2 years and counting, in college live at home, everybody is like OMG you need to gte married and were like um, no were too young . wat is everyones problem?
2007-03-12 15:39:13 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
okay mr just date weve been dating for 8 years!!!!
2007-03-12 15:43:55 · update #1
i dont like you heather.. by the way.....
2007-03-12 15:45:22 · update #2
omfg i think i get the 50% divirce rate in this country.. you people have no concept of patience.. HAVE YOU EVER HEARD OF IT gd and im NOT old enough to be married and i am old enough to be engaged its really just like saying hey .. i really love this guy and he is THE ONE. uh there.. i dont want to know if i should be engaged i want to know if it being long will hurt our relationship READ DIRECTIONS RE RE
2007-03-12 15:50:09 · update #3
im paying my own way thru college too, no money because i am not on welfare like 50 % college enrolled poeple are
2007-03-12 15:51:22 · update #4
mazi .. i looked you up.. its soo sad..... so superficial...
2007-03-12 15:55:16 · update #5
no i cant speed it up tuition costs 20,000 a year babe, i love all you pampered people who act like life is SOOOOOOO easy. NEXT ANSWER preferable a married person
2007-03-12 15:57:12 · update #6
weddings cost money! and my daddy dont shell nothing out
2007-03-12 15:57:45 · update #7
maybe its a good test to see if i wont get bored with jake! he hast bored me yet....! um and if he did i would just smach himand be like.. WTF ENTERTAIN ME!
2007-03-14 04:38:46 · update #8
If you two do not feel ready to get married, keep on doing what you are doing. This is your life, and you and your fiance are the ones who know what is best for you both. It sounds like you both have your priorities in order. You are young, there is no rush. Tell those people who insist that you need to get married to take care of their own lives. I don't understand people like that. Are they all married and in a rush for you to join them? As long as you are a happy couple, I don't see the problem. Enjoy your engagement as long as you both care too. There is plenty of time to enjoy the actual wedding planning and eventual marriage. Good luck.
I do not think a long engagement is going to hurt your relationship. You two have already been together for 8 years. You pretty much have a good handle on each other. As long as you continue to communicate love and caring for each other, I think a long engagement should be fine. If at some point you both feel that it is an issue, tackle it. For some reason, I don't think you will have a problem doing just that. You can always speed it up if you feel the need to.
2007-03-12 15:51:15 · answer #1 · answered by kalea_kane 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
12 months. recently, i got here upon right here quote that i think of is hilarious: long engagements provide human beings the possibility of looking out one yet another's character before marriage, that's infrequently somewhat useful. --Oscar Wilde In all seriousness, although, many long engagements do help you rather get to appreciate extra relating to the character of your meant. now and back that's a good element (you substitute into thankfully married), and now and back that's a good element (you are not getting married). the two way, i'm partial to a longish engagement.
2016-10-18 05:56:41 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they might be getting the impression that you're unsure of the marriage, yet you keep holding on by staying engaged. they might be getting mixed messages. i know it might seem like you're backing out if you decide to stop being engaged, but if you really think your'e not ready, the best thing to do is just wait until you truley feel ready. Then you can get engaged, and not look back and say, we were engaged 5 years untill we finally got married. you might also feel rushed and pressured into getting married, so that you take even longer to do it. wait untill you feel ready, not when everyone else says you are
2007-03-12 15:45:22 · answer #3 · answered by kyliebear? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, being engaged is the precursor to marriage. Long engagements sometimes lead to complacency in the relationship and many long term engagees never end up tying the knot. If you are old enough to be engaged then you are old enough to be married. Saying you are too young to be married makes me wonder why you think you would be old enough to be engaged.
2007-03-12 15:46:29 · answer #4 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Was engaged 3 years. We saved up all the money for every part of the wedding, so when people paid for anything for us it inflated our bank account. Your building the foundation of a marriage during your engagement, it is your time line, not anyone's business.
2007-03-12 17:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by Hilary P 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it does afford one to get to know the other one really well and to figure out if the other person's quirks and habits will be tolerable over the course of time...if that's a negative consdquence well...Would you rather marry quickly, not know the person really well, find out something about them you would never be able to tolerate and wind up divorcing them?
2007-03-12 15:46:28 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You hit the nail on the head, it is everyone's problem not yours. Marriage is a life long committment and not to be entered into lightly. When you are both ready go ahead, until then just enjoy your life and forget what other people say.
2007-03-12 15:42:29 · answer #7 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
If you dont want to get married yet - then don't. End of story. I'm not sure why you are allowing what other people think to get to you? If you aren't ready, then you aren't ready. It's as simple as that.
2007-03-12 16:40:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Way to go sweetie!Thats using what the good LORD gave you!Wait until after you graduate and get a job and you can get a place of your own and dont have to live with relatives.Go into this thing PREPARED!
2007-03-12 15:43:26 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Forget what everyone else says. Get married IF and WHEN you feel the time is right. When it's right for YOU. Dont let anyone pressure you.
2007-03-12 15:43:16 · answer #10 · answered by s w 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋