I have a married friend adopted a baby boy 24 years ago.
Now the Boy is 24 years old. They do not have any other child.
The natural parents want to contact the boy,but my friend said that the time is not right to reveal.
2007-03-12 15:37:28 · 6 answers · asked by wlmveron 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Trying to Conceive
When is she going to tell him, when he is dying? I am adopted and I was 8 yrs old when my parents sat me down and told me the "real" story. They put it in terms that an 8 yr old can understand. Tell your friend that if their son hears it from someone else, he will be very upset and probably be angry at them for not telling him.
2007-03-13 04:48:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is a little insecure. The MAN ( at 24 that's what he is ) should have known a very long time ago, but whats done is done. Your friend should tell him ASAP---if the natural parents want to contact him then who's to say that at some point they won't without your friend's knowledge. I can't imagine how the 24 yr. old would feel then. I was adopted and have never known a time that I didn't know. I did find my birth mother and you know what...I still loved my parents just as much, yes adopted parents. Anyone can make a child but it takes real parents to raise one. Knowing my birth mother hasn't changed my feelings about the 2 wonderful people that CHOSE to have me. To make a long story short...your friend needs to decide who is going to tell him...them or the natural parents. Eventually the truth will come out and they need to be the ones to tell him if they want to keep their relationship with him. My heart goes out to all those involved. Good luck to everyone and I hope they make the right decision for the 24 yr., and not what is right for them.
2007-03-12 23:05:14 · answer #2 · answered by Forgotten Ones 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Uuuuhhhh, ya, umm - well I think that waiting until your child is 24 was just setting him up for a horrible heartbreak. It is such an EXTREMELY hard thing to have to do. But I think the right time to tell your adopted children is by the time he's 18, that's if you haven't already. I wouldn't wait much longer than that!! I have friends who have been adopted and they have all said they found out starting from age 13 and up till 18!! No one found out any later than that. In the teen years, a child will notice that he or she doesn't look like their family or may have a cousin that knows the truth and you run the risk of the cousin spilling the beans. Best to nip that in the bud and the sooner the better. If I were his parents, I'd be fessing up.
2007-03-12 22:44:40 · answer #3 · answered by momto3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They should of told him that a LONG time ago. I have two little cousins who was adopted and they are 5 years old now and they know all about it. I REALLY think that they should tell him and let him see his birth parents.
2007-03-12 22:55:21 · answer #4 · answered by angel_d4ever_05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I adopted a child, I would be honest from the time the child came to live with me about the fact he or she was adopted. I think it'd be easier to adjust if you never had to actually adjust...if that was just the way you knew about yourself and your origins was that you didn't come from this mommy's tummy, but from another woman who couldn't keep you, but your new mommy loves you just like her own child.
2007-03-12 22:41:59 · answer #5 · answered by grayhare 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lol then when will he be ready???
he has to know and shoulda since he was maybe 12
2007-03-12 22:55:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋