its affecting my school work and my behavior and i don't know what to do
2007-03-12 11:00:03 · 8 answers · asked by Brittanie C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh i'm sorry to hear that, it is hard when parents divorce. Just to tell you a little bit about myself I'm 23 and I have a 6 year old son. I recently got divorced last year and it was extrememly hard. I have been feeling so guilty because I feel that its going to affect my child. The reason that I tell you this, is because you are not the only one getting affected by your parents break up. I'm pretty sure your mom and dad are feeling it too. Sweetie turn to either one or even both, talk to them. Tell them how you feel, Its the worst feeling in the world to feel like you are all alone with this pain, but in reality you are not. i know its hard, and its only natural for you to be going thru some tough times, but now is the time for you to be strong, and realize that your behavior if its bad, is only going to make things worse. Talk to your parents, again let them know how you feel, they love you very much and I now for a fact they are hurting because they know that their divorce is causing you pain. God Bless...
2007-03-12 11:10:24 · answer #1 · answered by Alex 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Know that the decision to divorce was given an immense amount of consideration. Your parents didn't take this lightly.
Do you want your parents to be happy? Do you think you should stay in a relationship, even if it hurts more than it feels good? I think people are entitled to be happy. Hopefully, when people get married, it's forever. But life happens. People change.
Divorce doesn't mean you're going to lose either parent. It definately is a lifestyle change and the break-up of a family is very sad, but unfortunately your choices are limited. You can accept it or you can fight it. Since your parents are obviously going through some difficult times, please be patient and with them. Don't choose sides unless you have a good reason, such as abuse.
Good luck sweetie, your life is going to change a lot. But sometimes change is for the better.
2007-03-12 11:11:38 · answer #2 · answered by katydid 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just think of your parents as two separate individuals who have a right to be happy and who have taken a step towards that goal. If it means that they have to divorce, then just hope that they each find what they are looking for eventually.
It is hard to see your family fall apart but what is worse is letting yourself go too, because of something that has nothing to do with you. Good luck.
2007-03-12 11:06:55 · answer #3 · answered by green_baby_dragon 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are in a bad situation, that only time will help. I know this sounds corny right now, but time really does heal. Perhaps you should seek medical attention if your grades and behavior are affected by this. There are medications that can help you through this.
2007-03-12 11:08:34 · answer #4 · answered by jbpammy004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try councelling... honestly, it really helps.. they can help you learn to vocalize your feelings and then learn to change them so you can be happier... and know that it was not your fault... adults dont ever get divorced because of kids, its because they just aren't right for each other anymore... sometimes that happens... people can grow upart and its always sad when that happens, but i am sure your parents love you dearly and ya don't regret a thing... if they had never happened, u would have never happened, and they know that... so they are very happy they have you and just because they are no longer together does not change the fact that they love you...
2007-03-12 11:07:14 · answer #5 · answered by shiningstar1313 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Their divorce is not an excuse to not do your homework. Or to go out and do bad things. Be the best you can be and do the best you can do.
2007-03-12 11:09:40 · answer #6 · answered by Kari R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't blame yourself. They did this to you, you should be angry and both of them. Maybe yell at both of them 1 time to make yourself feel better and move on.
2007-03-12 11:04:22 · answer #7 · answered by Sparky 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AM your parents.
Figuratively speaking of course.
YOU will survive...don't risk your future because of a situation that is out of your control.
2007-03-12 11:06:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋