He adopted a little girl with his ex-wife. during a time they were having problems, he figured that this would help her and get them through it. well sad to say they divorced three months later. NOW! within five months after their divorce she remarries and he is paying 178 a week cs. the girl is now 6 yrs old and calls the other man daddy the mom tells everyone that her new hubby is the daddy. they even went as far as putting it in the newspaper that she is mom and her new hubby dad. She gives him the run around everytime he calls wanting to see the little girl. He says that he hates to come into her life when she is not used to him as her dad. He is hurt by how she has allowed her new husband to evict him out of the childs life I want to know is there anyway he can give up his parental rights, and give the child to them, can he now put the child back up for adoption and force her to readopt the child. Or give up his parental rights or enforce his rights and get involved in her life?
2007-03-12 10:45:24 · 11 answers · asked by angelheart 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh I forgot to say she couldn't have children was another reason he adopted the child with her. she was pressuring him to do this. He was advised by his mom and family not to do it. since they were having such bad times together. but as I said he did it anyway, to help her become a mother.
2007-03-12 10:48:03 · update #1
well like for instance he called her and tell her that he wishes that someone bring the child to meet him at a location he used to see her at. The ex tell him she will get back to him about it. That was yesterday, he is suppose to see the child tomorrow, no call.. I tell him to text her because he knows how the husband reacts to him calling his house. so he has given up on seeing her tomorrow. Also, he disclosed information to me just yesterday, that he used to go visit the child at the daycare center, this woman took his name off the list of people who can have contact with the child there she said he was disrupting her life. this is what the worker tell him. Now, he was stopped by a daycare worker from seein his adopted daughter, because of her ignorance,
2007-03-15 13:42:06 · update #2
Their divorce decree should state his visitation rights and if she is forbidding to see his daughter, then take her back to court for she is in violation of the divorce decree and as long as he pays child support then he has every right. She wants his support money but doesnt want him in her life. Doesnt work that way and you have the courts on your side.. The day he signed those adoption papers for whatever reason he became the childs legal father guardian. This is the same if the child was born to them. He needs to think of that little girl above all rest. She probably has been thru enough so get back into her life and to hell with what Mom thinks. Use the legal system. Good luck
2007-03-12 10:57:37 · answer #1 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
# 1 and foremost:
STOP TREATING AND SEEING THE CHILD AS AN OBJECT.
Now that #1 is clear, this is what you need to understand:
Have your bf go find a lawyer and go over his rights. The maximum your bf should do is just cancel the rights to the little girl. The child's head is being mixed up by these crazy adults, and she will end up so screwed up by this mess, that it is doubtful that she will turn out emotionally stable (if what you are saying about the ex wife is correct).
Best case scenario is to be the least disruptive to the child and allow this ex wife to continue with new hubby and having them continue with the appearance of being one family. The sooner your bf can cancell his parential rights and stop with the child support (or, have a court appointed guardian to the funds to put directly into a trust fund for the girl for when she reaches adulthood - which would help her the best!).
What tangled webs we adults weave for our children to try to sort out for themselves ! Poor babies!!!
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2007-03-12 10:55:46 · answer #2 · answered by YRofTexas 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The new husband can adopt the child and your bf can give up his rights. Your bf needs to sit down and have an adult conversation with the ex-wife and new husband.
As protection, I would keep those clippings of the newspaper, etc., with the date and all. It is evidence and may be needed one day when your bf reasonably realizes child support might not be his responsibility in this picture.
2007-03-12 10:50:28 · answer #3 · answered by LetMeBe 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Does the new husband wish to adopt this child? It seems from what you're saying that this boyfriend doesn't have a great attachment to this child, or you wouldn't be asking this question. If a new family has formed, then he should let the girl go, and let the new 'father' adopt her.
2007-03-15 10:38:54 · answer #4 · answered by imputedgrace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He can give up his adoptive rights IF the "new daddy" wants to take over and adopt her. Do you have any kids with him? What is tying you to this man that is causing you so much grief?? I know it is touchy with matters of the heart, but, seriously, you need to move on or forever be dealing with this. Good luck!!
2007-03-12 11:00:55 · answer #5 · answered by jessiekarma 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
properly i could desire to assert that it is not hassle-free to be a young person determine.I have been given pregnant while i replaced into 17 my quickly to be husband replaced into 24.He additionally had a daughter from yet another marriage.We have been given married when I became 18 and had my son that comparable month.i desperate to maintain my son,yet what i did no longer anticipate replaced into him to be disabled.He replaced into alot of artwork to guard and we very nearly lived interior the medical institution,yet I actual could desire to assert that i do no longer remorseful approximately it.I cant think of my stay devoid of him!no longer all people that youthful are able to guard it and who knows what is going to ensue with you and your boyfriend when you consider which you haven't any longer been mutually that long.He could say that he needs the toddler now,yet while the toddler comes he could replace his concepts.i've got been married now for 4 years nonetheless to the comparable guy,my son is doing large and that i merely had a woman new child 3 a million/2 weeks in the past.i ended up graduating extreme college online,yet some circumstances i contemplate whether I ignored out.talk on your mothers and fathers and then maybe you will arise along with your answer.good success!
2016-10-02 00:32:02 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He adopted her so he is her legal father, just as if she were his natural daughter. Your bf needs to own up to his commitments, even if they were not wise ones.
A parent can never ever give up their parental obligation. Even to consider it is evil. There is no excuse for it.
Instead of making excuses over what a bad decision he made, strive to make room for this little girl in your life.
2007-03-12 10:48:28 · answer #7 · answered by Plasmapuppy 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Hahaha, yo man be payin the child support and da ho and her new boo be rakin in da doe. Dat's why I only be payin fo da pampa's. My ho's \gots a find food on dare own, cause I ain't a moneys factory. I do give a crap if ay is my kids.
2007-03-12 10:50:08 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
he adopted her and now has to pay the price, he should have listened to his family on this one. he could get an attorney and see what his options are, but i think he will still have to pay.
2007-03-12 12:23:11 · answer #9 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Too late to cry about that, there is nothing he can do. You on the other hand can find a guy with less baggage.
2007-03-12 10:49:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋