2007-03-12 12:35:17 · 24 answers · asked by MakeThingsRight 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I should of clarified...I have been separated from my wife for 5 months and she already knew about this relationship. Of course I love my girlfriend, but have two kids with my wife. Thanks for the suggestions.
2007-03-12 13:24:31 · update #1
The question is so simple...with no other information. But I'll give it my best shot. Stick with who you really love. If you love you wife stay with her. But you have to tell her about her up-coming step child. If she don't want you anymore afterwards, you might as well marry your girlfriend. If you love your girlfriend...divorce your wife because you'll only end up hurting her if you stay with her. Oh yea, you still will have to tell her about the baby. Good luck and have fun because I know it wouldn't be easy!
2007-03-12 12:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by Silent Jay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Putting all feelings aside myself, no, do not divorce your wife, you made a commitment to her. Tell her what happened with a repentant heart, meaning that you are sorry for what you did, not that it is getting you caught now, and that you will NEVER do it again. Then make sure you take care of your kid with out having any relationship with the woman who should have been smart enough to stay away from a married man. You are going to have a tough time staying away from her and cutlivating a relationship with your kid so volenteer to keep the kid with you and your wife.
2007-03-12 19:51:20 · answer #2 · answered by emerys4christ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is your wife you are talking about not just anybody if you married her. You made the choice to have an affair but why should she suffer from it. If you still love your wife the best thing to do it to stay with her and work through this. The child that is on the way just make sure you are there for him or her.
2007-03-12 19:52:23 · answer #3 · answered by 2g4u 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, your wife will probably never be able to trust you again and now there is a child that will be a constant reminder that she will have to help pay for if you two stay together. You need to give her the option as to what she wants to do with the marriage if you think you want to be with her. Otherwise relieve her of yourself and pay your child support, I would say if your girlfriend knew about your wife... she is about as trust worthy as you are and if you two get together one or both of you will break the marriage vowels at one point. You and that girlfriend need to get your act together before you spread this behaviour to a child.
2007-03-12 19:48:52 · answer #4 · answered by 2007 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No not at all... You should stay married and work on fixing and healing your marriage BUT you need to be there for the baby when it is born as you are the father. Does your wife know about this yet? How does she feel about it?
2007-03-12 19:53:57 · answer #5 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats stupid...
erm...isn't that cheating in the first place?
but if you and your wife are really close, you should be able to make that decision TOGETHER!
but if not.
how do you think her trust level with you will be after she has to live with the fact that you have another kid by another woman, while you were married to her.
Think about her side, and THEN make your decision.
also your girlfriend...is this your mistress or do you and ur wife have an open relationship!
2007-03-12 19:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by Corona & Lime <3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your wife, she should be the one to decide whether to divorce you or deal with YOUR cheating for the next 18 years of her life. Best of luck to your child and wife.
2007-03-12 20:16:58 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No stay with your wife and let her know of your mistake and ask for her forgiveness and then take care of your responsibility.
Or else you will be asking us this question again after you leave your wife and marry your girlfriend and leave her also and marry another girlfriend.
2007-03-12 19:51:21 · answer #8 · answered by Dazanix 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well what does your wife think???? What do you want to do? If you do divorce your wife and marry your girlfriend, do it for love and nothing else
2007-03-12 19:42:42 · answer #9 · answered by Rosie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well... if you love your girlfriend more than your wife... then yes. but if you love your wife more than your girlfriend then its best to stay. just because she's pregnant doesnt mean that you have to get married. lots of people can get along fine with having children and not being married. so it all depends on who you love.
2007-03-12 19:50:24 · answer #10 · answered by DyMeNsTaR127 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋