My husband and I have recently separated, and he is soo soo stressed out about work, but told me he does not love me anymore. I don't know if he is so depressed about working and anxious about losing his job or if he just wanted to be single again and really does not love me? We have been together for almost 10 years and I am just so confused about this!!! I won't force him to stay, regardless, but if he is uber stressed about everything I want to work on our marriage. Sob... thanks for your help...
2007-03-12 15:55:12 · 12 answers · asked by Katie 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He could be very stressed about losing his job, hard on his self esteem and very depressing situation. You can't force him to stay, if he wants to go he'll go but you can suggest you try to work through this, after all you married each other for better or worse, richer or poorer. Remind him of that.
2007-03-12 16:00:47 · answer #1 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My thinking is if he is so stressed over his job wouldn't he turn to you for some reassurance in the hope that you can give him confidence to keep going and get through whatever it is he is going through. Wether stressed or not they still need support. I'm not sure what is actually going on but there may be more than work problems going on here, i have a feeling there is an underlying problem that you aren't aware of. My dad, my bf, pretty much all the men in my life have always been incredibly stressed but they have never turned their backs on us. I'm sorry that you are going through this after 10 years and maybe you need to have a really good talk to him and find out what is really going on with him.
2007-03-12 16:07:10 · answer #2 · answered by jimmy_chick78 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sort of ridicous for a man to turn his back on his family due to stressed out about work. If he is using this as an excuse, then you should be glad for the separation, as he is not a responsible man. Family is a place where a man can feel relax and ease after the day of stress and hard work. If he can't feel that, probably he will leave one day.
2007-03-12 16:04:30 · answer #3 · answered by Tan D 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stress management might help him sort out his issues. He may just be using the work stress thing as a mask. I've been really stressed about work so I know how it goes. But get some help. Both of you. It is a bigger sign of weakness to not seek help than to admit you need it.
2007-03-12 16:03:13 · answer #4 · answered by Scotch Tape 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you already know that he can be so stressed out that he does not know what else to do other then turn his back on his responsibility. This does not give him permission or excuse it but some people handle it with more destructive ways then others. You know your husband and what he is capable of; but I think that after 10 years of marriage you and he should try to salvage it if you feel that it is worth repairing. Good luck!
2007-03-12 16:03:28 · answer #5 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Whoa 21 and 5 infants! You 2 have too plenty Time on your palms. i would not difficulty nevertheless he will make it by it as long as he has you by ability of his area. which you ought to to evaluate a factor time activity to form of relieve the stress of all of the charges. this is often why couples wreck up is by technique of money. i'm 24 and occurring my third new child. i'm additionally in nursing college and my husband holds down the tent to date as financially! yet i be attentive to with occurring our 0.33 new child he's under pressure out sometimes. sturdy success!
2016-12-14 17:37:19 · answer #6 · answered by parenti 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it goes a whole lot deeper than just the stress of his job. No doubt he IS stressed, but you can, and should be a source of strength for him, so why leave you? Be patient with him, and the truth will come out before long....one way, or the other. I'm afraid it doesn't look good though. I wish you the best.
2007-03-12 16:04:04 · answer #7 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
there is one thng about men that is not like women.
when a man says something like, "i don't love you" it's probably the absolute truth.
women on the other hand could say the same thng and mean i'm really pissed off at you.
take him at his word. he no longer loves you and that is probably stressing him more than, or is contributing to, his job related problems.
i'm sorry to say, but i think it's time for you to get some legal help.
2007-03-12 16:09:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Work is important to any men, unless he is leaching. Sometime, they forget about the people they are trying to support and the people they love. When that happened, they forget about family and end up loosing why they are working in the first place.
2007-03-12 16:00:41 · answer #9 · answered by Nea'A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hes probally cheating thats all men does anymore my husband has cheated
2007-03-16 13:48:04 · answer #10 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋