For example... two weeks ago he decided to give away my cats. He is NOT allergic, he just doesn't like them. So he posted an ad on craigslist and they were gone that day. I had one cat for 9 months she gave birth in September and I kept one of her kittens. So I had a real connection to the kitten. I am really sad. What should I do?
2007-03-12 15:42:22 · 14 answers · asked by Nikki 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He doesn't like tattoos... I already have 4, but I have wanted another for about a year. I respected his feelings about this and not gotten one. But since he didn't respect my love for the cats I went and got one yesterday
2007-03-12 15:53:59 · update #1
How could my getting a tattoo be a problem for my family?
2007-03-12 16:05:34 · update #2
This was very mean and heartless of him to do this to you.... Why did he do this to you if he loves you so much? Tell him how sad you are and how this makes you feel. Be honest with him like you were with us here and ask him nicely if you can have another cat or a pet that maybe he does like that you could share together. Try compromising if you can. Good luck to you and here comes lots of hugs your way today. I can feel your pain. I have and love cats and i can sure relate to this. I just really hope that the people who got the cats care for and love them as you did and that they have a good and loving home. Why does he feel he has to control you like this? Would he be open to marriage counseling with you at all?
2007-03-12 16:05:25 · answer #1 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband is a tool. You are immature and weak. Tell him to get the cat back or you're out. Stand up for yourself and don't be with someone that tries to control you. The other posters telling you to get rid of something of his is immature. If you want to make an impression, you get rid of YOURSELF and have him come crawling back after he realizes he needs to respect you. I'm not trying to sound mean or nasty, rather be honest and tell you straight up. Honestly though, people like your husband make me sick and you getting a tattoo out of spite is immature. It hurts your family because the money you spent on a tattoo could have been used for better things. How old are you?
2014-10-01 18:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by iNCiRCA24 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is something very hurtful I am sure; it sounds like the communication between you and he does not exist anymore. If you honestly feel it is not this then I think that maybe he does not respect you or your wants in life. You deserve someone that does respect you in everyway! He may see the kitty issue as a small deal but it is the principal of the issue with his actions not the deed itself..he needs to understand that. Good Luck!
2007-03-12 22:51:28 · answer #3 · answered by Maybe I am a smartass..so what 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that you are married to a man who feels he is the only one that matters in the relationship. He has control issues, and they will get worse.
If you don't have any children yet, I suggest that you get out while the getting is good.
You should also take note of your act of defiance about the tatoo. That is a childish act, and suggests that you might have a tendency to do things just because it is what you want, and not what is in the best interest of the family as a whole. Be careful with that emotion, it could be trouble in the future.
2007-03-12 23:03:59 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Giving away the cats is just a symptom of some real issues. I can understand not liking cats, I have an allergy. However, I would never think of giving any cat away if they belonged to my wife. I would talk to her first and tell her of my reasons for wanting them gone. I think you need to talk to you husband and get him to talk to you. You are heading for problems if you don't communicate and ingore each others feelings.
2007-03-12 22:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a lot more serious problems than just the loss of a cat that you liked......he's a "control freak". Good Luck in your marriage. What he did was cruel, and uncalled for!
2007-03-12 22:47:21 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you are still with him? He needs to learn to care or you need to learn to live with it if you are not leaving. Give away something of his. Or just throw away something of his. Make this a good point that he has crossed the line and demand your respect. If he does not listen seek your own place so that you can be happy with what you have or for him to leave where you can enjoy that space.
2007-03-12 22:55:20 · answer #7 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
That was really a nasty thing to do....what a jerk. The least he could have done was to talk with you about his hate for cats and the two of you could have come to a compromise ....
2007-03-12 22:47:25 · answer #8 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to talk to a marriage counselor. Get help to save the marriage or get out of the marriage as quick as you can.
There is no point in being unhappy in your marriage.
2007-03-12 22:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by SS90 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do you know the phrase, turn around is fair play???
or how about the one, what's good for the goose is good for the gander???
get rid of somehing he cares for and see how he likes it!!!
(don't get rid of a 500 dollar suit or his new bike)
some little thing, not expensive, but something he cares for.
2007-03-12 22:49:30 · answer #10 · answered by KRIS 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋