15 and might be pregnant...help.?

Question

i've 15 and have been pregnant already but miscarried. that was 2 months ago and now i'm convinced i am again. i've had bloating, constant hunger, peeing a lot, sore breasts, exhaustion (tiredness) and i'm craving foods i hate. i'm so scared my mom will hate me, i don't think i have family support when it comes to this, the teenagers in my family all tend to get pregnant at least once (dont ask) but i'm the "smart one" thats a lot of pressure and i'm terrified, i've only told my friends and they support me. my boyfriend doesn't know but i've hinted off some things hoping he'll get it, i dont want to scare him if its nothing (all in my head) i took a test and it said negative but i read the box and it said it will say negative unless i missed a period and i HAVEN'T yet. but i should have one soon...very soon and i'm not even cramping up yet, i usually do. i'm terrified and if i am pregnant i want to keep it. i need to know how to tell my mom and dad. i'm afraid they'll disown me.

Answer 1

Please email me. First get checked out, and then Whatever your decision is about this baby, I have the resources for you to find the help and support necessary to go through with whatever you choose. But get checked, if you are having symptoms don't ignore them.

Answer 2

If you knew you were pregnant and miscarried, did you go to a doctor? If you didn't, it is possible that there is some remaining tissue in your uterus. The presence of that tissue would make your brain continue to think you are pregnant, causing all of the usual estrogen and progesterone responses without the hCG (human chorionic gonadotropin- what pregnancy tests detect.) The presence of this tissue can also cause uterine infections. Or, you may not have miscarried at all. Stress can also cause some of those things, and you shouldn't even consider sex for a while after you have a baby or a miscarriage.

Before you do anything, please see a doctor. Whatever is happening can only be made worse if you ignore these symptoms longer. Every city has a Health Department, or Planned Parenthood that can help you with that. Get on the internet, look in the phone book, or-hell, even hit me up, and I will help you find resources.

Hope everything turns out well.

Answer 3

I'm not trying to be mean or rude, but You asked the question I'm going to answer.

Your the smart one? Your not acting like you are. What are you thinking? where is your head? Why are you having UNPROTECTED SEX. I feel 15 is too young to have sex , but that is your business !!! BUT unprotected sex !!!!!!!!!! How could you be that DUMB.

Do you realize that Pregnancy is only one of the things you risk. What about STD's What about the HIV? You do know That with HIV you die right? How could you miscarry and continue the bad behavior that got you into the situation the last time. You need to use a condom EVERY TIME, and take the pill. ( or another kind, whatever is best for you.) To be safer.

You are not old enough to raise a baby. You Need to finish school. Settle down get married then worry about having babies. You will never amount to anything with a a 9th grade education. Nor will you be able to support your child. Do you want to live on welfare all your life?

If i was your mom and dad I would be very mad too, especially if you had just lost a baby, and didnt change your behavior. Are you with the same guy or just having random sex. Your playing with your life. If you keep up this behavior you will be know as a whore, before you ever get your drivers License. No decent guy will want anything to do with you.

Answer 4

Do you have a family planning clinic in your area where you can go to take a free pregnancy test? That is a good start to take another test. The best thing to do for starters is not worry until you have to. Also, if you find yourself not pregnant, birth control is an option you need to look into. If you are pregnant, the best thing in the world to do is to tell your parents. Believe it or not, they will still love you when all is said and done. They may be mad, angry, and or hurt at first, but believe me, in time they will come to accept it and they will be your biggest source of support. As far as your boyfriend, well, if you two are truly close then you should just tell him so that you don't feel so alone. If he gets "scared away" then you know what kind of person he really is. Unfortunately the statistics say that having children at such an age pretty much guarantee that the two of you won't stay together, you should really think about what you are going to do with the rest of your life if you are to be a single mother. Most importantly, don't drop out of school because you will need to succeed in life to raise a child. Feel free to email me at any time privately if you would like to talk. I know how you feel. I have 2 children and started at 18, and it was still hard. But believe me, you're not alone, and your parents are a good place to start!

Answer 5

You have many difficult issues to deal with. You are only15 and already on your second pregnancy. What are you doing? Why weren't you on birth control? If you are pregnant, how do you expect to take care of this baby? Are you going to ask the help of your Mom and Dad? Will they support you? What I will say is that you have grown up way too fast, having sex at such a young age, and also having a steady boyfriend, and now you are paying the price. Don't you realize the responsibility of rearing a child? Your whole life will change, so I do not believe in abortion, so if you are pregnant, you should have the baby but give it up for adoption. I would start making some life changes, and I would break off your steady relationship with this boy, stop having sex with him, and start thinking of getting an education and making something of yourself. You are the only person who is in control of your body. Your body is the temple of your soul and you should treat that way. Get some self esteem and think more of yourself than you are now. If you find that you are not pregnant, I would end the relationship, and start new with a new prospective and celibacy. Good Luck

Answer 6

I'm guessing this wasn't an accident. If you were just pregnant and miscarried 2 months ago, chances are you did this on purpose.
I'm a single mom and I'm 35. It isn't easy even at my age. As much as I would love another child, if I were to become pregnant again, the baby would be put up for adoption. As hard a decision it would be to make, it is the truly loving thing to do.
Now you need to find out. Once you find out, you seriously need to find someone who can help counsel you on what is best. I can tell you, a baby will not make you feel loved. It will suck the life out of you because that is what children do. They are completely dependent on you, and even though you do get back a lot, if you aren't mature enough, you won't recognize the benefits. Your life essentially ends and you will have to live for your child. At 15 there is no way you will be able to wrap your mind around this, you won't listen to anyone, but I hope and pray you do the mature and loving thing and wait to raise a child. If you give birth to one, love it as only a mother can, and give it the life it deserves.

Answer 7

Listen i am not trying to be mean or insensitive but don't you think that when that happened to you before that was a sign that you were just not ready?

If you do not start your period whenever it is due take another test. If you are your going to have to tell your parents anyhow so why not tell them now and if you aren't then your mom can take you and put you on birth control. You are too young to be having babies. You are a baby yourself. You do know that you can go on your own to the health department and get put on birth control without no one knowing? Well you can and they don't charge and if they do charge it would onlt be a couple of dollars just say that your family does not have insurance.
You have decided to make grown up decisions so you should not have a problem in being an adult about it and tell your parents. Why are you trying so hard to grow up before you have too?

Good luck

Answer 8

Do a couple of more home tests. You need to get someone to help you tell your mom and dad - preferably an older female you trust such as an aunt, older cousin, friend's mother, etc. Call Planned Parenthood. They may have some advice on telling your parents, as well as be able to give you a more accurate pregnancy test. If you are pregnant, would you consider adoption? Many loving and capable families are out there looking for a baby. It will be difficult, but it would give both you and the baby the best chances for a bright future. But only you can decide that. Good luck. And please, if you end up not pregnant, use birth control next time. If you get lucky twice, don't push your luck further!

Answer 9

Well...I am going to break up your questions into different sections.

First: I have had those same symptoms thinking I was pregnant, but really is was just PMS. Sometimes your menstrual symptoms will seem more intense when you are thinking you are preggo, especially if you are looking for them. Those seem like PMS symptoms to me because A LOT of those symptoms may not come until later in the pregnancy.

Telling your mom and dad: Take a few more tests, wait til a week after your period is past due...and if it comes up positive, you must tell them. Sit them down and talk to them calmly. If you are too nervous about doing that, write them a letter and go stay somewhere for the night or day. Call them over the phone and agree to come home and talk about it only if they stay calm.

Good luck and PLEASE protect yourself for now on.

Answer 10

Do NOT let these people contradict you. Just because you've made a wrong decision does not mean that you cant start making smart ones right now. Go to your mom...She would not disown you...Explain everything to her....Shes more willing to accet it..the sooner you tell her...I f u r pregnant you dont need this stress..just tell her. And a great place to go is a Care Net Pregnancy center near you...They are all around the united states..and
in some other countries. This is a great place to go since you are young. This IS NOT an abortion clinic...It is s pro-life clinic. They do not was to judge you or scold you...They are there to help...They can give you all kinds of information in having a healthy baby..offer free tests(all of their service are fee), teach you, show you cool videos as your baby develops, give you free ultra -sounds, give u free stuff ,like cribs and big items that u r gonna need and just be there...A counsaler can meet with you just so that you can talk to someone. Im fifteen as well...And you have a whhooole bunch of courage to already decide to keep your baby. You are being smart right there. Dont let anyone tell you that u r stupid for this, or that you have thrown your life away...its just not true....There are tons of options out there for you..Dont overlook them..and NEVER make anyone make you get an abortion..Its s serious procedure..and can really hurt u ..and that little life. If you are pregnant that baby is YOUR , not your moms , YOURS, you need to make the decision.Please look into the center or visit their website...Ill be praying for you. You'll be fine:)

Answer 11

First find out if you are pregnant. No use worrying if there is nothing to worry about. Next if you aren't, go to family planning and get some birth control. That way you won't be in this situation in another couple of months. If you are pregnant then talk to the counsellors at the family planning clinic or at your doctors, they can help support you and give you advice on how to talk to your boyfriend/parents. Don't be afraid, be smart. Do things right and cross bridges when you come to them, not worry about something that might not happen. :)