She is very abrupt and confrontational. She doesn't seem to be as hard core towards men. I'm not sure whether it is a 'needing to earn respect issue' or a 'she doesn't have respect for herself' issue. Either way, some advice from people who have worked with difficult women in power would be great. i admire how far she has come, but I don't want to emulate her actions and I believe I can be successful without losing my self respect or being so confrontational. Any advice on steering though this and still coming out a success?
2007-03-12 15:22:43 · 3 answers · asked by Webber 2 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
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2007-03-20 08:30:02 · answer #1 · answered by Ansre Man! 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in a similar situation, although reversed. My female boss hated men. That is not to say she'd come down really hard on any woman who she felt was slacking. She just went after anyone who she felt was lower in the hierarchy of the department.
Keep to your beliefs. Have you tried talking to her? Is there a friend or coworker who can be perhaps a go between? CAn you go to HR or her supervisor?
It's a problem women face. They sometimes can't appear to be powerful or in control without come across as confrontational and witchy, whereas in some situations men would be patted on the back for their ambition. This all, of course, depends on the situation and how each person would handle it.
If that doesn't work, just keep doing what you're doing. People have to see that she's got issues and will recognize your work for what it is.
I found that the best thing to do was not to respond to it, no matter HOW much you want to. Stay calm, and bite your tongue if you feel an angry or sarcastic reply. Keep your calm and remain polite and diplomatic.
However, if you find that she continues to the point where you find it unbearable, you might want to look into finding another job. No one should put up with a bully or a bad workplace.
2007-03-12 22:48:24 · answer #2 · answered by Bookworm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be threatened by you, being another woman. She obviously has an issue with women if she is nicer to men and not nice to other women on the job. In a case like this, go on do your job and do it well. Be cordial and accepting of her nature, like it doesn't bother you. Eventually over time either she'll warm up to you, or else her atttitude will be obvious to others toward you. Avoid confrontations as long as possible, prove yourself first. If she has been there longer, you have to play the game right.
2007-03-12 22:29:19 · answer #3 · answered by daff73 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋