I am committed to my significant other, but I don't hear the music when I'm with her. In addition, when I'm with the other person who is not my significant other, I hear a symphony. Please share your opinion and the reason.
2007-03-12 12:57:55 · 5 answers · asked by Nea'A 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
of course.
it can mean any of three things:
1) you've fallen out of love but hung around in the old relationship anyway, not telling your partner anythng about whats up (and your silence has of course accelerated the barrier-raising between you). You've done this for so long that now you're getting ready to do the stupidest thing possible: starting a new relationship while still in the midst of the self-destructing older relationship, maximizing drama and the pain for your Significant Other and also most likely dooming the new relationship, having been tainted by being born of deceipt. how could people in such a relationship ever trust each other? and wheres your opportunity to be with yourself, contemplate and learn from your old relationship - and release emotional baggage from it- before you dive in and make the same mistakes in the new one? a perpetual ****-up machine.
round and round and round you go..
welcome to the Jerry Springer show..
2) you're freaked out about being in a serious relationship, not ready for the hard work it can sometimes be, and looking for a way -any way- to sabotage it so you can go back to the way you were. Your S.O. and you would both be *way* better off if you can be honest with yourself, come to terms with what it is you really want, tell her/him and do it. Either be honest and break it off, or be honest and go to relationship counselling with your S.O.
3) you really love both of them. Its called being polyamorous, and there are many support resources available, like polyamory.org and the polyamory forum on tribe.net, intended for people who are truly capable of commitment to more than one person (please note: its a *lot* of hard work).
However, one thing that a lot of these folks will tell you is that its very difficult (nigh impossible) to 'convert' a monogamous relationship into a poly one. While it is possible that two closeted-polys end up in a mono relationship together and will both discover that they really are (or can be) poly at the same time, the odds of it are vanishingly small. If you really are poly, be honest with your S.O. now, before anything happens with the new love, and be prepared for a rough road, armed with a lot of patience and the knowledge that the most likely result is the end of your current relationship. But do all this and get clear with yourself *before* you get into something new. Otherwise its Jerry Springer *squared*.
2007-03-13 06:06:43 · answer #1 · answered by netizen 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of the time, men and women alike, get love confused with lust. If you truly love your mate, the lust will follow with the one you are with. But, yes it does happen a lot of times, however, usually its just lust talking to you. If you do feel that way though, straighten it all out before you get deeper with the one you are with right now, or there will be nothing but misery for you both. Good Luck.
2007-03-12 20:11:23 · answer #2 · answered by tennman012000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you just don't love your significant other anymore, or you're just bored with her. It's very sad really. I would hate to be in your significant other's shoes.
2007-03-12 20:05:38 · answer #3 · answered by jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK Casanova, it is called Lust,and if your Significant Half ever find out, it wont be Cupid's Arrow she shooting you with
2007-03-12 20:02:21 · answer #4 · answered by LadyoftheLake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the old "the grass looks greener" once you get over there it won't be, so don't do it, just fantasize!
2007-03-13 05:03:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋