After a break up (its been 2months) is it normal to still feel/believe that the other person will comeback? Or is this a form of dealing with the pain (denial)
2007-03-12 12:51:23 · 13 answers · asked by evangelina1980 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think it's just part of the grieving process if the other person was the one who decided to end it. You hope that, maybe, they will realize that they made a mistake. What you're feeling now pass with time.
2007-03-12 12:55:58 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
2months is no time and sure you are hoping he will come back to you. While you are thinking of nothing else but him and the good times the two of you have had he is thinking of the other woman he is with.Believe me I no just how hard it is to get your mind off and away from the a s s hole that left you. It usually takes around 6 months to get back to your normal self so hang in it will get better for you.
2007-03-12 20:22:42 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a form of denial that just makes us feel better for awhile, keeps us in hope, and gives us faith to want to wait it out. but as the time goes by and he doesn't come back, its going to hurt u more. it is less painful to believe they are going to just come back to us and life will go on as usual, but its unhealthy not to accept the truth. it is hard to accept when we still love that person and think how could they not love us anymore. but unhealthy for us. go on with life as best as u can, but who knows stranger things have happened, he may come home, but u must be willing to accept the things u can't change, and know the difference in them. it is normal to think like this, almost everyone does it. but at some point u will have to come to the realization that it may not happen.
2007-03-12 20:39:43 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to be honest it can be a little of both.. I have gone thru the same thing. It is normal that you can feel/believe that he or she will come back, and I think that it is also a way that your body does deal with the stress. What happens next is entirely up to you... Hope this helps
2007-03-12 19:58:25 · answer #4 · answered by Ryan S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on your situation and the break up. Sometimes relationships can work out and the people get back together if they both realize that they want the person back and they love them. Other times, one person moves on and the other stays in love. If your ex isn't talking to you and you've had no communication over the breakup period - odds are that he is moving on. But, it can't hurt to pick the phone up and see where you stand.
2007-03-12 19:54:57 · answer #5 · answered by Rawrrrr 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a very normal reaction, especially if they are the one that left. Sooner or later you will probably become angry because you will realize he/she is not coming back. That would be normal as well. There are a whole lot of stages of grief. I'm sorry, I have been there.
2007-03-12 19:55:22 · answer #6 · answered by kattsmeow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
in reality....it is normal to think they are coming back
you will go through a denial too.
then you will think you don't care
then you will care so much you cry your head-off.
It really does suck. I am sorry..if that helps at all.
a little part of you knows...will he ever come back...no.
It is best to get on with your life.
Most people would rather go on..then live in the pain.
It's all matter of Faith really and prayer.
Don't get bitter through this...get better....for your sake.
2007-03-12 20:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by Bobbie4u 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
After 2 months, I am afraid the reasonable thing to do is let it go and move on. Sorry to tell you that. It sucks: we all know it.
2007-03-12 19:55:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
form of dealing with pain/grief..it comes in lots of forms like sex, gambling, eating sadness you name it's a weird thing we deal with
2007-03-12 19:55:07 · answer #9 · answered by Gina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are alot of stages, and the longer it is, the better.
There are actually only 3 stages....................
1. You think he/she will come back.
2. You don't care if they come back.
and the best one............
3. You don't want them to come back, and they realize what they lost, and they want to.
2007-03-12 20:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by Joanna D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋