Me and my wife have been together for almost two years. We live together, we have two dogs, and I thought it was good. A couple of months ago, she said she was unhappy with the relationship. We work differnet hours, and live in a crazy city life. When we do spend time together we just lazy around. We are outdoor people, and maybe moving to Chicago was a bad idea, anyways, she almost left me two weeks ago and i begged her to stay and we will fix it, I even said we should just move to make our lives happy again. Now she wants to leave for good and she doesnt think that we can fix this, I told her I want to make her happy, and will do anything to do so. I am scared that she wont stay and try to make this as great as they used to be. I am so confused and taking to her about doesn't get us anywhere. I need help fast. I can not live without this women in my life.
2007-03-12 14:02:42 · 6 answers · asked by Frank M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
much of the time it isn't even about what she is telling u is the reason for her unhappiness, most of the time its a different reason why people want out of a marriage. u could ask her where she would like to move, and see if that made a difference in her attitude, but as i said they make up all kinds of reasons to eave, and most of the time its because there is someone else in the marriage that shouldn't be.
2007-03-12 14:12:03 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two need professional outside help here. This does not sound as if its doomed yet but definitely in need of an outside opinion. The trouble is going to be to convince her of that, as both of you will want the same result for it to work and forcing one into it never works. Maybe you can get a good friend to talk to her since it appears she wont talk to you. I think it would really do you two a world of good and get your marriage back on track here. Youve just got to figure out a way to get her there. I know thats no easy task but if your marriage is worth saving youll find a way and then take it from there. If all else fails Id be willing to talk to her if you can get her on here. My email is thunder_wright@yahoo.com if you think itll work. Good luck
2007-03-12 14:15:53 · answer #2 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, i'm going to jump in here... since you asked...
You have not said why your wife wants to leave.
Maybe you need to find out. Ok, not maybe... you need to find out her reasons. I don't mean just ask her why... but try to understand some of her reasoning. Yes, communicate. Talk about her expectations... and listen. Then try to do something about it.
Yup, hard work right? You bet. But its worth it.
2007-03-12 14:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by Telly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a problem. If she wants to go there isn't much you can do. Did you tell her how you feel? Why does she want to go? Will she talk about it? Counseling?? Good luck
2007-03-12 14:09:20 · answer #4 · answered by greenfrogs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she wants out of the marriage and don't love you then it'll hurt you but you'll have to do what will make her happy I'm separated and wish things weren't like they are but i got to go on too if my husbands moved on with his life its hard but i don't have a choice and you might not life hurts
2007-03-16 11:07:36 · answer #5 · answered by sweetgranny06 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sucks to be you. If she's not happy, she's not going to stay. And if she doesn't want enough to try, she won't. Period.
2007-03-12 14:19:26 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If one doesn't want to stay there is very little you can do. Suggest counseling, maybe she will agree,
2007-03-12 14:46:11 · answer #7 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋