I like this girl, she's Bi, but she has a boyfriend. She likes older ppl, and she says she never comes up to me because I'm always around a large group of friends. She's pretty shy, but sometimes, I feel like I'm being ignored by her. Plus, I really wanna hang out w/ her, but everytime I ask her if she wants to go somewhere, she's always busy or has an excuse. I really want to get to know her better, and I kinda wanna show her what I'm like to see if she likes me back. She may "love" her BF, but I could still be a friend w/ benefits or a possibility, right? I know you can't make someone love you, but how can I get her to like me back or at least get to know me better? We only see each other in the hallways cause I'm older than her and I don't have any classes w/ her. She thinks I have a big house and all, and she thinks I'm popular, but really, I'm not. Is she just intimidated by me? What do I do??? I'm stuck at a dead end. Please help me out! *THANKS*
2007-03-12 15:15:00 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
And as for you guys saying I'm a "whore", no, I'm not bugging their relationship. First, I'm trying to become her friend, for the most part, and her and her BF are on and off all the time. I'm not sure if it'll last. So, I'm just wondering how I could make her more comfortable with me, and see if it could be a possibiltiy down the road, ya know? Whenever she's around, I always try to make it just me and her, one on one, so she isn't over whelmed by all of my other friends. Plus, she just seems shy and she hugs me a lot, and she leaves me curious.
2007-03-12 16:05:51 · update #1
It sounds like your "love" for her is strong but I agree with the first poster: Find yourself someone else.
2007-03-12 15:28:28 · answer #1 · answered by leavemebe_11 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It definitely sounds like she is intimidated. She has probably never had a relationship with a girl and is curious. I would ask her to come with you again, but reassure her that you are just wanting to be friends. Let her dictate where the relationship goes. She is shy, but the more you make her feel at ease the more she will open up. Good luck.
2007-03-19 23:12:40 · answer #2 · answered by Michael B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well..I think she may be intimidated..I think the fear of not knowing what to say to you and not feeling good enough maybe the reason she strays away...To break the ice, I would BUY two tickets to a public event like a concert or play (someting like this) AND THEN approach her(With The Tickets)...tell her you would love for her to join you....That way your not completely alone and away from school mates..You also get A balance of conversation and comfortable quite time.. by buying the ticket..she does have to worry about spending money(money that she may not have) Try to always place her comfortable.this is important.. Dont talk about all the things you have...Try not to ask her questions about herself that would place her uncomfortable.. Do all this and you may get your girl. (If she doesnt want to go out..Then invite a friend who is able to reimburse you for the ticket lol) Keep me posted : )
2007-03-12 22:47:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she is always making excuses to avoid seeing you, that is a sign that she's not interested in you. also if she is afraid or ashamed to approach you when you are in groups, that also sends a negative message.
could be she is happy with her bf and doesn't want a 3rd party, whether it by for love or just sex.
but don't give up, keep asking her to hang out and do friendship things and maybe you can eventually make a good impression on her and win her trust and respect. and who knows where things will go from there?
2007-03-12 23:11:41 · answer #4 · answered by Jeff 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she keeps avoiding you then you have to respect it,after thats the true meaning of love,willing to give way.If shes not into bi sexual kind of relationship then move on and look for a relationship that is really meant for you,a kind of relationship that you would truely enjoy
2007-03-17 15:19:27 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dang it, women should come with instructions...
each case is individual, and uncertain, especially with bi girls. I've found they usually stick close to their guys, but might like to have a little fun on the side.
if she keeps coming up with repeated busies or excuses, quietly take the hint and let someone else catch your eye. sorry.
2007-03-12 22:39:13 · answer #6 · answered by Auntie M. 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brittany how old are you? are you bi-curious?there are plenty of ppl in this world don't get hung up on one individual. look around you there are ppl you know that are probably interested in you but are shy to approach you. keep your eyes open for the little hints. don't sweat her. if she is interested she'll come around. cj
2007-03-20 21:36:47 · answer #7 · answered by Chris C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she "loves" her boyfriend, then all you really can do is be her friend and see if she remains with him. You can try to get her AOL or Yahoo Instant Messenger screen name or myspace name. Ask her to go out on double dates with you?
2007-03-12 22:42:14 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she's avoiding you because she doesn't want you to interfer with her relationship.
2007-03-13 00:09:39 · answer #9 · answered by pjonkml 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋