I went on a company trip this weekend and even asked him to go with me but he refused. When I came home I was excited to see him and told him about the trip, unfortunately only I got sarcasm and a cold shoulder from him. It's not like I did something wrong and everything was a wholesome company outing...I know he might feel rejected from it but I don't see any reason why he should act like a baby and hurt me in the process. He always have this personality of looking down at what I do and people that I go out with....I don't feel like I need to apologize from what happened.
I feel like shutting my world from him. Do I deserve this treatment in the first place? Make up sex is not even in the vocabulary after how I felt....
2007-03-12 13:22:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To greg: now picture this. When I arrived I went straight to the room and cuddled him and asked him about how he was, it was a weekend and all I got was sarcasm. The bigger picture here is that even by me simply asking him about how he was didn't even register to him that I was interested about how he was. I insisted that he should come a long with us but he refused to go, now is my fault that I didn't insist on it more?
2007-03-12 14:25:11 · update #1
No you don't deserve that kind of treatment, sounds like your marriage is in trouble.
2007-03-12 14:27:10 · answer #1 · answered by sharpeilvr 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While you were away, I can only assume he was busy with his regular business. So you come home expecting him to greet you and talk about missing you, but this is something YOU chose to do, and he couldn't or wasn't comfortable doing it, so you chose to put yourself into a situation where YOU missed him.
Additional info: hey, you chose your screen name (shedevil), you made your 360 page, and I say "if the shoe fits". You seem pretty self-absorbed and happy about your disagreable qualities.
Like the macho guy who tells his wife he's goin' huntin' and drinkin' for a week (doesn't try to ask her what she'd like to do together), and then expects fawning affection, you got sarcasm and the cold shoulder.
Why do some women think they can do what some men do and expect it to turn out differently?
Divas... pfft.
Your problem, and you're too self-centered to see it.
Sarcasm is the byproduct of resentment. Since you left on a trip that he couldn't or wasn't comfortable attending and then had high expectations about him telling you how much he missed YOU, I am going to hazzard the guess that you are self-absorbed and vain, and he'd be better off without you.
2007-03-12 21:05:43 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Heck no you don't deserve this kind of treatment. If you guys are going to be in a relationship, he has to at least make an attempt to show that he cares about the things you do. My advice to you is to let him know that he was being a jerk and demand an apology from him.
2007-03-12 20:30:32 · answer #3 · answered by Dunn 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he always acts like this but you don't think you did anything wrong then I'm wondering what are you getting from the relationship that makes you stay. I personally wouldn't want to feel snubbed by my spouse/partner every time I saw my friends or co-workers. But that's me and I tend to get rid of people that don't seem to want to respect me or my views of the world.
2007-03-12 20:28:23 · answer #4 · answered by indydst8 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like my ex. So sorry, sweetie. He wants his way or no way. He can do what he wants and when he wants; but you are not allowed.
Both of you need counseling if you want to be together and have a healthy relationship. Take care.
2007-03-12 20:47:20 · answer #5 · answered by childofGod 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If he doesn't want to go on the trip, you should not have gone too. Married people should go on trips together.
2007-03-12 23:45:21 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds like a whiner, tell him to shape up or ship out. A spouse is suppose to be supportive.
2007-03-12 20:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by MsTrust 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He's just acting like a big "baby". He'll get over it! Let him sulk for a few days! Sad!
2007-03-12 20:27:23 · answer #8 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Ask yourself in the big scheme of things ,what percentage of what you want are you getting?
2007-03-12 20:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by april showers 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋