My mother in Law helped him move out. should I remain in contact with her?

Question

My husband met another woman, lied about the affair for 10 months and then moved out. We have two small kids.
My mother in law bought him furniture, a crib and paintings for his wall and let him borrow money for the move. She still wants to remain friends with me. I say, "Why?"
This is what they do. My mother in law got pregnant for my father in law when he was married to someone else. Later in life, he left his family for two years. His sister left her husband for two years, the sister in law left her husband for two years, etc. etc.

Also, on Friday I saw them and she told me how her son wanted us to get back together and on Saturday she had the son and the girlfriend over for lunch.

(Wish I had known this before I married him)

I don't feel that I can trust her. I would prefer to meet them out for dinner maybe every other month with the kids but that is it. My husband has the kids half the time so they can visit with the grandkids then.

Am I being overly sensitive here

Answer 1

wow, the nerve...it sure is very hard to remain on so-called friendly terms w/ those kind of in-laws and ex...but i admire u for taking it all in for ur kids...well, u can be civil but dont have to be friends w/ that woman..a good person wud at least advise the son if she knows her son is in the wrong...she doesnt have to be such a two-faced though...anyway, u can keep contact but for the kids only...never entertain anything else...make sure they teach ur kids right and not the things they do and tolerate

Answer 2

Its obivously something that runs in the family and unfortunately its not like buying a car you cant look under the hood before buying. You need to stay away from this dysfunctional family. Your kids should have time with them but remember not too much they could learn bad habits. There is no reason for you to be associating with them or her dont hurt yourself anymore than you are already have. Good luck

Answer 3

I would probably keep in contact if shes really persistant about it but keep it brief whenever a conversation comes about.
Then again they do say keep your friends close and your enemies closer. Honestly, I can't tell you what I would do in that situation but someone else on here may be able to give you the answer you are looking for, you'll know it when you see it.

Answer 4

No your not! and I agree once a month is more then enough! You have to think about the children now. Is that the kind of life you want them to think is acceptable? Talk about A FAMILY WITH ISSUES.
Don't get mixed up with their stuff. They seem a bit off. Talk to your children and teach them the values of life love and honesty.

Answer 5

I really don't think that you are being over sensitive. When it comes to a mother and her son, she is going to be ther for him no matter what. I had to learn that for myself. My soon to be husband use to do the craziest things. I soon found out that it's only so many times that I could go to his mom. She was not going to let me sit and say to much bad things about him. If you do, Pray about it. That's all I really can say about it.

Answer 6

Not at all! I would not trust her either, tell her nothing you do not want repeated. Try to remain on a friendly basis since there are kids involved. Move on with your Life. Your X husband is not husband material...

Answer 7

your mother in law is two faced, and a back stabber. i would break all contact with them. i would never speak to them again if i were u, this woman is not your friend. if u remain friends she will just carry tales about u back to them. your not being overly sensitive, your right to not trust her, she probably knew about this woman way before u did. break all ties with her.

Answer 8

You don't have to trust her, but for the sake of the kids, you need to remain civil. That is their grandmother, regardless of how you feel about her.

As long as she never talks bad to the kids about you or disrespects you in front of the kids, keep the relationship on civil terms.

Answer 9

She has the morals of an alley cat just like your ex, that is where he got it from. No, I would not be "friends" with her, and I would not allow her to have any additional "visits" with your kids, other than when it is your ex's time with them, she is a bad influence.

Answer 10

I say TRY to remain amicable at least. She is the grandmother of your children, and you SHOULD remain on speaking terms with her. Also speak kindly of her in front of your children, be as respectful as possible.