My wife is going crazy!,could anyone help?

Question

Can you tell me if my wife is having some kinda of mental illness and how do i help her?

I shifted in a new house and did up a fanciful renovation.

Since than,She spends most of the time cleaning.
She got so obsessed that she can even spot the tiniest spot on the floor.

Recently, she found tiny mites all around the Kitchen cabinet and Wardrode and she freaks out!!!
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I find it is normal so long that the mites does not destroy the wood."They are Not Termites"

She will spends hours and hours after even midnight killing all the mites she can find.
Cleaning the wardrode and cupboard over and over again.

Recently, i sensed that she cry easily and feel very depressed.
Cant eat well neither could she get any proper sleep.

Have any one gone through this before, i sense that my wife gona break down any time.

The mites are about the size of a full stop and I thought they may be dust mites but all info says dust mites are not visible without magnification.

Can anyone tell me the name of this kinda of mites. I think it is not dust mites as they are not suppose to be visible through naked eyes

Answer 1

She's got obsessive/compulsive disorder. See a shrink, and get her some meds.

Answer 2

While a lot of people are diagnosing your wife, I agree with one of our answerers that we are not professionals and can only empathize with your situation. I think we would need a bit more information to help you. Her stress can be caused from a lot of different things had you mentioned. Have you had children running around the house driving her to this point etc..I know from experience that I personally take pride in my home and it's 4 years new and I would probably not want to go to bed at night either if I felt there were mites crawling around. I worked for a mental health agency for over 5 years and worked very closely with the access to services clinical supervisor and it takes an evaluation to determine a diagnosis. From what it sounds like she may have some symptoms of some type of a depressive or compulsive disorder but you should take her out to dinner and try to talk to her and see what's on her mind and ask her if she herself thinks that maybe she would like to go and have an evaluation to see if there could be a problem or if it's all situational. I wish you the best of luck. Anyone with any type of mental disorders needs tender loving care. As much as anyone with any type of decease or disorder. Just give her lots of hugs and be there to talk to her anytime you can.

Answer 3

Well, none of us are trained professionals and even if we were offering a diagnosis online like this would be silly, but I know a bit about mental health. As a lay person, I could say her behaviour sounds a bit obsessive compulsive, a manic phase of bipolar disorder or just an unhealthy reaction to too much stress. What you do need to do is talk to your wife. Ask her what's up. Show her that you love her and you're worried about her recent behaviour and suggest that she speak to someone whether that be a doctor or experienced therapist and psychologist. Good luck!

Answer 4

I kind of agree with the first answer but meds. aren't necessarily the right answer. Only a Dr. can say that for sure. She needs some counseling to get to the root of the problem, if it's depression, meds. will help, but they do nothing for fixing most problems other than depression. She might not want to go see someone, but you really need to get her in especially if this cleaning thing is a new habit for her and she could just be a clean freak and is feeling tired and not hungry from working so much.
Good Luck.

Answer 5

Yes, your wife needs help. Your help. Forgive me, but I looked at your earlier questions and posts for more info. When someone is having mental health issues, they almost cannot help themselves. You must be their advocate. Get them help. Your wife is probably having some sort of issue with feeling out of control. This is probably stemming from the communication problems you previously mentioned and probably some other issues that I would not be aware of. It does seem that you are on this site an awlful lot and spend a lot of time dreaming up big business ideas. Your wife is a gift, cherish her. She was given to you to complete you. She is your provision from God (which ever one you finally decided to believe in). You two are a team. Envision yourself back to back with this women facing out toward the world. Fight your battles together. Put yourself in her shoes, try to think like she does and to understand how she might be feeling. It truly is in your very best interest to have a happy wife and it is the marker of a real man--one who accepts his responsibilities, faces his challenges, loves his family, and becomes a man who others respect. I have a feeling that you are a big part of your wife's problems--I'm sorry there's no way to say that kindly. Look to yourself to make changes and she will respond. For now, share her burden. She is becoming OCD about the housework to find a sense of order and control. Be dependable, reliable, supportative, loving, generous and she will eventually be ok.

Answer 6

okay here goes....my family and I just moved into a new house 2 months ago I am a very clean person but having a husband who works 24/7 a 5 year old and a 6 month old, my house tends to get messy at times.....Since we moved into this new house, I clean all the time, I went from having carpet to having full tile throughout my house, Im constantly sweeping and mopping, I have granite countertops rather than that cheap stuff that was in our old place, so if I see a spot, I wipe the whole countertop... I dont have obsessive compulsive disorder, and I dont have hyper thyroidism or bi polar...It's a new place so she wants to keep it looking nice....Why dont you ask her to come to bed with you maybe she would like some good ol fashioned lovin.

Answer 7

The problem is not the mites. Your wife need some medical attention.

Answer 8

Sounds like she has an obsession with cleanliness, yet I dont think I'd want mites that I could see multiplying in my house either.It also sounds like she really loves her new house and is trying to make it perfect and keep it perfect and when she doesnt in her mind she takes it personal.Talk to her and ask her whats bothering her and bring up the things you mentioned.If you have to set up an appointment with a family counselor.

Answer 9

Wow, I think you are right. Think about it now you probably know what it is. I could try guessing but that would be a waste. Just straight out ask her. Something that works for me with my wife is that I say, "look i know something is bothering you, and I know you think I should have figured it out by now, but all men are just stupid, and until you tell me I won't be able to help you. So out with it, I love you and will always stand by your side no matter what." That's saved my *** from my wife's eventual emotional breakdown a million times. Women do think we can read their minds you know.

Answer 10

Ask your wife what is it that is upsetting her so much? Tell her that you will help her clean if that is whats wrong, be a team and you will always be a team. Maybe she is depressed because she doesn't feel important. Ask her if she would like to do some volunteer work. Assist, children, older people, rock babies at a hospital or whatever, this will help her feel good about herself. Encourage her and she will be glad she did and have more to talk to you about. Take care Heater

Answer 11

Sounds like Obsessive Cumpulsive Disorder, sit down adn chat with her and let her express how she is feeling, she may need medication as well. You need a professional to sus the situation out though.