2007-03-12 10:34:13 · 14 answers · asked by dass d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
its the first kid, she is 8 week pregnant we dont have anyother kid, as far as betrayed is concerned she lied to me about her past (that include sleeping with 3 guys, fooling around and oral at random parties) untill she became pregnant, she kissed a guy while with me, and also hide some things of her past that she is now shamefull of.
2007-03-12 10:49:40 · update #1
Depends...do you know if the child is yours? If not, then I'd run very very fast!!!
2007-03-12 10:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by SillyKimmie 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay I think I understand what you are trying to explain (a little confusing though) obviously you found out that she was not honest with her past, which in my opinion its her past before you, and pretty much none of anybody's business, but she did cheat on you while you guys where together, she kissed another guy. Well lets see, the kissing is a problem, that means that she probably was not sure about her feelings towards you and she cheated. The past forget about it, its the past, you probably dont go around telling your girlfriends, or ex-girlfriends what sexual things you did with other people, so why should that be important. Like I said the kissing another guy is the problem here, and now she is pregnant. Okay my advise to you is this, first you need figure out what you feel for this girl, do you love her enough to forget about the cheating and move on? If you are then do it and dont remember the cheating, but if you are not sure you need to talk to her and tell her that you cant really forgive and forget the cheating but you do want to find out if this child is yours. She will probably get very upset because obviously you doubt the fact that this might not be your baby but its understandable she cheated on you. If she fails to agree that you can both mutually get a DNA test then sweetie take her to court. You have every right. You dont want to wait until the baby is born, a few months have passed and she gets you on child support. I suggest you start the process now. Like I said if you can forgive her then do it, but if you cant you need to find out if this is your child before its too late.
2007-03-12 18:01:56 · answer #2 · answered by Alex 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Communicate with her very openly . it;s not her first time so try to get some sort of promise that it was" THE last" for sure .Don't dig into past , focus on your present and future. question her about what she's done recentky when you were part of her life . You guys are having a kid ( i hope that's your baby) and you should resolve your issues now before a new innocent enters into your life.
Please do ask her and yourself if you want 2 continue this relationship and how much commited your are , what are you willing to give up? you should seek some help to sterengthen your relationship caz there's definately something missing ( not your fault )in this relationship /bond ...........
Communicate well before it's too late! Do express your love to her caz sometimes, woman do step out of the relationship when they don't get enough appreciation or respect!
2007-03-12 18:04:08 · answer #3 · answered by Broken 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on whose the father of the 2nd child..... I wouldnt give her another chance, she will do it again - it doesnt matter whether the child has parents who are separated these days - you are still a parent to that child and as long as she dont keep the child away from you after you leave her.
2007-03-12 17:44:46 · answer #4 · answered by boonoora 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever has happened in her past is just that, the past. It has nothing to do with you. You live and learn threw your mistakes. If she is not doing anything to hurt your relationship now I wouldn't bother. Her past is what made her who she is today....don't fault her for that...I'm sure yours isn't much better!
2007-03-12 18:23:09 · answer #5 · answered by WENDY G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd want to make sure the child was actually MINE,if I was you(a guy) before I gave any more chance's!
2007-03-12 19:34:44 · answer #6 · answered by mgle3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes if she did it again no im sorry but you deserve way much better than a girl who wwould betray you exspecailly if she's having your kids !!!!!!!!
2007-03-12 17:50:54 · answer #7 · answered by monnie s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is there another child or her being pregnant is the kid you're referring to? I think we need more info, what type of betrayal are you talking about?
2007-03-12 17:42:22 · answer #8 · answered by hummingbird 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
are you sure he is pregnant with your child? it isn't easy to live with someone you don't trust, whether you both love the same child or not
2007-03-12 18:06:12 · answer #9 · answered by braslinbabe85 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like a jerk. I don't think she should give you another chance.
2007-03-12 18:51:16 · answer #10 · answered by Martin Pedersen 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋