I met this guy in 6mos ago,but shortly after I met him I found out he was married/separated so he says...I also was on disability from work due to a workers comp injury and not recieving any money because my claim was not yet approved so this guy is helping me out financially so me and my daughter dont get evicted, would you continue this relationship or no?
2007-03-12 15:18:28 · 17 answers · asked by Sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
my daughter does not know that im dating for this man fyi
2007-03-12 15:55:11 · update #1
you know what ur single, u do what u gotta do to take care of your baby. its not prostituting (thats b.s.) you like the guy and he likes you, why not have a relationship. its up to him to help you out, its not like you have to have sex with him first. if he is married or separated things happen for a reason, maybe its his reason. maybe he's been with this woman out of guilt or duty and doesn't love her anymore, its not up to u or anyone else to decide his feelings or judge his situation ( unless he's using girls for sex) if his heart isn't in his marriage it will never return to it. maybe you were the one chosen for him and its too bad that this is how you had to meet, but if he is the one for you, you will be glad that you did meet no matter when and how. good luck!! it is kinda wrong of course you know that but you cant ignore feelings. there isnt one person in this world that hasnt looked at a married person and had thoughts about them. no one can honestly judge this situation unless they have been in it themselves and has turned it down, cuz they do not know for a true fact what they would do if they were faced with it. email me sometime if you wanna chat about this.
2007-03-12 15:42:44 · answer #1 · answered by tralw2000 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
This sounds like a realationship made in heaven. He's using you and your using him. What future do you really see with this man? Men never leave their wives and family for 'the other woman'. Yes, i dated a married man when I was 18 (now 32). I knew there was no future with this man. I made the mistake and fell in love with him, and you know who got hurt? Me! Not him, not his wife. She never knew anything, I never told her and neither did he. Leave this man alone regardless if he's "separated" or not. tell him that when he can show you the divorce papers, you'll reconsider. In the mean time, stand on your own 2 feet. You'll be a better person for it in the long run, and you'll have more self respect and you can raise your daughter by example. Think of her.
2007-03-12 16:09:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is it bad?...YES! You never live with a legally unavailable man and let him pay for anything unless you want to be known as his doormat or a prostitute I don't care what the excuse is. You're setting a bad example for your daughter too. If he were a friend and no romantic inclinations whatsoever,, or married and his wife was in agreement with helping you out that is one thing. This is not falling into any of those categories. She could potentially sue you for alienation of affection (depending on what state laws where you live say) and how would you and your daughter get out of that one? You'd be worse off financially not to mention probably looked down on by everyone and a young girl doesn't need that. If not for yourself think of your daughter!
2007-03-12 15:39:40 · answer #3 · answered by hoangnkarina 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
From reading your question I have to assume 2 things. First he didn't tell you he was married, you found it out somehow. Second, you assume he's separated because he told you. It doesn't sound like a very strong relationship and you really don't know too much about him at all. Have you been to his house of is he always coming to you? If this is the case there is a good chance he is still living with his wife and you are his little flutter on the side. If you don't want to be the hidden lover then you had better move on. If he's cheating on his wife he is likely to cheat on you too.
2007-03-12 15:29:07 · answer #4 · answered by smilingtalker_au 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I haven't dated a married man and I would never date a married man! It's wrong. Imagine how his wife will feel when she finds out because I can guarantee you that he is not separated and there is no impending divorce. Women are always complaining about what dogs men are, but then there are women like you. Now come on you need to respect yourself enough that you aren't gonna settle for someone else's leftovers.
You need to drop his @ss
2007-03-12 15:49:42 · answer #5 · answered by Linnygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No but Yes for your reason.
Divorce is gonna take months maybe it will be years. He is separated which mean his wife has lover either, waiting to move on. Let's see if he go to divorce lawyer's office and tying to file a divorce, it gonna cost him and his time. Or maybe he is waiting for his wife get a divorce paper work done.
Watch him carefully. It's fine he helping you financially, because you got to take care of daughter.
2007-03-12 15:58:23 · answer #6 · answered by foxxmay2001 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. It's morally bad. Plus what if his wife finds out? Some women really freak out and kill the mistress, which in this case would be you. I think of it this way, what if YOU were married and your husband was cheating on you with someone. Would you be a bit miffed?
You should break it off before you get a venereal disease or pregnant. Or both.
2007-03-12 15:30:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to move in with a relative until you get on your feet.When you get mixed up with a married or seperated man you are getting into a bad open can of worms girlie.He is going thru a lot of emotional flip flops, and if he is seperated it may not be all "her fault".Get her side of it.Back off and tell him when he has divorce papers give you a call.
2007-03-12 15:26:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
No. Because he's only separated. It doesn't mean he won't go back to his wife. Because you'll just get hurt anyway. Tell him after his divorce to give you a call. Then your saving your heart from getting broke. Just me I just got of the same kind of situation and he went back to his wife. It broke my heart.
2007-03-12 15:43:08 · answer #9 · answered by friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are surely looking for heartache and untold problems.
but, who am i to mock your love match.
right around the time you get pregnant or are depending on him, the table will turn and the wife will reapear and you will be left in the dust.
and who will suffer then? your unborn child or the child you have now...
this is a disaster waiting to happen.
and you will have absolutely no one to blame but yourself!!!
2007-03-12 15:56:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋