The baby is almost here. Any tips for me and my wife before the big day?

Question

According to the doctors Me and my wife (Monsa) baby is due in the last week of march. I've we've constantly tried to rehearse of how things are supposed to happen. To be honest with you, this the first time I've ever really been scared. Is there any tips you guys have for me? Any fathers that went through this or mothers point of view? any answer concerning this would help. thank you.

Answer 1

alot of people mentioned the frozen meals- it IS a good one. even though newborns sleep alot, they can be exhausting, and any help with the household stuff can make a BIG difference! if it is in you budget, a maid, or even a trusted teenager is nice to have for a little household help. sometimes just getting one little chore done will help with the feeling of "complete overwhelm" that you will likely be getting into soon. yes... expect that. the overwhelm is not entirely because of real things, but sometimes the little anxieties you get will really affect your energy. for example- if the baby seems to sleep to much or makes a little snorting boise or something, it might be normal, but being a new parent- you don't know. you might worry, make a lot of phone calls, stand over the baby all day. and even though everything is fine, you've spent a whole day on it...

yes, having the bag packed is good too. take your phone numbers. check and see if the birthing suite allows cell phones- sometimes they don't. so you might need a calling card...
pictures-this sounds corny, but i really wish i had taken more pics of myself pregnant. one on the way to the hospital is always cute, but i really wished i had one of me and hubby together dressed up.

yes dressing up. please DO go on as many "dates" as you can. i think a ready-to-pop couple is the sweetest thing and are often treated like celebrities.

something i wish i had done before the baby, was discuss post-partum depression with my man. often, the man is on the recieving end of that whole emotional wreck, and i think a little coaching- or even anticipation may have helped us a little.
back to pictues- one of the most awesome pictues my husband took, was one of our son on the scale. turn the flash off so you can see the weight and not a reflection...
if your wife will be nursing, make sure she drinks enough water. and for god's sake MAKE her sleep when the baby does.
congratulations! you sound like a wonderful and loving husband and a soon-to-be great dad!

Answer 2

Just relax! It sounds like you've dotted your i's and crossed your t's. You already know what's coming so just go with the flow. Get an overnight bag for your wife. Pack an outfit or two. She'll be in a hospital gown most of the time. Don't forget some underwear for her, she'll be bleeding so something comfortable (and old) will be good. Get a car seat if you don't already have one. Most hospitals won't let the baby go home until a safety approved car seat is shown to the nurses or hospital staff. Remember to keep the cord stump clean with alcohol after every changing and no baths until the cord stump falls off. It's all downhill from here so have fun and enjoy!

Answer 3

Aww, so sweet, congratulations. Of course you're scared! First time will be for most people. My b'day is the 28th, perhaps we'll have the same birthday! I imagine she will start 'nesting' in the next wee while, going crazy trying to clean the house and identify hazards for the perfect environment. Most mothers to be do it. Make sure she has the last week to relax and get some rest, labour is very intense so being well rested is very important. Things like this never go exactly to plan so don't freak out if the plan falls to pieces on the day. Just get her to the hospital (or call the midwife) and make the other phone calls you need to make. Chances are it will take it's time to come. Enjoy your last little time together as a family of two and don't forget it. I hope it all goes well for you =)

Answer 4

1) extra batteries for camera
2)roll of quarters for vending machine
3)get vehicle tuned up, keep it full of gas
4)plan different routes to hospital for different times of day
5)if you can't afford to take too much time off work, stay the first night after birth in hospital with wife, save off days for when wife comes home so the 3 of you can spend the first few days at home together getting to know each other
6)you are your wife's front man e.g. field the phone calls, tell people no they can't come over to see baby right now, it's OK to say no, family and friends will understand
7)things don't always go as planned. I had 3 horrible pregnancies, ruptured appendix, vanishing twin syndrome, brown recluse spider bite, HELLP syndrome, 3 blood transfusions, pulmonary embolism, reaction to transfusions, separated pelvis (bedrest for 6mos), 3 perfect babies. 4th pregnancy felt wonderful, never felt so good in my life actually and baby was born with multiple birth defects not picked up in ultrasound---totally shocked. He is now a very healthy and bright 8 yr old with 12 toes to boot! I guess I'm saying to expect the unexpected, no matter what happens, you couldn't love your baby more. Birth is truly amazing and miraculous
8)natural to feel scared, I'd be worried about you if you didn't
9)spend special alone time with wife now
10)get all the sleep you can now, you are gonna need it

Answer 5

in case you haven't any longer felt your toddler circulate, properly i recommend you merely right be calling the midwife on the medical institution. they'll ask you to come again up and be positioned on the gadget, to computer screen your toddler and hear the middle fee and each thing like that. additionally to make your toddler circulate, you may attempt ice and water mutually. then lay on your left edge for 20 Min's and spot if that works. my midwife advised me ice is the trick, or something quite chilly is optimal. good success and please call the midwife. additionally your toddler could desire to be slowing down now too because of the fact your going into hard artwork. good success, oh and the popping issues on your abdomen, might the two be gasoline from your self or your toddler has the hiccups, if its your toddler has the hiccups, than your toddler is nice. hiccups are a good fetal flow.

Answer 6

First, take an evening just for the two of you. A quite, romantic evening to get in touch with each other. Next, do a practice run on getting to the hospital, including how to use a baby seat the right way!!! Lastly, just relax and let nature take it's course. And please remember if things get to stressful don't hesitate to call family members to take over for a bit . Babies are great. Have fun and good luck!! May I suggest julie for a girl!!

Answer 7

First off, I would like to congratulate you on your new bundle of joy. Your in for an unforgettable ride.

And now, here is what I know:

*If your wife gives birth vaginally, she is going to be in a lot of pain, so do whatever you can to make her comfortable.

*Ask family and friends if they can help out after the baby gets there, like making meals and freezing them so you can heat them in the microwave later on, help with cleaning the house, or just to watch the baby so the two of you can catch up on some much needed sleep.

*Make sure you have a bag ready with a newborns outfit, nice smelling shampoo for the new mommy, her robe if she would prefer it to the hospital gowns, something for her to do (books, puzzles, etc.), hairbrush, deodorant, stuff she uses on a daily basis.

*Make arrangements to stay the night with her the first night in the hospital. Its hard for a new mommy to be alone, the baby blues could kick in early, and the hospital will supply you with an air mattress for the night, you just have to ask for it.

Just be patient with your wife and the time it takes to get the little one out. I'm so happy for you! Congrats!

Answer 8

Prepare several of your favorite meals and freeze them. Then when you are busy and tired you will be able to pop them in the microwave. People are going to offer you a lot of advice, whether you want it or not. After awhile it will start getting on your nerves! The only thing I can tell you is to relax, you won't "break" the baby. You kind of learn as you go and that's okay. Oh, and don't hesitate to call the Dr. if you are scared of something, they are used to it and many of them have their nurses take the phone calls, the nurses can be very helpful! Good Luck and Congrats!

Answer 9

if your wife is mean to you during delivery you wont care. don't be scared you'll do fine when it happens you got a long wait ahead so take your time, heck i've heard all kids of stuff like taking showers, ironing clothes and packing and feeding kids before going to hospital. just rest and love each other cause the next several years are the scary parts and only your love will get you through that.

Answer 10

Mr. Williams, you've rehearsed this? You have touched my heart. You don't need advise sir, you sound like you are a wonderful husband, and will be a wonderful Dad. Love is what it is all about and sir, you most definitely have that. Good Luck to you, your wife, and your new baby. Life will never be the same. It will be better.