What do you say to your husband when he points out that you have broken a promise twice. I feel like such a horrible person. all i want to do is make him happy. the problem is i break the promises with him when i am in a situation (usually with my family) where i want to please both people. it has happened a couple times now. what do i say??
2007-03-12 14:29:35 · 13 answers · asked by power_puph 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Stop breaking your promises. You two need to sit down and discuss this. Get to the bottom of the issues and see what you can do to address it. I don't know what your exact situation is, but if a subject is raised that is going to start a conflict, don't participate. For instance, if they comment about how he doesn't work enough, and you know this is a sensitive situation, and the two of you have discussed it, simply tell your family that you do not wish to talk about it. Then change the subject. If they insist, then it would seem as if they want to create conflict. Remember, if you make promises that you know you aren't going to keep, then you are lying. That's the fastest way to unravel a marriage. I understand that family may put a lot of pressure on you to agree with them or support their point of view. However, you have to stand by your guy or not take a stance at all. You will never, no matter how hard you try, please everyone.
Good luck.
2007-03-12 14:38:33 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You stop making promises and start compromising. I'm not sure of the situation, but I used to promise that I would be home in less than an hour and 3 hours later I would finally come home cause my mom had me there chit chatting. Tell him you are sorry and that you will no longer be making promises. It's not fair to have to chose between families. They are both your family and you love them all. Start by making yourself happy and putting your foot down when needed.
2007-03-12 21:35:58 · answer #2 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kelly, pleasing your family over you husband is wrong...that is why you are not feeling happy about it.
What you need to do is honour your promise to your husband first by telling him anytime a situation occurs when you have to break the promise you make to him and have him decide what steps you should take to satisfy your family wishes.
Because the fundamental issue is if your family is more important to you than your marriage is? Priorities???
2007-03-12 21:40:18 · answer #3 · answered by Dazanix 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Baby, you are going to wear yourself out with stress trying to please everyone. You just can't! If you promised to do something with your husband then do it! Tell your family that you will do something with them another time but you and your husband have plans. Remember you made vows to him but you still love your family and they will be there for you if they love you. Don't drive yourself crazy or neglect your man.
2007-03-12 21:36:04 · answer #4 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't make anymore promises to him, especially if he can't understand that you didn't do it intentionally and that your family is as important to you as he is to you. Ask him how he would feel if you put him in that spot with his family and tehn shoved a piddly promise in his face? I bet you he wouldn't like it.
2007-03-12 21:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by MsTrust 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
don't make promises you can't keep; those are pie crust promises, easy to make easy to break.....there is nothing you can do but say you are sorry.
2007-03-12 21:34:18 · answer #6 · answered by abc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your husband is your first priority,not your family. your promises to him should always be kept, unless you want a divorce.
2007-03-12 21:37:10 · answer #7 · answered by wayouthere 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
stop breaking ur promises
2007-03-12 21:33:57 · answer #8 · answered by no name! 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should have priority over everyone in your life. Stop breaking them and follow through...
2007-03-12 21:35:30 · answer #9 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just explain why you did it and maybe he will understand your position?
2007-03-12 21:35:04 · answer #10 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋