Okay, I've been waiting for a necklace of mine to be returned to me for over a month now. My Ex GF has it, and she won't give it back. She says that she is too busy to stop by my house to drop it off. The thing is, is that she's been saying this forever! Is she not letting go? I told one of my friends that I just want my necklace back, and her out of my life. Do you think it got back to my Ex and she just still wants to be in my life still? And if so, why would she want to do that when she was the one who broke up w/ me? My Ex use to tell me I was the prettiest girl she's ever been with, but she broke up w/ me because she didn't have enough time for me, but she told other ppl that it just didnt' feel right. She goes by my house everyday after school, and she acts like she can't just quickly drop off my necklace, and I dont' understand it. What do you think is all going through her head? It's been months!!!
2007-03-12 15:43:49 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
And another thing, is that this necklace is important to me! If I could go over to her house, trust me, I would of already! But I don't know where she lives. And this necklace has many memories from my family about it, and it's very important to me. It's a family thing handmedown as you could call it, from my mother.
2007-03-12 15:59:34 · update #1
We've dated once before. And she messed up twice. I've given her the second chance she needed. And she drives by my houses because that's how she gets home from school. And trust me, if I remembered where she lived, then I'd go get it myself.
2007-03-13 10:18:25 · update #2
Tell her that you will be dropping by at (TIME) and expect her to have the necklace available. OR you can have someone drive you over to her house at a time when she would be home an ask for it back...
2007-03-12 15:55:14 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Just because she doesn't have time for you doesn't mean that she's stop caring. She may have liked what you guys had together which is why she's holding onto the necklace, as a memory of her time with you. This sounds somewhat similar to my story. I broke up with my first girlfriend after a week of dating because being a lesbian was all new to me and I was scared of what was going to happen. With all my past relationships, right when i began to get close to the person they would end the relationship and i would never hear from them again. i really cared for her and I didnt want this to happen, so i thought if we stayed friends then she would stick around longer. We both ended up stalking eachother during school and walking past eachothers houses, because we still had very deep feelings for eachother, we just didn't know how to express them. We got back together less than a month later and have been dating for two years. so maybe that's the case with her. she may like you a lot but she may be scared of everyone finding out that she is a lesbian. Are you her first girlfriend? The next time she walks past your house just stop and talk to her. Tell her you want to be friends with her, or talk about the breakup. You said its been months, it seems like she isn't over you or never wanted to break up with you in the first place. If you miss her, just give her a second chance, she may be ready to be with you this time. trust me, getting back together with someone could be the best decision you have made in your life, and if it doesnt work out then you can always end it. If you dont take the chance, you'll always wonder what could of happened if you talked to her again. If you dont want her back and you really want your necklace, try making a trade with her. Was there a certain perfume you wore while dating her? Or a shirt that she thought looked cute on you? Trade her that for the necklace, that way you get it back and she can have something to remember you by.
2007-03-12 16:06:07 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may be that she still wants to be in your life. It might also be because she isn't ready to say goodbye and face the reality of another failed relationship. It may have more to do with her feelings about who she is in a relationship than not letting go of you.
Here's a question for you--and sorry if it sounds inflammatory--Is it an expensive necklace? If not, why is it so important that she give it back? Are you still craving her attention and making a big deal over a non-issue? (Just an idea...) Maybe she needs you to be proactive and stop by her place to get your stuff.
2007-03-12 15:53:45 · answer #3 · answered by melzoom615 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You dated someone and you don't know where they live?
Well, if she says she doesn't have time to drop it off, but is still coming by your house you need to talk to her, probably with a good friend, the next time she comes by and tell he you demand it back, not just want. Be assertive and persistent.
2007-03-12 16:21:13 · answer #4 · answered by Ash 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say let go and move on with your life and charge the necklace to experience.
2007-03-19 15:33:02 · answer #5 · answered by Cheng 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just wants a souvenier from you. Kinda like a notch on her belt.
2007-03-12 15:49:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YOU are doing the same damn thing.
2007-03-12 15:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are right. It has been months.
L.I.G. ------>Let It Go
2007-03-20 09:56:51 · answer #8 · answered by RavenWillowSpeak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋