hey well ill tell u the story and you can tell me if you think im being unreasonable.
me and my bf have been together for 2 years and 3 months on out 3 month anniversary we were staying at his auntys house along with his brother .. his brother went out partying and come home drunk and whilst me and my bf were alseep he stuck his penis in my hand to try and get him self "off". naturaly i woke up and i asked him what the 'f' he thort he was doing and he told me i was tripping though i no damn well i wasnt , he also tried this with one of my close friend whilst they were dating as she wouldnt 'put out'. i also found a letter he had wrote stating he needed to capture mine and my friend 'pussys' on tape and that he had planned to rape us . my bf never did anything about it and no body else did either ... i still have not gotten over the effects of what happend and it makes me sick every time his name is mentioned ... is it wrong of me to ask my bf whome im now pregnant to , to stop ....
2007-03-12 15:33:25 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
speaking and seeing his brother because of how much he hurt me ... im really confused and am at the stage were i just wish i left befor i fell inlove .. what do i do :(
2007-03-12 15:34:27 · update #1
i have already said he aint havin nothin to do with our child there is no worries about that .... and we dont live near him but his family are for ever talkin about his brother around me and i just get so worked up they all know what he did and never said anything to him ... we also dont live near him but its hard when he comes for holidays
2007-03-12 15:53:54 · update #2
Honey i am really sorry to hear what you have been going through.
It would be horrible. I dont understand when the family knows what he has done and what he planned to do and they have'nt done anything to help you with the support you need to get through this or even helped the brother because it sounds like he needs BIG help and fast. What if there is someone else that he has done this to and actually went ahead and rapped them, he needs to be locked up!
Im very glad you are not letting near your child and you have every right and dont let anyone try and change your mind on this, what if you have a girl and when she's older he harms her.
Your Boyfriend should be behind you 110% and if he's not willing to help you deal with this and try to accept and sort something out then you need to leave and start fresh with this child. About asking him to stop talking to his brother that only something he can decided but if i was him i would forget i even had a brother.
As for the family i would'nt want anything to do with thim if there going to treat you like you did something wrong. Have you asked them when they talk about this perv around you to stop? Have you told them how uncomfortable it makes u feel? When he comes to visit make your self really busy with lots to do and try and get your mind off the fact he's around. And i would tell the family when hes going to be somewhere that your not and its final.
Have you still got the letter? Did anyone else see this? I would have gone to the police with this as you had writing proof of what he wanted to do! Maybe thay can issue a restraining order againts him.
I wish you all the best..
2007-03-12 16:30:33 · answer #1 · answered by channy_simon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry about this. I would suggest you go to a councilor with your B/F so that he can understand how you feel. If he isn't willing to go, I personally would leave, If his brother has said he is going to rape, and pulls stuff like this, I would be fearful for him to be near my child.
I would say the two of you need to move away from the brother if the relationship is going to work.
2007-03-12 22:49:34 · answer #2 · answered by tammer 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋