Would my ex be filing false charges if his mom files for his divorce on grounds of adultery, even though I left the house because of his drug and alcohol abuse, physical and emotional abuse, and because he was into illegal activities? Yes his mom is paying for it because he drinks and smokes his paycheck away. I can't afford to contest it, but I was not the one at fault.
2007-03-12 10:19:45 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His mom, I believe, did all the talking. He was only there to sign his name to them. She is the one that told him to keep my stuff that was not moved out of the house (I was too chicken **** to go there by myself to get it out, not to mention some of it is too much for me to move alone...furniture and such). She is the one that told him to change locks on a storage building with some of my other stuff in it. She says jump, and he asks how high. He doesn't take a dump without her permission.
2007-03-12 10:38:13 · update #1
Yes I have proof of the violence, harrassment, stalking, drugs, alcohol and other stuff.
2007-03-12 10:39:06 · update #2
It's easier for you to prove his violence, drug usage, etc. than it is for him and his mother to prove adultery against you. Be glad to get this over and done with, him and his mother are 2 people I wouldn't even let my dog near.
2007-03-12 10:59:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Did you sleep with someone before your divorce was final.
If so, then yes, he can file on those grounds, regardless of his behavior.
If his allegation is true, his behaivor is no excuse for you to also break the vows.
Not speaking to you, but responding to what someone else above said, the fear in a man or woman is not evidence that their spouse is abusive. It could be a parent or self-loathing that cause someone to fear and blame or even project abuse on to their spouse.
I am not saying abuse doesn't happen. What I'm saying is every person who cries spousal abuse is not a victim of abuse. Sometimes it's the "victim" projecting their abuse on to the "abuser" because either they cannot take the guilt of being abusive and/or they believe that if they are abusive, others must also be abusive.
So, to really find abuse, one must look at the behavior of the alleged abuser, not only the condition of the "victim"
2007-03-12 10:26:36 · answer #2 · answered by camys_daddy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you end up with a divorce, what's the diff? You know the truth. He knows the truth. His mommy knows the truth. Most states offer a no-fault divorce. I'd want to be done with the loser as soon as possible.
I mean-- come on- his MOM is filing his divorce papers. Let it end as quickly and as easily as possible. If you knew about the illegal activities and didn't call the authorities, you might be considered an accomplice.
2007-03-12 10:23:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
If he was abusive your personality will show it. You were afraid of him so you left. Any court of law will look up to you for having the guts to remove yourself from that situation instead of staying there. Callyour local Domestic violence shelter for info or go on line for domestic violence info. The worst abuse is verbal and if you have kids you could have had them taken away if you did not leave.
2007-03-12 10:25:32 · answer #4 · answered by Sweetie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Even if all these things are true if when you moved out they can prove that there was infidelity then yes because you are still married. I would contact a lawyer to be safe. There are many that go pro bono on cases such as yours. Good luck.
2007-03-12 10:25:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You just need to hope that you have police reports to back you up on any of this or else it's considered hearsey. Hopefully he cannot prove adultery....your only option would be to contest it...but that's only if it is false accusations against you.
2007-03-12 10:25:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anita G 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You need to contest hun, find a lawyer that will take your case for some probono work or something, don't let the mama's boy get away with the things he did to you....Court is more willing to do things for YOU than for a drunk druggie!
2007-03-12 10:23:59 · answer #7 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did you sleep with someone else while still married? then yes, it is still adultery and he can file charges.
you will have to contest this in court. Check your phone book for legal aid, they may be able to help you on this, especially if there was documented abuse.
2007-03-12 10:23:55 · answer #8 · answered by Kutekymmee 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
#1 go to the court house asked for a waver so you dont have to pay also file a respond go to go and tell your side and if you can get police report show the court just show up if you dont he win
2007-03-12 10:27:27 · answer #9 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
his mom can not file for his devorce unless she has custody of him or some reason.. he has to file it for himself. and he has to prove u cummited adultery. just dont sign it.. u cant just accuse someone of something with out proff. jsut dont sign if u aint got the money to contest it just dont sign thay can not make u.. my husband has already gone threw a devorce so.. i watched him go threw it
2007-03-12 10:25:44 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋