He always has this thing for shutting down on me when I try to talk to him about things. Refer to my previous question for this one if you want. I asked him if he could only be more positive about how I talk to him and not think of me as somebody who doesnt deserve him or him being more superior than me. I don't feel like he is being a husband to me, when we get into a fight or arguement he would put me as somebody who should be blame at things. He yells at me, and he always makes it a point that he is always right...I feel like I'm loosing my worth and sad to say I wanna give up on him. I try to be there but I feel like I'm not even appreciated....I'm saving up coz I'm packing up the next time I'll get another blow from him. I find him to be very insensitive and it's not that I don't appreciate him but I do, but its like im screaming to the top of my lungs and he doesnt even notice it.
2007-03-12 14:20:23 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Afraid you might have to do a seperation for a little bit to get him to open up his eyes. Maybe he'll take you seriously then and it'll give you time to think things over.
2007-03-14 08:45:53 · answer #1 · answered by dwnaz1 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Go out more.
2. Make sure he knows that others appreciate you.
3. Gently show him that other men find you attractive.
4. Read The Surrendered Wife along with Kosher Adultery.
5. Keep him a little off guard: do makeup, dye your hair
6. Add some flare.
7. Read How to Get Anyone to do Anything
8. Stop doing chores for a week
9. Leave for a week to visit your parents.
10. Read Why Men Love Bitches
11. Make enough $$ here and there so he realizes you can leave anytime you feel like it
Good Luck!
2007-03-12 15:11:51 · answer #2 · answered by emilsignia 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him when he can learn to treat you as an equal and try to understand YOUR point of view, without belittling you, or screaming and can treat you with respect to let you know, you'll be at your mother's.Also you need to do the same.If he is right most of the time,learn from him IF he is smarter than you.If he isnt ans is wrong half the time, then remind him of some of those times and tell him 2 heads are better than one.Most the times these fights stem from selfishness,both wanting their own ways which are in conflict with the other person's way and neither willing to give in.You might also suggest counseling.
2007-03-12 14:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should try to find out what is wrong. Try not the get into his way when he is in a bad mood. Perhaps he had a rough day at work or he could be simply tired or not enough rest and they can be very grumpy.I know it can be tough on you but hang in there for a while. Don't try to talk to him at the moment. Put all matters aside. Maybe try to talk to him again with some emphathy.Good luck.
2007-03-12 14:29:38 · answer #4 · answered by happy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right to run! He is being totally insensitive and you are worth a lot more than that. I would suggest counseling, but even if he refuses to go it may help you. He is emotionally draining you and it's not fair to you. Write him a letter expressing how you feel. He can't exactly argue with a piece of paper. I hope any of this helps and I wish you the best of luck!
2007-03-12 14:29:21 · answer #5 · answered by chunkysmom3502 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
husband treat respect person wife
2016-02-01 05:41:31 · answer #6 · answered by Janean 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe leaving for a little while is good for him b/c he may miss you. But he really needs to open his eyes and see whats going on in this relationship. You can't make him respect you and don't respect him either if he can't reciprocate it. You need communication real bad and unfortunately it doesn't work with only one person talking. If I were you, I would watch out to see if he has anything else going on outside your marriage.
2007-03-12 14:27:50 · answer #7 · answered by ♦ Phoenix Rising♦ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot change someone, no matter how much you love them. If he is physically abusive, you don't need to wait for another time, get out now. It sounds to me like you have put up with a lot more than a lot of other women would. If I were you I were have said goodbye a long time ago, he is never going to change.
2007-03-12 14:26:12 · answer #8 · answered by sweetpea22306 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You haven' t tried praying to Jesus. Get yourself in a church.Let him see you trying to make some changes in your life. Start reading the bible stop fighting and screaming this isn't working.When all else fails call on your father up above. Next time try jesus first.
2007-03-12 15:01:16 · answer #9 · answered by sharon j 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My husband use to treat me exactly like you describe. I took it for a long time until I finally got tired of it. I told him straight that if he talks to me like that again, it's over. I told him that I will not be disrespected like that. It worked. When he would start to talk to me like I was a 5 year old, I would tell him that he better stop. It took a few times of reminding him, but he got better.
2007-03-12 14:25:43 · answer #10 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋