How does one appear kind & happy when in deep thought, and not appear angry?

Question

I have this problem where when I think deeply about anything, especially when I'm walking, when people see me they think I look angry or upset. I could be thinking about what I want to order for lunch yet people will still think I'm upset about something. What does one have to do to appear nice and kind to people even when in deep thought?

I ask because it's making people think negatively of me. People have actually told me they thought I was an angry person before they ever even spoke to me. I even smile a lot more now because of it, but when thinking about something or trying to figure out something, my face naturally goes from smile to default. Sadly, I see that my default face looks like an evil face, so it seems to other people. Since we live in a world were people judge your entire being on your looks, I need to know how to fix this.

It's really not fair since some other people who look happy even at default don't have to change in order to be seen positively.

ESweetPea - "I just tell myself that those who always look "happy" aren't taken seriously when they need to be. HA! "

Haha, thats great.

kmv - Woiw, I never said or implied that my issue with this is more important than powerful world sufferings. I was just looking for answers here to better my professional life. Calm down and take a deep breath.

Answer 1

Eh, think happy thoughts and if you don't look happy at first, maybe you can change people's minds when you start talking.

I get this a lot. Apparently, I look aloof and cranky when I'm just thinking. Try to engage people with your eyes--make eye contact, try to project pleasant feelings toward them.

I just tell myself that those who always look "happy" aren't taken seriously when they need to be. HA!

Answer 2

Life's not fair!!! For goodness sake if this is your biggest issue than get down on your knees and thank the Lord. I'm sorry but when I think of all the suffering in the world and then I read something like this and I just can't help but feel like we really need to work on the bigger issues.
I guess since you are aware of the "problem" you just need to relax and don't stress over it.

Answer 3

i know how you feel!!! I really do!!!! I have the same problem and when i daze off people ask me if i'm okay or something...So i usually try to pretend i'm reading or something at my desk and when i walk i just look around the hallways so i don't daydream and look mad...

Answer 4

hey kmv, he/she doesnt need to be preached to. i have the same problem, except i always look angry, and i kinda can be when im thinking and someone disturbs me...