taking off her ring means this much to you, then surely she means more.
My heart goes out to you.
2007-03-12 16:15:42 · answer #3 · answered by Hollynfaith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are seperated so it is up to her whether she wants to wear the ring ot not. It is not like you are living together as husband and wife anymore. Maybe she is too hurt to wear the ring right now... Why dont you ask her why she is not wearing the ring? Do you still act like you are married at all times now that you are seperated... Have you asked her to try and roconcile and work on your marriage? Why are you seperated if i may ask? Is she open to marriage counseling with you at all? You really should be more concerned about working on and at your marriage then if she is wearing her ring or not. The marriage problems and issues that seperated the two of you needs attention now or the marriage will not last or be rekindled. There are much deeper issues here in your marriage that need to be addressed then just her not wearing that ring.
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2007-03-12 16:10:25 · answer #4 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe I can share with you this: I have not worn my wedding ring for the last 10 years of my 15 years marriage because my fingers have grown fat and can't fit into the ring. I guess you have to think that as long you still have the love for your spouse, ring or no ring, it does not matter.
2007-03-12 16:01:44 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Should you be concerned that she's not wearing her wedding ring...no more than you should be concerned that you decided to separate to give each other "space."
2007-03-12 15:59:50 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
She is clearly trying to get a life that doesn't involve being a married woman. You should be concerned if you have no plans to get back together because it means that you marriage is all but over. You and your wife obviously have reached a different conclusion about your future. Maybe you should talk to her and see where your relationship is now and where it is going in future
2007-03-12 16:00:40 · answer #7 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I didn't wear my wedding ring for the last 5 years of my marriage...I don't know if you should be concerned or not since there isn't much she CAN do...she is still LEGALLY married whether she wears the ring or not.
2007-03-12 16:00:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
That seems like a pretty blatant message that she is ready to be single again in a very rude, hurtful way.
I wish you luck in the future and hope you find someone who won't ever want to take that ring off again:)
2007-03-12 18:01:30 · answer #9 · answered by Mrs. Goddess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To me that seems pretty symbolic that she is over the marriage. My mother in law only took her ring off once she knew the marriage was over. Ask her her reasons for not wearing it they may be different from my in law.
2007-03-12 16:00:01 · answer #10 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋