we have been in a rocky part of our relationship and know she is confussed i love her with every beat of my heart but cannot take this anymore i don't know what to do we have to children under the age of two all i want is my family but it does not feel complete what should i do?
2007-03-12 15:16:54 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
divorce her @ss, things will only get worse
2007-03-12 15:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by stinkypinky 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
She needs to get her priorities right. She might not be aware of the seriousness of the matter. Have you asked her why she had fallen for the best friend? What was she looking for in that kind of relationship? Is she really happy about the whole thing? And how are the children gong to cope? Have she considered them in her plans? Have she considered that the family may fall apart because of her selfish actions? Have a REALLY GOOD talk with her. Make her realise that you still love her and see how it is from there. Hope that helps.
2007-03-12 15:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only real advice I can give you is to invite Christ into your relationship, that is if your wife is willing. I don't want to be the one to tell you that your relationship is over, but sounds to me like the only one who can save your relationship is God. However, regardless if your marriage is salvagable or not, as a Christian, I invite you establish a relationship with God as soon as possible. It has been nearly 16 years since I divorced my first wife and I thought my world was coming to an end. However, since making the decision to invite Christ in my life everything has gotten better. I have recently married a woman who is truly my soul mate and things are going better than I could have ever imagined. I will keep you in my thoughts and prayers. This is the Caveman signing out. Peace and God bless.
2007-03-12 15:28:48 · answer #3 · answered by cave man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How can this guy be your best friend? Not really much you can do according to the law but me i would have to get even with this guy one way or another and i wouldn't wont anything El's to do with the wife , Its a hard thing to do been there twice second time was much easier now i don't care what woman do and date more then one Just hang in there its gets better over time but i would suggest getting a woman just to hold it sure does ease the pain
2007-03-12 15:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how can that guy be your best friend! how the hell can that ***** be your wife????!!!!!!! she's a ho, get out now, cuz if you stay then in the future when you have the balls to leave the skank, she'll harrass you all the time, and your new love will stress out cuz that ho will take your kindness and use it to keep you unhappy in your new relationship. she is not worth it and in the end you will realize you just wasted all that time!! you only live once and dont stay for the kids NO NO NO!!! or just cuz you love her, love is a two way street and she is only gonna get what she deserves in life, and you are not one of them. you are obviously too good for her, take your kids or leave them or share either way, go find the girl you were meant for, dont waste your love on her ANYMORE!!!!
2007-03-12 15:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by tralw2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have my sympathy, my boyfriend, who I live with, cheated on me. We worked through it but we still have problems. I have a lot of trust issues, and sometimes I just don't believe him, and he doesn't always include me so I feel left out. You have to first figure out if it is worth saving the marriage, does she want to? The fact it is with your so-called best friend is even worse. First of all, in my opinion he is no friend, you just don't do that to friends. Whatever you do, good luck and I wish you well, and hope someday you find the happiness you deserve.
2007-03-12 15:24:09 · answer #6 · answered by Virginia C 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See a counsellor, because every marriage deserves a chance.
Also, and this is horrible to say, but true, the mother is much more likly to get primary custody of the kids.
So for these reasons, please try to work something out.
Also, can you add more details? I'm interested in your friends take. Have they been intimate, does he even know? Is he interested in her?
2007-03-12 15:51:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ashes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kick her to the curb. No one should ever allow themselves to be an emotional punching bag for the sake of "love" Move on. Your children will not benefit from their parents staying together for the sake of their "well being". I have been in a similar situation, trust me. Move on with your life. But let her start the divorce proceedings (she will be responsible for the bill!)
2007-03-12 15:22:17 · answer #8 · answered by HRchick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As hard as it is...if she said she is in love with someone else (your best friend at that) then you need to pick up and move on. Why would you want to be with someone that loves someone else? If you stay you will always have that in the back of your mind. Move on. Good luck
2007-03-12 15:27:32 · answer #9 · answered by BE HAPPY! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she slept with him, leave her.
If she didn't, she might be just saying that to hurt you. Also consider that she's post partum and hormonal.
Two under two? Been there. That's tough in itself!
My instincts say she said that so you would dump her and be the bad guy. She wants out, she has to work on getting out.
You work on staying together. Say, "Yeah, right, and I'm in love with YOUR best friend! Come on... What's really bothering you?"
Good luck!
2007-03-12 15:23:29 · answer #10 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you haven't already, you need to talk to her and see if you two can work this out, if you're willing to give her a second chance. If she's not willing to make it work, there may not be much you can do. If you tell her you want a legal separation, it may make her realize what she would be giving up.
Good luck, and I feel for you and your kids.
2007-03-12 15:23:54 · answer #11 · answered by ♫ frosty ♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋