Just curious how it makes you feel when your husband looks at porn magazines or videos, or looking at it on-line.
2007-03-12 14:51:08 · 34 answers · asked by Bryan M 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No offense, but I believe that those of you ladies who said that it doesn't bother you that your husbnd looks at porn, I believe your hiding how you really feel, or your flat out lying. Because when a man looks at porn, he is making a decision, maybe not a concious one, but he is making a decision that your not enough for him. That he needs that filth, to get him aroused. Personally being someone who suffered an addiction to porn and sex, and has over come it, looking back, I see the pain and hurt that I caused my wife, by my looking at that garbage, because I made her feel like she wasn't important to me. That she wasn't worth my attention, that I wanted her to be like those women in the videos. Which I know she couldn't be. That's the damage that porn can do.
You may not agree with me, but wait, because it can. I believe that you reap what you sow, and if your husbands are making choices, do you know if he's thinking about you, or the women in those pictures or videos?
2007-03-12 16:41:19 · update #1
I wouldn't tolerate it for a minute. I've seen it destroy marriages. Men get distorted notions about sex watching bimbos perform for money, and expect their wives to perform similarly. What a waste of time. I see it as perversion of something intended to be very personal and beautiful and fun, between two individuals in the privacy of their own bedroom, complete with fresh sheets, scented candles, soft music, and tender words of love. There's nothing like the real thing!
2007-03-12 15:19:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
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2016-07-19 02:47:53 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I don't like it at all! It makes me feel like I am not good enough or maybe that he's looking for something that I'm not. Not that I'm pretty pretty princess by any means, but I think I am cute and have a nice body. When I think about him watching or looking at porn, it brings my self esteem down a notch. If he asked me to watch it with him, then that would make me feel a bit better and most likely bring us closer...or atleast for that moment anyways.
2007-03-12 14:56:26 · answer #3 · answered by Punkie Brewster 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't care. I think porn is sort of ridiculous and it makes me laugh a lot more than it turns me on, but I'm not the one watching it. I realise that masturbation is part of a healthy sex life and if he feels that porn does something for him, good for him as long as he doesn't turn into that proverbial porn addict and I'm still getting some, who cares? I think porn is the lazy person's fantasy.
2007-03-12 14:57:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 2⤋
I'm actually an unmarried male student, but I feel like giving an opinion anyways. Personally... I feel like if I watch porn... then it's kind of an insult to the girl I'm with, y'know? It's like... she's not good enough or something. I don't think I'd like if SHE was watching porn. I don't know.. it just feels like sex should be something that isn't taken for granted so much. On the other hand- who gives a crap. It's just sex. Literally. It's JUST sex. I dunno. Thanks for reading.
2007-03-12 14:55:35 · answer #5 · answered by chrisser665 3 · 3⤊ 1⤋
FIRST OF ALL WE HAVE A WONDERFUL MARRIAGE. WE TRUST EACH OTHER 100%. I DON'T ACTUALLY THINK HE WATCHES PORN, I MEAN YEARS AGO WE WATCHED A FEW MOVIES TOGETHER, BUT WE ARE OLDER NOW AND IT'S NOT ANY BIG DEAL.BUT I SEE HIM LOOKING ON LINE AT DIRTY PICTURES, AND HE TALKS ABOUT WOMAN AT WORK..LOL IT'S OK THOUGH. I WOULD RATHER HIM BE HONEST WITH ME WHICH HE IS. I KNOW HE'S NOT A CHEATER, HE IS TOTALLY AGAINST THAT. BUT HE DOES LOOK.. IT'S ALL GOOD. IT'S OK TO LOOK REMEMBER THAT, BUT GOING ANY FURTHER THEN THAT, I'D SAY THERE'S A PROBLEM.. KATHY
2007-03-12 15:20:05 · answer #6 · answered by kathy p 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Fortunately for me, I am not married. But, I have been and was in several relationships where he would secretly watch porn, and several that did it right out in the open. One wore my lingerie himself, but wasn't into porn that I was aware of. If I was with a guy who did watch porn I would think him intellectually, emotionally, and humanly beneath me on several levels. I wouldn't be with him for long.
Edit: Let me be clear. The porn wouldn't make me feel less a woman or that something was wrong with me. On the contrary, I would think something wrong with him and that he had issues that I really don't wish to deal with at this stage in my life. I can't respect a person who is into exploitation of any kind, especially sexual.
2007-03-12 14:55:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 3⤋
If we are together, I don't have a problem with it, but if it gets excessive, like a million porn magazines, and dvds everywhere and always looking at porn sites, it will bother me a bit..
2007-03-12 14:54:53 · answer #8 · answered by Sunshine 2 · 2⤊ 2⤋
I would make me feel bad because it's ashamed how he has to look at magazines and watch them on the computer. That means I'm not pleasuring him the way he needs to be pleasured. That night I'll give it to him so good he'll throw away all the magazines DVDs plug out the Internet because he knows that I can do it better
2007-03-12 14:56:37 · answer #9 · answered by Shaweezy baby 1 · 3⤊ 3⤋
I don't believe that it bothers my wife. Then again, she watches it too. We've watched it together sometimes. As a man, it does NOT bother me that she watches it. I'm quite secure in my masculinity. She's secure in her femininity. I'm her husband and she's my wife. I prefer my wife to porn by leaps and bounds, though. Porn can't love you back.
2007-03-13 10:38:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋