Uh. I'm only 13, turing 14 soon and I have a boyfriend. We've been together for about five months and his parents just found out recently. What should I do? (btw, my parents are the typical overprotective parents, who want me to get a boyfriend AFTER college.)
2007-03-12 14:25:27 · 19 answers · asked by xhopeful_wishes 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
13 is not an age for commitment to anything, Split up for the time being... And about the parent part...if you are gonna split up and then be together well say when you are 18-20 dint tell... if not better you than your neighbor...
2007-03-12 14:37:54 · answer #1 · answered by Database 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That depends entirely on you. You know how your parents feel about dating.
I would ask myself,"Why do I really want a boyfriend?" After you answer this question it should guide you to where you need to go.
I loved my parents and was always honest with them. If your parents don't ask, what is the problem? You can have a friend who is a boy without having a boyfriend whom you are intimate with.
Remember, you are only 13. I know girls your age want to hurry up and mature, but just think of what may happen if your boyfriend wants to have unprotected sex. Then what? Are you prepared to be a mother at 13? This may be extreme but it could happen.
If I were you, I would enjoy life first. You will always find boys who want to go out with you when you are older.
I hope this helps.
2007-03-12 21:33:31 · answer #2 · answered by Matthew D 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, actually u are too young to have a boyfriend, but i suggest u should tell ur parents about it, later they will find out anyway. it is kinda annoying to have a protective parents, but soon u will understand why they are behaving like that, and soon u will grateful for that. every parents wants the best for their children, and sometimes parents also have to learn how to understand their children feeling. what about ur boyfriend's parents react about ur relationship with their son? if they think u should be a bestfriend first, i think thats the best answer for both of u. nothing wrong for being a bestfriend, u still special to each other and it is more enjoying and fun, no burden to continue ur relationship more. as time goes by, u will meet more people, dont too soon decided which is the best for u, juz having fun in a bestfriend relationship. enjoy ur freedom darling, no need too rush. i wish u the best.
2007-03-12 21:50:16 · answer #3 · answered by EJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I understand that your parents are overprotective, maybe a little so (boyfriends after college? come on). However, it is a good idea to be honest with them. First, define your relationship. You're only 13 or 14, so I guess that your interaction is usually at school or after school, with friends around. Explain that he is a boy that you like to hang out with and would like to go to school dances with. You aren't planning on getting too physical or getting married. If they freak out, don't react. Don't decide you are going to be together forever no matter what. Just lay off. Go out with friends and have fun. You're too young to have a super serious relationship. Whatever you do, make sure that you don't grow too attached, date lots of people in college, and don't get pregnant or married right out of high school.
Good luck!
2007-03-12 21:31:55 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can talk 2 them and just hope that they understand... tell them that you want and need your freedom, i'm sure that had a bf or gf or were interested in some 1 EITHER WAY THEY WILL PROBABLY FIND OUT!! bcuz your boyfriend's mom or dad might eventually talk to your parents or your parents will see you with him or something unexpected... JUST ASK YOURSELF WHAT U SHOULD DO THE AWNSER WILL BECOME clear!!
2007-03-12 21:43:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would have told them when you started going out. my mom is updated on everything i do. she knows all my boyfriends and all my crushes and everything. and yeah she is VERY over protected. it's not even funny. but she lets stuff slide. i would tell your mom soon because the sooner the better. if she finds out by her self then you will be in a lot of trouble. then what you would be if you are honest and truthful about it. and never keep stuff from her again.
2007-03-12 21:42:53 · answer #6 · answered by Sarah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could listen to your parents or lose their trust. It's all up to you. I'm guessing his parents might want to meet you and then your parents. Pray that doesn't happen. Good luck.
2007-03-12 21:31:12 · answer #7 · answered by Sagira Tadashi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have him take you to the movies one night.....you tell your parents very casually like youve only been dating recently.
2007-03-12 21:29:41 · answer #8 · answered by ♪SwitchfootFan♪ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
y at 13 do u even have a b/f. u have no idea what a relationship is about and what it takes to maintain one. u are waaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaayyyyyyyyyyyyyy to young to even be thinkn of that. thats y there r so many unwed teenage. thinkn its cool to have a b/f before u ready.
2007-03-12 21:31:28 · answer #9 · answered by Thyk L 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i wouldnt tell them if i were u but it might actually be a good idea i have a bf and i havent told my parents maybe 4 different reasons then u but still...i wouldnt tell them
2007-03-12 21:31:02 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋