why shouldnt a 19 year old have a baby?

Question

Why do they make it sound like having a baby young will ruin your life and money.They're is wic and free medical right? all of these prgrams will provide for you.Besides the expenses of a baby.What else does the world want to scare you with

Answer 1

You're still young. Cherish your youth! After a baby you won't have a life!

Answer 2

Another reason than the ones listed so far is because they want to make sure that there's a happy and secure home for a baby (meaning actually being married before having a kid *gasp* how novel) It's hard to start a marriage and it's very hard to have a child right away because you lose bonding time with your new spouse and if you only got married because you were having a baby 8 out of 10 times it ends in divorce. Also to get into the programs like WIC and Medicaid you have to make below a certain amount in the area of income to qualify so in reality you don't want to be able to qualify so that you aren't simply 'making ends meet' you can enjoy things like getting a baby-sitter a couple times a month and taking a night out with your spouse. If you're on WIC chances that you can spring 40 extra bucks a month for a baby-sitter and then another 40 for whatever it is you're doing are slim. Then there's the lost youth and immaturity part. Most 19 year olds have just started college and just want to party and if you aren't you wish you were...like if you got pregnant and had a kid. I got pregnant young and although I adore my kids it hasn't been a picnic. And I did stay off the gov't help too since my hubby was military, but we still didn't have enough to go play and spend time with just the two of us. It doesn't 'ruin' your life it just makes it so much harder. I am currently going to college but it has taken me a lot longer to complete the courses I need as it would've if I didn't have kids.

Answer 3

Being a Mother at 18 was great! But, watching all my friends enjoy being young and carefree was hard. It may seem like older people don't know what they are talking about, but honestly, if you have a baby at 19, you WILL need more than WIC and Welfare. You'll need a support person, like your Mother/Father, not just your partner. Do your parents want to help take care of your baby? Who will watch your baby while you want to get some sleep at night? No joke, babies cry more than anyone will ever tell you. Even when you feel like giving up, you have to do it. When you hear about infants being abused, it's usually by a young parent, under 30 years old. Personally, I've had a child at 18 and loved being a Mom. And I've had a baby at 29 years old too. And it was so much easier being older. Just remember, when your friends want to go out, you'll be at home with the baby. Which if you find that bliss, go for it! It is truly the best blessing in the world to have a baby! It's God's gift to us, we should treasure them and never take them for granted. I wish you the best of luck. If you are pregnant already, it's good that you know about WIC and other ways to help get good care for you and your baby. Take care!

Answer 4

I dont see there being a problem in particular with older teen parents, but at the end of the day - that child will be your main focus for the rest of your life. I know a teen mother who has to take a lot of time off college if her own mum is unable to look after her baby, and she's falling behind because of it.

I think people who really do want babies at 19 though should really weigh out the pros and the cons, and see whether or not they feel they can wait.

Answer 5

Imagine you want to run to the store to pick up a new pair of shoes. Now imagine collecting your baby, the stroller, the diaper bag, some bottles, some entertainment, and an extra outfit. Now change the baby, and start over. This is what your life is like with a baby for at least 5 years. A baby does not ruin your life, but she will complicate it, and limit your options. You need to think about how you will earn money to support you and the baby, how you might go to school, who might babysit, and how much you are willing to give up. You may be very happy to have a baby, but you may want to wait until you have had a chance to do some things without having to add complications.

Answer 6

How about freedom? I was pregnant when i was 17. I'm in my 20's now and I have to stay in every night. The only time I get away from my oldest son is when he is in school. I cant even go pee without one of the kids knocking on the door....or should i say pushing the door open. its really hard because people my age are out having fun while I'm in the house singing barney sons with the kids. Also why would you want to rely on government and state programs when you don't have to. You don't have to because you can make a choice by not getting pregnant so young. You can go to college and provide better for you and your future child. Accidents happen i know that very well but don't get pregnant so young.

Answer 7

A baby doesn't ruin anyones life. Aside from the obvious cost factor there are challenges day to day. Everything changes a lot are positive changes, most you cannot prepare for. You've spent the last 9 yrs of your life fighting for your independence and freedom, a life of your own. A later curfew, a couple extra hours to sleep-in on the weekend, who's having the party and where this Friday. If you have a baby freedom no longer exists. You now have someone who depends on your every waking moment. Getting up for 2am feeding sounds fun now but wait til it's reality. I love being a Mom but the truth is you need to feel you have experienced life and enjoy your freedom before you no longer have the time to put yourself on the top of today's to do list...sleep, bottle, dirty diaper, feed, dirty diaper, bath, dirty diaper, bottle, feed and so on and so on. Don't forget groceries, the house needs to be cleaned at some point and oh yeah have you showered today? Welcome to your life! It may sound harsh but that is what your life consists of for nearly a full year, with wonderful added bonuses of smiles, snuggles, milestones and laughs along the way. The reality is you must be honest with yourself, are you ready to be selfless or do you need more time?

Answer 8

if you want to have a baby and expect wic and free medical for your kid you should not have one you sound like a loser who wants to live off welfare and food stamps and every other hand out you can get.a baby deserves a better life where they will be loved and cared for by someone who is willing and able to provide for all their needs without being a burden to society.you need to grow up and take care of yourself first.age has very little to do with you being a good parent or not.no one else should pay for your kid a baby changes your life forever and if the time is right and you are ready it will be a blessing.dont be in such a hurry.good luck!

Answer 9

Having a baby will change your life forever, and you will have no money. Babies need attention almost all the time, and when you're not tending them, you're cleaning up their messes, taking a shower and sleeping. WIC and free medical insurance are for people who find themselves in a bad situation unexpectedly, not for people who prefer not to earn enough money to cover their responsibilities. Anyway, these programs aren't that great. Earn some money, travel, go to nice restaurants, finish college, do volunteer work. once you have all these experiences, you will feel even more ready to "settle down" and start a family.

Answer 10

Okay, first of all, if you think that WIC and the medical services you will receive are going to be free, you don't need to be having children!! Who do you think will be paying for that??? Yep, not you - but ME!!! And every other tax paying citizen!! They are NOT free!!!!!!!! It's people with attitudes like yours that keep my state in the poor economy it's in!

I think I'll answer your question. It's not about being too young!! It's about owning up to your responsibility and most younger mothers (the ones in their teens) are not financially stable nor do they have the life experience needed to be a good mother. And you said "besides the expenses of a baby....." well, that's just about the dumbest thing!! Babies are full of expenses. They need food, diapers, housing, clothing, doctor visits, medicines,........shall I continue???

If you have an attitude such as the one you are displaying, then you need to make sure you are having protected sex!! You are not educated enough, for starters, to be having a baby and all of the responsibilities that come with it!!!

Answer 11

I was a young mother and then a young single Mom. I married at 16 and divorced at 21. (My first baby was a premie and only lived a few hours- my son came at 19) I divorced my sons bio-dad when he was 2 and did the single Mom thing for 6 years before finding the right guy and getting married again.
It was really - really hard. I didn't recieve any child support- or other financial support- and had very little emotional support from family/friends. I paid bills based on who waited the longest and who could shut something off/take something away I needed.
I came VERY close to
1. Living in my car
2. Sending my child out of state to live with my Mother
3. Moving in with my brother w/ my child
Instead I got mad- I got determined. I held on to my child- and he to me and we grew up together. I worked two jobs and went to school full time. I had to sacrafice my time with him and my own comfort and relationships with others for a short time- in order to give us both a better life.
I am now 42 years old. I make a triple digit income. I have been remarried for 15 years and have another child as well.
I wish that I could find a way to reach out to more single mothers- to tell them .....you are not a victim- but a product of your choices.
You have or will bring a child into this world who didn't ask you to bring them here. They are here by your decisions. You owe them the most sacrafice you can possible make - to give them the best possible life you can make for them.
It can be done... but it's damn hard!