Who's fault is it? The parents' or the teenagers'?!?

Question

Do you think that parents or teenagers are at fault for their problems?

Do you really think teenagers are as bad as people say?

Do you think how people talk about teenagers is fair?

Are you a bad teenager?

Are you treated like crap or wrong becuase you are a teenager?

Problems you have had with adults?

Why do parents treat teenagers like crap?

Anything you have to add?

I'm not against all adults. I have a lot of older friends. But here's what Im thinking about:

I have this friend (seriously, it's not me lol) and she's the nicest person i know. she works hard at school (even though she doesn't make the best grades), cleans all the time, and her parents still treat her like crap. she never talks bad to them either. (i can't understand how she does it). anyways, she cooks, cleans, even makes her dad's plate, drink, etc. cleans the whole house, rarely talks but her brothers have to do nothing and can go wherever they want when she can't. she's 2 yrs older than the oldest one. he treats her like crap and i hate that my friend has to deal with that.

also, another one, her dad never wanted her and her mom left her when she was a baby. then, her dad gets a girlfriend (w/her daughter the same age as my friend) who one night starts yelling and throwing things at her, hits her, and has my friend arrested.

personally, i just want to focus on school and college but my parents bully my little brothers and sisters. when i stand up from them (3 of them) i get yelled at and blamed for my parents problems even though they started long b4 i was born. ive been kicked out, but they bring me back saying they 'don't want to make it too easy on me'. im almost 18 and am moving out the moment i do. i know many teens in the same situation. none of my friends even do drugs or ditch school or make bad grades. this is just wrong. i want to take care of myself and make my own decisions and stuff but i can't.

Answer 1

i'd say both because both are really at tough times at that point.

i don't think all teenagers are bad. just like in an earlier question in this category. someone said that when she takes her little brother places, people think he's her son.people tend choose to judge teenagers before they get to know them.

as i said up there^^^. people*especially older people* say that these days teenagers aren't educated well enough. that they're stupid. that they don't have respect at all. when it's the older people that, as i said judge them all as a whole. which isn't fair.

lol i hope not

yea. whenever im angry about something and things like that, my mom just blows it off saying, "oh you're just about to be on your period. that's all it is", or "this is just a bad time, blablabla" and i occasionally hear the word hormones in there,when most of the time, the parents don't even care enough to investigate about the problem, jsut writing it off as being a 'teenager thing'

teachers. i have two teachers who do not show any respect at all to the students. one, cannot control her class at all. the other, think's she miss bigshot and that she's so much better than us. it's like that one scene in that movie "Matilda". im big and you're little; im the adult you're the child; im in authority you are to follow me. in reality we are. but not when she does not respect us. we are reaching out to be equal. she's also a homophobe and racist.

parents treat teenagers like crap because they have forgotten what it was like to be one. drugs, sex, violence, deaths, unruly teachers, no one to care or actually let you say what you need to get out. that's what's wrong with these teenagers nowadays. keeping everything in. all their anger. if someone blew up at my school, they'd be this close, )(, to being kicked out. and you couldn't cry either, or you would earn the streotype of being the crybaby. if you kept it in long enough to start cutting yourself, you would automatically be emo. if you wore chains and spikes, you'd be gothic. if you wore abercrombie or hollister, you're a prep. play a sport? jock. quiet? you're most likely a math geek.people push the youngins down so low they begin to hate themselves. everything is their fault.to are worthless. only keeping enough to strength to make it out alive.

woo im tired.

Answer 2

1. Both. Teens are old enough to make their own decisions, but parents still need to parent them.

2. Some are, some aren't. As a teenager, I find most of my teenage peers to be spoiled, ill-mannered brats, but there are plenty who are normal, intelligent people.

3. No, not usually, as people tend to generalize and that's never fair.

4. No; actually, I joke with my parents all the time about what I COULD be like. I'm a little snippy and disrespectful at times, but in general, I consider myself a good teenager.

5. No, mostly people think I'm older (or else far younger) than I am, and my manners are good enough that they don't judge me on age most of the time.

6. The most trouble I get from other adults (I'm 18, so I'm technically an adult myself) is that they think I'm inexperienced or immature. Once they realize I'm not, I have no trouble, but until then they tend to look down at me. It was worse when I was 16 and assistant coach of the swim team; I really had to act authoritative to get the adults to listen even though I was assistant coach.

7. Some do and some don't. Personally, if I ended up with a brat for a teenager I'd be less than cordial with them too, probably.

8. Not really, just that if teens did less partying and complaining and goofing off, we'd be treated more respectfully. And that some adults need to get off their high horse and realize age doesn't equal maturity.

Answer 3

1. Teenagers are at fault for most of their problems. While parents are big influences teenagers pretty much decide how their life will be. If a teen has a good state of mind then they'll most likely be happy and well adjusted--if they have a bad state of mind then they'll most likely be miserable.

2. No, I don't think teenagers are as bad as people say. Sure, many teens have major attitude problems but I don't feel generalizing is a good thing.

3. Nope, People generalize teenagers when there are some good ones BUT many teenagers do make mistakes and I feel adults should be more understanding at times.

4. Nope, I wasn't.

5. At times but that was just part of being a teenager.

6. When I was still living with my parents I had problems with their rules. Other then that I was pretty good.

7. Parents don't just decide to treat their teens like crap. Most of the time the teen deserves it or has lost their parents trust by getting bad grades, getting in trouble, or breaking rules.

Teenagers feel like they're misunderstood when they really are understood but by people who know a lot more about life. You live you learn but that doesn't make you bad or stupid. Just learn from your mistakes and own up to the fact that you could be wrong.

I hope this helps. It sounds like you've had a rough day--I hope it gets better!

Answer 4

1. Mostly teens. They are the ones that do it, not the parents.
2. No, but a good deal of them are guilty of charges
3. No, but same as #2.
4. I don't do drugs, I am still virgin, I've never been arrested. Does that count for anything?
5. No. I try to stay responsible and if I was out of line, I say so.
6. I normally don't have problems with adults or my elders. Sometimes they didn't see my point of view, but it's normally not a problem of them, but me or something I did.
7. My parents don't.

8. (My additions) The whole reason teens are found as "bad" is because they don't take responsibility. If they did something wrong, they should get the blame, not the parents. Take responsibilities for your actions and you will seem older and people respect you more.

Answer 5

I will say that their are both bad and good parents.
There are some good teenagers and then their are some that just don't care what they do or say.
I don't hear anyone talking about all teenagers in general but perhaps their cousin, friend or daughter. I was once a teenager and i will tell you that i gave my parents no grief. I done what was asked of me. At the time i did think they were unfair in letting me go places like to the movies, etc because they would say i was too young or something could happen to me. I know that done that out of love, they were not trying to hold me hostage and not let me live my life. They just didn't want me to MESS up my LIFE or something bad happen with all the wack jobs that are in this world.
You cannot blame your problems on your parent's. If i had a problem or if i do now i don't blame my parents. You are the one who makes your life the way it is. Your parents are not telling you to run with the wrong crowd, do drugs or get pregnant. They tell you the opposite of that right? No one ever talked about me that i know of when i was a teenager. My mom and dad didn't give me hell growing up.

Alot of parents do the best they can with their kids and if their kids grow up to nothing but trouble then it is the child's fault not the parent's.
You cannot blame everyone else for your problems and you will see that when you get older.

I am not trying to be nosy or what have you but your friend that you are talking about, you do not know what happens behide closed doors. She may be the sweetest person that you know but she could be acting up so badly for that is the reason she is having a hard time with her parents. I knew so many girls like that in school that would be so nice and all and fight with their parents all of the time but it was because she was wanting to run wild and they didn't let her so she would raise kane with them but then pretended to be the greatest teenager ever.

I don't think that most parents treat their kidw like crap, they only love you and want the best for you.
Answer this: If you got pregnant are you going to blame your parents or yourself?
Are you going to say well mom should have taken me and put me on birth control or are you going to say i knew what chance i was taking when i decided to have sex?

I don't think alot of things are fair but hey that is how it is..Life isn't always far but what are you really going to do?

Answer 6

I think it's the parent's fault for not raising the children with values and morals.
Do you really think teenagers are as bad as people say?
Yes I do.
Do you think how people talk about teenagers is fair?
Yes it is fair. Teenagers are immauture and spoiled.
Are you a bad teenager?
I was never a bad kid.
Are you treated like crap or wrong becuase you are a teenager?
I was treated like crap by my teachers and mom and stepdad all the time I was a teenager.
Problems you have had with adults?
I hated half of my teachers.
Why do parents treat teenagers like crap?
Because they deserve it. They should learn not to talk back to their elders and run wild in the streets.

Answer 7

Do you really think teenagers are as bad as people say?

Yes

Do you think how people talk about teenagers is fair?

Yes (I am 15)

Are you a bad teenager?

No

Are you treated like crap or wrong becuase you are a teenager?

No

Problems you have had with adults?

None

Why do parents treat teenagers like crap?

They deserve it.

Anything you have to add?

No.

Answer 8

Do you think that parents or teenagers are at fault for their problems? Both. The parents 'give' and the teens 'recieve' if you get me.

Do you really think teenagers are as bad as people say?
No I don't. Partly since I'm one myself.
Do you think how people talk about teenagers is fair?
define 'people'

Are you a bad teenager?
Nope.

Are you treated like crap or wrong becuase you are a teenager?
Nope. I'm treated just like an adult and I'm 15.

Problems you have had with adults?
My parents? They trust me about as much as they'd trust blancing on a piece of string instead of a type rope. Basically the only probles I have with them are trust issues.
Why do parents treat teenagers like crap?
They don't. They just want to protect. Although there is the exception to some who just take out a bad day on their kids everyday.....

Anything you have to add?
Nahh I'm cool.

Answer 9

I think there's a whole sort of prejudice with teens and adults. Adults see most teens as wild and unruly. Teens see most adults and fun haters, strict. No, I don't think I'm a bad teenager. I have done a few stupid things in my life. But not over the edge. No, I don't like how adults talk about teenagers, but adults don't usually like to hear their description by teenagers. Teenagers are not as bad as people say. Some may get unruly, but I blame that on all the negative resources in the world. ie. violent games, drugs, addictive sex. Well, good luck on your question!

Answer 10

i think that it is both teens and parents because the teens make their own desisions but look back at what there parents have done and think that well if they did it than i can too. i dont think teens are as bad as people say they just have alot to go through. i do not think that teens are talked about fairly becuase they have to learn from there mistakes and just putting them down does not help the situation. I am not a bad teen but i dont really do anything eigther i am always at home, people dont treat me like crap that i know of i mean not to my face anyway. a big problem i have had with adults is getting them to agree with me...parents treat teens like crap becuase they are looking down on them and saying god they are just like me...which most parents DONT want.. dont let adults get to you. they will realize when you are older that becuase of what you have done as a teen has made you a better person by learning from your mistakes