baby doesn't sleep?

Question

my baby is a month old and she doesn't sleep at night but during daytime.I'm forced to stay up all night and during daytime as well.I am so tired physically. I cant sleep during daytime when she sleeps because the area were i stay is noisy. My husband helps me sometimes but because he works he can't stay all night. Any suggestions to get her to sleep are welcome.

Answer 1

What you have to do is regulate her circadian rhythm (what makes us want to be awake during the day, and sleep at night.) Make sure that during the day the whole house/apartment is bright, if the weather permits, take her outside. Make sure during day feedings that you talk to her and have lots of eye contact with her-this raises her heart rate and make her more alert. Use music, toys, anything with b&w patterns, etc. At night, lower the noise level-but don't cut it off completely. Make it darker, and lower the indoor temp five degrees. Put her in her crib at a regular time. During night feedings-and I know it sounds bad-try not to have direct eye contact with her, if you stare into her eyes and talk, she will want to continue getting this attention, and will cry to get it. Also, at a month old, silence is deafening. Find some instrumental classical music to use at night in her room. Use music with vocals during the day.

It worked for me.

Answer 2

She is still adjusting to day and night. At night, try to keep it as dark as possible and keep it bright during the day...she needs to learn the difference. When she is awake during the day, try to engage her and keep her awake by playing with her. At night swaddle her tightly (do this for the first 3 mo) Use a white noise maker...it will remind her of the womb and drown out all the other noises in the house (you can use it too when you need to get a nap and it's noisy) At night when she wakes,try to be as quiet as possible, she needs to know this isn't play time. Change her diaper in the dark, feed her quietly in the dark and put her back down. If she doesn't need to be fed, don't pick her up. Try to rub her back, give her a pacifier and let her fall back asleep (not always possible, I know)
A great DVD is Happiest Baby on the Block.
At this point she is not expected to sleep all night...3-4 hours would be great, but a long shot. You need to try to sleep when she does. Do whatever it takes!! When you're rested you will be more tolerant with a fussy baby.

Answer 3

Welcome to the wonderful world of motherhood. My daughter didn't sleep through the night until she was almost 2. The only relief I got was letting her sleep with me. Although I got sleep that way, I also had an almost 2 year old in my bed every night......not my idea of a good time.....nor were the three nights it took of hearing her cry for over an hour when I decided to break her of the bad habit I created.

Try white noise. Try putting the kid to bed in a swing. There were nights she'd sleep strapped into her swing with the tv on a static channel.........that worked sometimes.

Good luck.....some of us just aren't lucky to have a baby who sleeps at night right away.......its just the way life goes.

Answer 4

They don't usually go to sleep when you want them to until 3-4 months old. You'll up be for at least two more months. Don't let her sleep at all during the day and put her to bed at a regular time. Eventually she'll figure out that night time is when you sleep.

Answer 5

It's hard, isn't it?

Try keeping the lights on bright during the day, and really dim at night. Eventually, as she gets older, she'll straighten back out. Also, don't play with her when she's awake at night. Make life as boring as possible. And make things interesting (well, as interesting as they can be, anyway, when you're a month old) for her during the day. Play music, play with toys, etc.

It'll get better. The first 12 weeks are the hardest.

Answer 6

Don't worry wont last forever, she is just to young for a schedule. My baby did the same thing the first month. Though i would suggest letting her sleep in her own room if she isn't already. This helped tremendously. I wasn't waking her up every time i would toss and turn, and she wasn't waking me up every time she made a sound. She just turned 3 months old and she is sleeping thru the night!!! I hope this helps, just hang in there it will get better i promise.

Answer 7

Oh my God, i've been there! LOL! My baby just turned 4 months and she just started to sleep through nights. You just need to be patient. Thats just how baby's will be at first. I, sure we weren't sleeping through the night till we were a bit older. Just bare with your baby, take naps when you can.
when you're tending to her at night, try to be quiet. Keep the room dark and as quiet as you can. During the day, be louder, play with him/her. Have him/her in a more lighted room. He/she may learn to recognize that there is a difference between day/night.
OR, if you're into the whole superstition thing, my mom tried this. You put the baby on one corner of the bed and drag him/her to the opposite corner by holdong his/her legs. (just a thought)
Well, thast all i have for now. Hope i helped!

Answer 8

Your baby has the days and nights confused what you can do is try to keep her up during the day and after the first day she will go to sleep at night but you have to just keep her up play with her talk to her tap the bottom of her foot when she tries to sleep but its ok for her to take an hour long nap.

Answer 9

Make sure she is in a safe place and let her cry a little. She needs to get used to you not being there for her every waking moment. I know it can be hard especially if you are a first time mom, but for cryin out loud you need to rest. I went through the same thing. I had to make myself go take a shower without her. It was very hard convincing myself she would be okay without me for 10 minutes. :0)

Answer 10

Extremely normal.

Here are my tips:

Try running the sweeper- this gets my son to sleep everytime. I have no idea why, but it does.

Try placing your baby in a bouncy seat and placing it into the bathroom and turning on the shower... the soothing sound tends to put babies to sleep, PLUS the moisture in the air helps baby to sleep better.

Try turning on the washer or dryer and placing baby next to it. Again- it may lull her to sleep.

Good luck!