My wife asked me if i would have a 3some?

Question

ok so my wife asked me if i want to have a 3some with me and her and have some other man.

and i dont know what to think. on one hand she would like it. but i dont know how i would feel about it.

is it ok to have a 3some at all? do other ppl do thing like this? i really dont know what to think about

on one hand i think it might be ok. i would be trying some thing new. but i dont know how i would fell after.

Answer 1

It means you got a problem, I don't know what to tell ya but I'd be pissed and thinking my wife must be a slut. Sorry. You would feel like **** afterwards and you would lose all trust in your wife basically would probably ruin your marriage.

Answer 2

Why couldn't it have been another woman? No, don't open up doors for her. If you say yes to this she will ask to do another thing and another thing. Pretty soon you might have a bunch of guys over and she will want to do all of them. Since you will have okayed another man to ---- your wife other guys will think it's ok fior them to do it too. The "other guy" might even spread words around that she's into this stuff and you could end up entertaining these men to your wife. Right now, you know you will feel something afterwards so think about it. You will. If I were you, I would have sent her out the door a long time ago. What if the other guy has a bigger you know what and then after wards you find out you will never please her again. She will take you for a fool.

Answer 3

If I were you.....NO NO NO NO NO. This is all about faithfulness. I dotn know about you, but I would have second thoughts about the WHOLE relationship if my wife were to ask me this. I do have one solution though. One reason that a woman might ask this, is because shes bored. I mean no disrespect to you at all, trust me. But swtich it up a little bit. Do something crazy. Be extravagant, be romantic, be exotic to a point. Find out what pleases her, find out exactly what she wants. Here is a thought to ponder. Your wife, of whom you are dedicated to, sleeping with another man. How would you feel if she had and affair with another man? This is more than likely exactly how you will feel if you did have a 3-some. To answer your question, I think the 3-somes would probably be something for in pornography, not in real situations where there is a marriage at stake. If I were you, no, I wouldnt do a 3-some EVER.

Answer 4

It is up to you. You sound like you might want to try it. It may be fun and open you up to a bunch of new possibilities. You also could hate it. There is always the possibility of akwardness afterwards, there is no way to avoid that.
You just want to make sure that she isn't cheating on you on the side- I mean having sex with this other guy before you would have the 3some.
Threesome are a lot more common than you would think.

Answer 5

Your wife (and I use that word loosely) is disgusting. Yes people do this, but then again sick twisted people have sex with animals too. Why doesn't your wife do that too? Why doesn't she have an orgy behind your back? Why doesn't she have sex with the 14 yr. old down the street? I could go on, but I hope you get what I am saying. I guess she really didn't understand the vow she made to remain faithful to you, her husband? If you have any sense of decency, you should tell her to stop thinking like a slutty whore and start acting like a decent wife who, by the way, would never even have thoughts like this. I hope you didn't pick this sorry excuse for a wife to be the Mother of your children.

Answer 6

Is it ok to have a threesome? Sure, it's ok. It can be fun. Sometimes it can even add to your relationship. It can also be devastating if you aren't upfront and honest about what you expect and what your limits are. If you want to do it and are comfortable with sharing yourself and your wife with another person. But it doesn't sound like you're sure about this.

Rather than jump to conclusions about your wife's motivations, ask her why this fantasy turns her on. Sometimes it's just the articulation of a fantasy that is sexually exciting. Perhaps she is craving a more adventurous sex life with you, or she wants you to assume a more flexible role. Maybe the fact that you're even considering is provocative.

If you decide to go ahead with it, make rules--or at least have an understanding of limits.

Good luck.

Answer 7

You are correct. This is new to try and it will feel good.
But to answer your question on how it feels after is difficult. It depends on how jealous you might feel when the other man is having sex with your wife.
Are you a bisexual? Do you want to have sex with that man also? if that is the case then how will your wife feel when she sees you having sex with that man.
You both need to sit and talk about this if both of you are interested in doing this.
My suggestion is talk about this. Try it once. if you do not like it STOP

Answer 8

You could be entering dangerous waters. Whenever you bring a third person in sexually to an established relationship there is a risk that someone could develop feelings for and fall in love with someone who is not their partner.

Answer 9

It sounds like you don't like this. So say so.

If she wants to **** with another man, ask if you can bring in another woman for yourself, and make it a foursome (actually, two adulterous twosomes). See how she likes that.

'Cause it looks to me as if she wants to cheat on you, but by keeping you involved she doesn't have to feel guilty about doing so. This looks BAD for your marriage.

Answer 10

Dude......somehere in that scenario it's gonna get ugly for you. She either will want you to do some weird bi stuff and lick the other guy's beanbag or stick something where it shouldn't go....or imagine if the dude is hung like me ...for instance ...and makes your package look like a pencil eraser. DON'T DO IT....