My mom's going to kick me out if I decide to keep my baby...?

Question

I'm a little bit worried because I don't know what I'm going to do or where I'm going. Any advice? Btw, I'm 16.

The baby's dad's PARENTS don't want to have anything to do with the baby.. financially and everything.

My dad will probably let me stay with him but he wants me to give the baby up for adoption too.

Answer 1

Go to some adoption sites and check out the people trying to adopt. You will see that there are some wonderful people out there that will give your baby a good home and a lot of love. I know because I want to adopt desperately. It would be better to do this than have this baby when you're really not ready in any way. Bless you and good luck.

Answer 2

Get a job now or figure something else out. Think about why you want to keep your baby and whether or not you can. Can you be the best mother to your child at age sixteen? If the answer is yes, then keep it. If not, then don't. No matter how much love you have for your baby, that doesn't mean you can take care of it. You want to be able to give your baby everything that it needs and the best possible chance for success in life. If that means staying with you, then keep it. If it doesn't then look for a family that can. Keep in mind that adoptions these days are as open as you want them to be. You could have weekly visits with your baby or as much access to him/her as you want if you choose an adoptive family that allows it. Many adoptive parents have no problem allowing birth parents to be an integral part of the baby's life. I'd at least look into adoption and weigh your options. Then sit down with your mom and discuss your situation with her. Explain that you will either give it up or that you will be keeping it. Also make sure that you have living arrangements and a job lined up if you are leaving so that your mom sees how responsible you are being about it. Tell her that you have weighed your options (and stay calm no matter what she says) and that you have decided to keep the baby. You realize that a baby costs somewhere between 5,000 and 6,000 the first year with health insurance.

Dropping out of school will mean less money for you in the longrun and a higher likelihood that you will be unable to physically care for your child (in terms of not affording him/her), so try to find a way to get childcare so you can stay in school and go to college. Depending on where you live, daycare can cost anywhere from 400-800 dollars a week for an infant. Can you afford it?

Just weigh all of your options and contact an adoption agency--they will at least be able to help you look at perspective families and that will help you decide if you can give up the baby to a family that will accept it and love it unconditionally. If you decide to keep it, your mom will probably come around--just know that she might not. Remember, adoptions are as open as you make them :-)

Answer 3

Are you sure she really will kick you out? Hey, I was in that boat too. I am much older than you, but my sister and I were both kicked out at age 14, and I had my son at age 16. I can tell you this...it is ROUGH on your own. You have to be willing to do whatever it takes to give that child what he/she needs (and I don't of course, mean illegal things!). If your mom won't help you, that's low in my book. It's hard to find a place to live, and a job that will support 2 people at 16. If YOU want to place your baby for adoption, then you make that choice...but don't let anyone bully you into it.

I am living proof though, that it can be done. Start looking for living arrangements now. Talk with the baby's father. Speak with your own relatives and friends and see if you could rent from them. Speak with school counselors about single teen mother programs that can help, and hang in there!

Answer 4

It sounds like you want to keep the baby. I think tha t if you give it up you will regret it. If you keep it you will have no place to go. I am so sorry. I wish I could help more. I can suggest going to a friends house, a church, or even a shelter even though that may sound lame. Tell your parents that you love this baby. Prove to them that you can take care of the baby. I do not have an answer and I dont think anywone should tell you waht do to. Its your decision. I am not tell you togive up or keep the baby, but do what is best for the baby. If you think you can give it a good future, go for it. If not then adoption I think is the way to go. I think that your parents arent giving you a fair chance. Maybe talk to a school councler or social worker. Dont be embarrased to get their opinion. Thye are trained for situations like this, I bet they can help. I hope this "suggestion" not answer helped you some how. Best of luck to you!

Answer 5

Are you ready financially and emotionally to take care of a baby? Would you depend too much on your parents? If so, find great parents for the baby and put your baby for adoption. It will be hard for you to maintain a job and take care of a baby. You should respect your parents decisions concerning the baby. If you really want the best life for your baby, you have to make sacrifices. Adoption is the best thing for you and your baby.

Answer 6

I don't know where you live but there are a lot of places that will give pregnant teenagers a place to live where you can go to school and have your baby. I know that there is one through the Catholic church check into it. Don't let your mother force you into either giving your baby up or having an abortion. It has to be your choice what to do, you are the one that has to live for the rest of your life with your decision. Just be educated about the whole thing. It will not not easy.

Answer 7

First of all its not what everyone else wants. Its what you want. Do you want to keep your baby? This can change your life forever and that is if you keep it abord it or adopt it out. Sure you will have several hard times being a single parent and to add your age, BUT you can do it. There is things out there that can help you girl. welfare to get you on your feet housing that helps pay for rent and I have a job working at home it pays great and work around own schedule. https://www.workathomeagent.net you dont pay nothing to do it they pay you you have to test and all but its easy. takeing phone calls. Back to the baby my sister had a baby at 16 it was hard on her but she made it, she had a lot of family suppoert but im sure your family will come around because they love you. Dont let them make your decission, if you make the wrong one it will haunt you forever. How far along are you? just nevre give up. I went from dropping out of school doing drugs drinking got into an abusive relationship got pregnant with TWINS he broke my neck when I was 2 months prego I left him got my GED went to collage. I did it and started from nothing. If you ever need to talk Im here for you. I dont know who you are but you cought my attention. my email adress is [e-mail]

Answer 8

Talk to your mom seriously without arguing. If you feel like you are seriously ready to take on the responsibility of a baby, let her know. Maybe she's worried that she'll be the one raising the baby. You should take some parenting classes to prepare yourself. I think it's illegal for her to kick you out at your age. If something terrible like that happens, go to the police. They will help you.

Answer 9

This is your baby and you should keep her. You wouldn't want your child up for adoption wo knows where she will end up. You brought a new birth to the Earth and you should be well pleased with yourself but you could get a little financial aid to help you.

Answer 10

if u dont have sum1 u can live with than i would suggest having an open adoption! it is where u personally pick a family and u have all rights to see the baby and be in the baby's life!but u do not have custody and will not have alot of say in how the baby is raised unless u get a really good family that is totally open for letting u be a big part in its life.