Ok... Im a freshman in High School and I really want to make the most out of my years and REALLY enjoy myself. The problem is, I have quite a few 'friends' but no really good friends. I feel lonely and i never get invited anywhere or have people to talk to. I have never been asked out and just really want to have a good time these four years. Can anyone give me ideas of how I can feel better about my high school experience. I am #1 in my class for ranking so a lot of kids just think of me as being smart, so that's a handicap for me as well. I am also recovering from anorexia currently and don't know if that is holding kids back too. I just really need your help and advice please!!
2007-03-12 10:51:32 · 3 answers · asked by Sweetie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
first, it is no one's business that u are reovering from something... try to keep that to urself because people are afraid of the unknown... then, just be urself... when i started highschool, i came from a different school then all the other kids.. they all knew each other and i knew no one.. it was very hard to make friends and i don't think i really started making close friends with people i didn't know from before till my sophemore year... sure, i had friends and even a couple boyfriends in freshman year, but nothing serious or anything... just be yourself.. try to get involved in extracurricular activities that will cause you to spend more time with other people and they will get to know you outside of class... try to be a bit outgoing and people will naturally gravitate to ur confidence... and with confidence come friends who can eventually turn into best friends... and maybe even boyfriends... it will come... don't get frusterated, give it time and be yourself.. congrats on ur recovery and keep up the good work,... if you need or want someone to talk to, email me...sis
2007-03-12 11:02:22 · answer #1 · answered by shiningstar1313 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok...well you said that lots of people are your friends, so the problem lies with you not having a group of CLOSE friends. this is fyn! i used to be like that too.. and even though i got along with everybody, i felt lonely and out of place. then i just stopped and thought, right, im sick of this, and every day i hung out with different people. yes, a bit of a JI clinging to people, but i didnt really care and they didnt seem to mind. after a while of this, i thought - who did i enjoy hanging out with the most? then i stuck with the group, and because it felt a bit wierd, i asked somebody if it was ok to hang out with them and she was really happy and found it a complement. now i have 3 main groups of mates and loving it. as for the anorexia thing, honestly dude dont worry bout it.
2007-03-12 11:29:14 · answer #2 · answered by ilovemilkshakes123 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To make the 4 years of high school count, just talk to people, join clubs, get envloved in things. If you dont like the friends that you have F.U.C.K them, make new ones.....getting envolve in school, is a plus because you meet so many people that you well find that you have in common with....and well if you really want, get your friends to get involve....
2007-03-12 11:46:49 · answer #3 · answered by Sweet Momma 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋