What's wrong with me?? I get absorbed in books, nature, and in my own world..?

Question

and think I'm missing some of the real life. I just like to live in books adventures, romances, terrors, and you know.. beautiful simple worlds. I'm socially challenged. What can I actually do to get in contact with people? Whenever someone's telling me something I get distracted and start wondering: what if that flower..??, and people get annoyed because I'm not listeing to their story. But it's all just so.. blunt.. too normal.
I don't fit in, and people think me cynical.
Am I really? What's wrong with me?.

Answer 1

I don't think anythings wrong with you. That's just who you are. I don't blame you though. I also got my head stuck in the clouds and couldn't get out!!! I really love books and I don't judge them for their cover!

Answer 2

Nothing wrong with this at all. Most probably a personality preference. I'm like this most of the time too.

Since you're aware that to be like this ALL the time isn't always useful or healthy, you're on the way to achieving balance. Try to have a balance between your inner world and the world of other people, and other interests. There's no other way but to reach out and speak up, be in the moment from time to time, and keep daydreaming to when you're by yourself. It doesn't always require a drastic change, little changes will work wonders. It's very fulfilling to introspect, but you only grow when you go beyond yourself. Have fun!

Answer 3

You are not blunt. The persons who call you that way are.
You are born with the gift - to be in your own world.
It is a rare gift. Many great thinkers of the yore were
rediculed. But what they have written is unique.
It is a bliss which many persons lack and find their
lives meaningless. Every thing in creation has
meaning. You will be one of the best to find such
things. It may not be now but some time later.
This is just the begining for that.

Read the characteristic traits of persons like you:

In Upanishads, Chitta is the component connected with
intuition and emotion. Modern psychologists say that
passions have the same limitations of senses as they
tend toward immediate emotional discharge. Chitta is
the quick acting component of the mind which can be
termed as leftist or negative thinking part. It is
called negative because some psychologists felt that it
separates the received information into pieces,
contains unintentional and contradictory ideas, and
lacks internal organisation, inner consistency, and
concrete solutions. On the contrary, some philosophers
thought that this is the 'idealistic view' of thinking
about a problem. Chitta is connected with instincts,
urges, impulses, desires, emotion, imagination,
sentiments, passions, caring, pleasure, exploration,
unconventional ideas, moods, insight, superstitions,
immodesty, analysis of details, concern about
particular features, capacity to find novel
relationships, unrestrained expressions connected with
body or mind, molding of past experiences into new
constellations of meanings, creation of artistic,
poetic and musical works and the like. Seeing a good
work of painting or listening to music of one's liking
will set waves of emotion in Chitta. It helps us to
imagine things in new ways. It is known that lighter
side of life like fun may contain silly and ridiculous
situations. An artist is said to go to the extremes to
divorce himself from environmental constraints.

Answer 4

Get World of Warcraft, that way you can float into a magical world and be in contact with other people. Plus once you reach level 60 it becomes a whole new adventure. Or you could try writing. Putting your imagination on paper. I think your point of view is how alot of great writers got started. Seeing more than everyone else.

Answer 5

I'm so like that too, there's nothing wrong with us we're just special people. Not in a bad way, see my personality type is an INFJ which stands for inuitive introverted feeling and judging. Its just how I am, an outcast who must embark on this voyage we call life in utter confusion and lonliness. We need people like this to bring the subtle beauty out of life in our artistic abilities. I say be a dreamer, a wanderer. Its a life full of hope and imagination.

Answer 6

There are two things you can do to help yourself, but you have to make a choice. It doesn't have to be a final choice and you might find yourself switching between the two choices.

You can just accept who you are, and make the most of your situation. There are huge numbers, millions, maybe billions, of people that you've probably already met, that are just like you. Being absorbed in your own world is a very common thing. What will definitely help is finding people who are similar to you, who also live in other worlds, that love fantasy and escape from what they think is a rotten life. Befriend them. Don't be shy, just talking about something that really interests you will get a conversation going. You don't have to worry about being funny or humorous, just talk about something you like. Get people who you will support you. Form your own clique. Sure, other people will look down upon a clique of introverted people, but just ignore all the people who make you sad and focus on the people who like you. Also, don't let bullies get to you.
That is the way most introverted people go, and a lot of them go on to succeed well in life and look at school just as something to survive through.

But a more permanent solution that would really help you is to change. Not change as in be one of those people who agree with everyone and try to make themselves an image of who they think is cool. Change as in, fix your problems. You don't have to suddenly become extroverted, you have to look at yourself and ask a question: what exactly about myself makes me unhappy? Then, you have to fix your problem. Many introverts are perfectionists and the ones who chose this path find that the more problems they fix, the more they find and they slowly make themselves a better person, working their way up and tackling personal faults they thought they'd never get over.

A very good start at doing this is to start being positive. Don't think about cynical, and ignore the things that people do that annoy you. Become tolerant and calm. Don't do this by bottling up your feelings while telling yourself that you are calm while things keep bothering you.

When you talk to someone, try to look at things from their perspective and if you are able to see things from their point of view and see why they said something, you might catch a bit of meaning in your conversations. To become likeable, you must like other people first.

As you move along, a lot of things will become clear about life and you might experience a satisfying moment of revelation. Just remember to enjoy both the fantasies and the real people who may have had just as complicated a life as you have had.

Answer 7

There is not a thing wrong with you. It is real easy to be distracted away from the real life to one that is more comfortable. Take for example how some people are distracted by the i/net for hours without realizing how much time passed. You just need to discipline yourself better.

Answer 8

there's nothing wrong with you. sometimes i feel the same way. it's just reality is so...like you said, normal...so cruel and harsh. it feels so much better to be stuck within safe, comfortable confines, wrapped in the world of words. you just gotta put yourself out there more. i know it's hard, but try not to get distracted. and btw, i don't think you're cynical. the fact that you're seeking advice on what's wrong with you suggests that you are not a cynical person. ;>

Answer 9

There is definately nothing wrong with you. I am basically the same way. I love reading books that takes me far away from where I am right now. Like the other person says, get involved with other people with your interest. Get involved in book clubs, go to the bookstores with cafes and there are probably online resources for you to explore. This is who you are, embrace it and don't worry about what other people think of you. This is why a lot of people are unhappy with themselves because they try to fit themselves in the "normal" mode and fit in with other people. They can't think for themselves. Enjoy yourself!

Answer 10

Yeah I'm pretty sure everyone has a side like that to them, I know I do. Maybe you are just more introverted than most and it takes more energy for you to socialize than the other 87% extroverts that make up this world. I'm sure you're fine when you're talking about what you think, but when other people start talking about themselves, well that's not related to you so you kind of tune them out. At least that's kind of my case, but it doesn't mean you're socially challenged..you just need more stimulating subjects to talk about, try talking about something you are passionate about with someone, idk.

Answer 11

though i don't know you, you seem to me a person that is looking outside of the box,wanting to really know the meaning of life, having a real close relationship with nature and all that surrounds it. there is a direction you are headed to... the only thing that you have to do is follow it, figure out really what you want. cynical, not by your description. inquisitive about life, yes as most are, and you seem to exude it, it is just how you use your mind to develop your thoughts, feelings, and personal experiences into what you want it to be.
what you already have. you are no less normal than anyone,
it is just few would make it known to others.