hi i'm just a gay teen who dosent kno wat to do, i've been with this guy and at first we where friends, very close friends then we started fooling around and that lead to sex.
i had sex with this guy but he says he isnt gay, but i think it's bullshit. but is he lying to me cause he dosent want me am i really that bad
2007-03-12 15:21:15 · 16 answers · asked by Orcleus 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I'm not a guy, and thank god I'm no longer a teenager! However, I would say his denial has more to do with his self-view than your prowess in bed. You've come to terms with your sexuality, he obviously hasn't. He may be dealing with feelings of guilt, insecurity, or (sorry!) self-doubt. If he doesn't get a grip soon, move on. You don't need anyone in your life who makes you feel inferior.
2007-03-12 15:31:14 · answer #1 · answered by melzoom615 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay teens are golden. That means you can't possibly be bad in bed. OK? Likely he's gay or he wouldn't have had sex with you, even just fooling around. Ask him if he wants to fool around some more without worrying about whether he's gay or not, just because it feels good and you trust each other. Maybe he's more comfortable without the label and all that it implies.
2007-03-12 16:38:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a Bi-sexual lover who was actually a friend of my older sisters when I was a teen who couldn't come to terms with his being gay, it used to frustrate me too especially when he'd act so macho in front of my sister and her friends... I used to tease him by doing my ironing or twitching my nose at him like a witch whenever he was around cos I knew how to turn him on.
Don't get so distressed about it, there are plenty of guys out there that are open about being gay. It's all par for the course.
2007-03-12 17:49:17 · answer #3 · answered by Bling 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, he's in denial! Don't even waste your time trying to figure out his behavior and whether it has to do with you, it doesn't. He IS gay. Hello! I mean, I don't know any straight guys who have sex with other men...do you? No. Why? Cause their straight! So this is what ya need to do...RUN!! He has more issues than Cosmo and will only make you miserable. You don't want that. There are plenty of Gay men OUT there who are secure with who they are and not living a lie.
;)
2007-03-12 15:46:15 · answer #4 · answered by Cricket Monroe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had sex with a couple of my friends, and none of us said we were "gay." I always knew I was, though - not even "bi," but gay. But we all had girlfriends and just kept up the cover. It's almost impossible to be openly gay in HS, at least in most schools. Your friend is probably gay or bi but just can't deal with it right now because of social pressure.
2007-03-12 15:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by jonjon418 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OOOh a closet case you say? I should have like a Doctorate degree in this. I have faced this countless times. I don't really know how to help you really..all I can say that is if he is just using you for sex, you shouldn't give it to this person anymore. Just cut it off all together. Talk to him, but don't give in when he wants to have sex because he is just using you. As for him finally coming to terms, well, that will happen further down the road than your willing to travel. But hey, I could be wrong all cases are different. In my most recent closet issue was like...maybe two years? What's sad is that there's nothing you can say to them that will actually have them come to terms. I wish you the best of luck, please do yourself the favor and don't let him use you anymore, no one deserves that.
best wishes
2007-03-13 06:02:15 · answer #6 · answered by Andy 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No I think he is gay.He just cant admit it yet.Its a very hard thing to admit that to yourself.He probably deep down knows he is but he isnt ready to face it.It took me a long time to finally come out..So dont take it personally when he says he is str8.In time he too will join the "family"
2007-03-12 16:01:26 · answer #7 · answered by TimboCLV 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He might just curious and giving it a try. You don't say who did what, but if you were doing all the work, he probably was just getting his rocks off.
2007-03-12 17:42:56 · answer #8 · answered by astudsboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well maybe hes Bi. And if hes not gay or bi (even though he probably is) then maybe hes one of those type of straight guys who always think with their penises, and let it lead them to anything with two legs lol.
2007-03-12 15:27:00 · answer #9 · answered by BlondBoy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
gay
2007-03-13 01:36:55 · answer #10 · answered by john 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋