Did you marry your one true love, if there even is such a thing? Or did you marry a great person that you thought you could have a good life with?
Just wondering if most married people felt that their spouse was the only one for them or if they just felt like it was time to get married and this person was the best one for them.
2007-03-12 11:43:33 · 20 answers · asked by RedDevyl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i ask b/c i always hear people gushing about their marriage, saying they were so in love with the person. it's a bit cynical i know, but everyone can't have married their one true love. can they?
2007-03-12 11:49:36 · update #1
My mom got married for the third time, and I know she is very happy. When I asked her husband why the heck he married mom after five years together, he said she is the best "thing" that ever happened to him. When I asked mom why the heck... bla-bla-bla... she said she finally met her "true love". It is almost funny to see them together because they jump out of their skin to try to make each other as comfortable as they possibly can. He cooks for her, make sure she takes vitamines every day, packs her gym bag, massages her fit in the evening. And knowing that mom went through two painful divorses and a depression, I see her giggling like a teenager when he tries to kiss her in the neck... I think they are the best match for each other and are happy even if they met being 35 and 40.
2007-03-12 12:07:31 · answer #1 · answered by zomba_ru 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married for love and for a good life with him... I guess i married him for both.... If you dont marry for love then you have nothing and are marrying for the wrong reasons. Yes there is such a thing as one true love and someone you are meant to be with for the rest of your life. We have a great and happy marriage and are now more in love then ever and it only gets better and stronger with time... We are married for going on 8 years and together for going on 9. I am so happy to be his wife and am proud to carry his last name and am glad that i have married him and have not regrets whatsoever so YES i feel he is my one true love and God's will for my life.
2007-03-12 19:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is such a thing as true love and sole mate.
I didn't like my hubby the first time I met him, but years later we got together and started dating "in High School". During the time we were dating, he decided to break it off, well that's when I realized to my surprise that I loved him and only wanted him to be happy, If not with me then another. Well he came back to me within a week as he loved me too. I feel the key to this issue is to not sleep around and only be with one person after marriage. Then you learn all the good stuff together. AND LOVE IS LIKE A FINE WINE AND DOES GET BETTER WITH AGE.
2007-03-12 19:57:38 · answer #3 · answered by Daisy05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe in "one" true love. There could be many "true loves" in one's life. My past marriage was to my true love; although it ended, I don't feel it invalidates the love we had felt for each other when we were married.
I am now re-married, and I feel this one is also the "true love", as well as a great person whom I can have a good life with. Regardless of how things might turn out in the long run, the love I feel right now *is* true.
2007-03-12 19:31:31 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you ready for this?
I married a woman, or should I say I made up my mind to marry a woman I met within a week. And she did likewise.
She was a hottie, very intelligent, witty, fun, organized, dedicated....what was not to love?
And she felt the same toward me.
She seduced me on the first date, and nailed me on the second. I was hooked.
We actually waited a few years till I finished college, but basically we enjoyed each other from the very start, if you know what I mean.
36 years later, we're doin' just great. One son, a grandson, we're retired and livin' the good life.
2007-03-12 19:17:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, lets see. I guess I can say I thought my husband was perfect for me and I knew how much he would always love me. Does that mean that I don't love him and think that I could do better? NO. I think that people know when the person is right, if you marry for the wrong reason in the long run you are ruining both of your lives, because that person deserves a person who will love them the same way they love.
I think as time goes on your love grows deeper and it changes.
2007-03-12 19:46:10 · answer #6 · answered by loulou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married a guy that I felt comfortable with, but was not really in love with and had no real passion for or attraction to. I ended up getting a divorce, so I would say wait for love.
2007-03-12 19:46:14 · answer #7 · answered by innocence faded 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married the most terrific guy and we are happily in love twenty-four years later (today's our anniversary!)
However, I don't believe everyone has one "soul-mate". If so, what if that person was on the other side of the world?
I think that most people could be happy with any number of suitable mates. And then there are those who should never get married, because they won't get along with anybody!
2007-03-12 18:51:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I definitely married my true love (the second time around). I'm very happy for the last 20 years. He's my best friend, my knight in shining armor and my husband!
2007-03-12 18:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by Starla_C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married my true love because trust me if he wasn't my true love I would have left a long time ago.
2007-03-12 19:44:45 · answer #10 · answered by bbh77 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋