so you're laying around just casual... and he comes up and grabs your fat.. you ask him why he's doing that and he keeps doing it... but doesnt say anything.. insult or what ? I cried... he asked why I said well because thats like you saying I am fat.. then he tells me my way of thinking is F*ed.
Just to add.. Yesterday my son jumps on my stomach i said OWE that hurt.. and boyfriend made a comment about him killing his brother or sister... I am not pregnant... and so to me that says that im looking pregnant AKA FAT.. am i wrong or is he telling me im fat ??!!
2007-03-12 14:17:17 · 15 answers · asked by crimsoncrush15 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Get back at him,grab his you know and say it is small or too short,payback is h*** some times and see how he feels.
2007-03-12 14:22:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the guy, if he's ignorant then yeah he may be insulting you..But my boyfriend does that all of the time. But when he first started doing it i was a little uncomfortable, but then i asked him why he did that and he said it was because he loved my love handles and that made me feel like he loved my body just as much as me.. Since he said that your way of thinking is f***ed then he's probably not insulting you..The best way to know is to just sit him down and ask him
2007-03-12 21:26:42 · answer #2 · answered by D.Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he's telling you you're fat. Maybe you are hearing that you are fat because you know that you are.
If you are, go on a diet.
Would you rather:
someone not tell you you are fat?
have someone be honest to you and say you are fat?
Subtly tell you you are fat playfully?
Not give a sh.. enough about you to care whether or not you are fat?
Isn't the real problem that you are fat. If you fix it, then what do you think he'd have to say about it?
How would you feel...
enough said.
2007-03-12 21:25:08 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Coming from a plus sized lady, don't take his sh**! I gained about 35 pounds since I've been with my current boyfriend, and I have a complex about my weight, he just says, There's more of me for him to love, your boyfriend is a jackass, tell him to either deal with it, accept it , or don't let the door hit him in the as*! There's alot of guys out there that are more mature and not judgmental. LOL
2007-03-12 21:26:14 · answer #4 · answered by Melody F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you fat? If you're fat and you know it then don't get offended if the world knows it too. Maybe you are a little overweight, it doesn't matter to your boyfriend, otherwise he wouldn't be around.
I am fat. Much more now then when my husband and I started going out. He used to grab my fat too, but we just laughed about it. So please don't get upset.
2007-03-12 21:23:23 · answer #5 · answered by sunny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's insensitive for another human to tell another that they are fat. The word fat is so degrading. My man loves all of me, and I had weight loss surgery, and there is a little excess skin, he just holds on for the ride!
2007-03-12 21:20:43 · answer #6 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that he's calling you fat. But I don't know for sure if he is or not. I think you should talk to him and see if he was calling you fat and if he was I would yell at him or dump him, because he has NO right to call you fat or any other names.
2007-03-12 21:23:19 · answer #7 · answered by *~*Alyssa*~* 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If I were you, I´dnt even mind that.
Is he a gourgeous beauty, like Brad Pitt? Does he have his flaws as well??
If you feel fine the way you are, just tell him to **** off.
2007-03-12 21:21:26 · answer #8 · answered by Lucianna_ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do that to my wife all the time (although she is genuinely heavy), but I do it because I'm comfortable with her the way she is, and I do little things like that to get her to be comfortable with herself as well.
2007-03-12 21:22:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh wow...yes that's mean....ok u could do one back to him and say...'hey, at least i can DIET'...' pity you can't do much about your FACE honey"
grrrr anyways ok maybe that just doesn't help...but i hope it made u smile...he's being mean...and sorry to say he's prob saying you have a little bit of weight..so what......most women do...don't let him get to you...what he's doing to do you is nasty and a form of emotional/mental abuse. you deserve better than that and tell him so.
good luck
2007-03-12 21:26:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋