What would you do if you found this guy thats perfect for you your 13 and he is 17 but your in love and want to get married when legal of age. But your parents disapprove?This guy is sweet and very kind. Never pressured me on anything. I dont look 13 though. Much older...my body.
2007-03-12 15:09:59 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Well I think your parents are maybe jumping the gun a little bit ,,,, Worrying to early I mean ,,,, It's going to be five years before you are legally able to get married ,,,, I'm sure that in that five years you are going to fall into and out of love many times ,,,, A young person like you would be smart if you didn't' tie yourself down to just one person so early though ,,,, You should get as wide a range of acquaintances as you can while you are still young ,,,, Find out who and what''s out there ,,,, Doing this would enable you to make a wiser decision on just who you want to settle down with when you are ready for a more involved relationship later on ,,,, And who knows ,,,, Tying yourself down too early just might cause you to miss meeting that Mr Right ,,,, Another thing is that you are too young to realize that guys his age and older ,,,, even guys in their 30's and older let their glands do their thinking for them ,,,, They still don't know what they want yet especially if they are still in their teens ,,,, So here we have a 17 year old guy practically robbing the cradle so to speak ,,,, You have to ask yourself why is he choosing some one so much younger than himself ,,,, I mean can't he interact or relate to girls his own age or something ,,,, There could be something there that you don't know about or can't recognize due to your imaturity and lack of experience ,,,, And I don't mean lack of experience just with him ,,,, I mean total lack of experience in general ,,,, It takes time to gain experience ,,,, Allot more time than you've been able to have so far ,,,, It appears this guy is pushing the envelope so to speak and not allowing you the time it takes to gain maturity and experience ,,,, And Ok ,,,, you might not look like you are 13 but the fact remains that you ARE 13 ,,,, Having a mature looking body at that age does not make your mind any more mature and believe me it's your body he's looking at not your maturity or mind ,,,, Maturity comes with age and experience ,,,, Don't get me wrong in this though ,,,, I don't see anything wrong with going out with this guy or anything like that but keep it at just that ,,,, Don't allow him to get sexual with you or anymore if he has already ,,,, Guys that age have only one thing on their mind ,,,, And they don't care what they have to say or do to get what they want ,,,, and if you have been intimate with him or have played touchy touchy games with him then just stop doing it all of a sudden and see how long he sticks around ,,,, If he does love you then he should show every respect for you and if he respected you he wouldnt touch you inappropriately ever ,,,,, You'll eventually learn that guys are good actors too ,,,, Up to and including tears so don't let him fool you ,,,, Like I said guys his age don't care and will not hesitate saying or doing what they have to in order to get what they want ,,,, Then when they find some one else they like more or get tired of you then they are gone and you are left with nothing but bruised emotions and a deflated ego and a used body ,,,, You'd better do some practical thinking about this situation and look at it from all angles and see things for what they really are and not what you want them to be ,,,, You need to look at things from a practical point of view ,,,, and if you are really as mature as you think you are then you won't have a problem being honest with yourself during this thought process ,,,, Believe me mistakes and regrets are really hard to live with and you could wind up regretting mistakes you make now for the rest of your life ,,,, If it's hard for you to see that then you have a maturity problem ,,,, Just use your head and make the right decisions and don't be so quick to shut your parents out either ,,,, They are certainly not going to tell you something that's going to hurt you or is wrong for you and what ever you do ,,,, Don't be so imature and childish to do anything behind their backs ,,,, You just haven't had enough time in your life to gain the wisdom they have ,,,, If you really are as mature as you think you are then you will at least hear them out and give what they tell you equal thought and consideration ,,,, Good luck ,,,,, Yoda told you this ,,,,
2007-03-12 17:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, it isn't about looking mature, it's about being mature. The fact that you put that detail down takes you down on the maturity scale. Secondly, yeah you can fall in love at this age, love is unpredictable, but it is also VERY unlikely that you will stay with this guy till next year, let alone till you're 18...not because of your age difference but because of YOUR young age. It's hard enough for couples who get married at 18 to come to terms with the fact that they have no more time left to experiment, it will be unbelievably hard for you to stay with the same guy from the time you're 13 and not wanting to stray or try something new. And if you force yourself in a serious relationship now, you will end up hurting him sooner or later. So this time, listen to your parents, they know what they're doing on this one. Good luck =]
2007-03-12 15:22:19 · answer #2 · answered by May 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats not a big age gap i mean you have to respect your parents but you also have to follow your heart, im not telling you to go run away withj him or something im telling you that maybe your on the verge of falling in love but not there yet i mean i might be wrong but dont you think that its a little early to be worrying about falling in love maybe somewhere along the line you might find someone else that might actually be your true love but you might never know if you go picking true love right now but, good luck with whatever you diside to do!
2007-03-12 15:23:46 · answer #3 · answered by whitney p 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Too young. Tell you what, im 19 years old and I will put myself in a fathers position. If you where to tell me that you liked a 17 year old, I would forbid you from seeing him. He is an adolescent and is more than likely a sexually heightened individual. Therefore I would think that the guy in question would touch my "little girl". Entirely unacceptable. I have to side with your parents on this one. You may think your old enough. Though your not. Being young with an older body is not a good thing. You will be subject to predators and be a sexual target.
2007-03-12 15:17:13 · answer #4 · answered by Kevin K 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Congradulations on finding love!! You should totally wait until you are at least 18years old to get married... If you plan on being married to each other forever, what's the rush? If it is meant to be, in due time your family will come around. Hope everything works out for you, good luck.
2007-03-12 15:20:29 · answer #5 · answered by Christy RN 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'm sure u feel in ur heart what u think u do but remember this in one more year he'll be 18 which makes it against the law for him to be with u u might want to think of that especially since ur parents dont approve they could get him in lots of trouble maybe its time to cool it and find someone more ur on age
2007-03-12 15:14:10 · answer #6 · answered by Robert C 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are not ready for marriage is no about age but bad timing
usually you think you know what you want but is not like that
so wait a Little longer and then you'll see
2007-03-12 15:15:04 · answer #7 · answered by Nelson L 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Baby by the time you are in your twenty's you'll fall in and out of love many many times. I can't believe you are thinking about marriage already.
2007-03-12 15:16:05 · answer #8 · answered by European in IN 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The age gap isn't bad, but you are to young to be dating.
2007-03-12 15:13:50 · answer #9 · answered by angel_wings 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
too fr age gap! if he loves you he will leave you alone and come back when ur 18
2007-03-12 15:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋