Genuine help needed..I am being harassed, insulted, critiicized, name called on a forum I got on 2 weeks ago.?

Question

I was very depressed and even somewaht suicidal when I posted initially 2 weeks ago, This forum deals with sleep disorders and I don't want to leave as I am learning more in 2 weeks than in the previous 15 years and see real hope for an assortment of related ills. I started a thread among thousands on sharing alternative treatments for various sleep disorders and it immediately got attacked by people who don't believe in alternative health

When I defended my view, it apparently exacerbated their dislike and about 5 people are being rude and started criticising my intelligence, spelling, character traits, mental health, and tons of things in a very cruel and mean way, I stuck up for myself and now they seem madder than ever in their vigilence to attack me.

I eventually told them I was very vulnerable, dealing with a lot of personal problems, crying from their posts,. and essentially begging them to stop and if they didn't
believe in natural health to please go to any of the thousands of other threads and stop harassing me or go to the 1999 other threads that don't discuss this topic if it bothers them. A few are only posting on my thread and one even is personal messaging his hateful talk.

I would like advice on what is behind this, how to get it too stop and how to get the thread back on topic. Also how to help myself not respond which I am attempting to do but it's hard and not let it get to me. I have learned more in 2 weeks on this website than in 15 years and my doctors and for the first time I feel real ho[pe I may get some of these disorders that have ruined my life for about 25 years so I don't want to leave. I feel like they are trying to chase me away and upset me though they turn it around and say they weren't bashing just before they bash or say essentially leave if you don't like it--we will continue.

Advice badly needed as it is REALLY starting to get me down.
what is with people who kick people when they are already down?

I want to thank EVERYONE for your kind, helpful, and caring answers. You people are tops and restore my faith in people. May each of your lives be blessed.

this is so hard to pick a best..several were good..I will have to come back and reread them to see which you to pick but wish I could pick most of them as many good responses..thanks :)

each time I read these I can't believe how nice and helpful and kind almost all of you are. I wish I would pick a dozen best as most of these answers are tops. Although I can't give you all 10 points, I can tell you that you are stand up human beings and the world could use more people like you. Thanks to all. Thanks to for offes to talk and compliments --I appreciate it.

Answer 1

Tell the a--holes to go pound sand up their a-- and delete them.
Such human skidmarks are beneath contempt and unworthy of any other response. Ignoring their rude and unhelpful comments is the best remedy. Move on and focus on the helpful and positive answers you are getting. Let the other frumps stew in their own bile and venom. To h--- with them!

Answer 2

Yes, and it's cruelty. They don't have to think about it as much as you do. They are hit and run drivers and won't back off or apologize. I only find 2 answers. This is the Internet. So if you can go back with a new name and email change, then do so and assume a persona. Many people do that here, I believe. I've certainly noticed a few.

Stay away from the 'alternative' mentions if you want back in with them because they will clearly not allow you to win even the smallest concession. They are socializing you but also battering you.

I would stay here if it were me. I like it here and I've had others try to tell me to leave. It hurts but there are more nice people than bad. Maybe some of the bad are acting nice too so that makes even more!!

You might get well here and then be able to help others. And it beats trying to convince those knot heads about something. You said you have learned a lot. Do they know when you are just reading and not posting? You can still learn without throwing your own remarks and questions in. You won't change anyone, so give it up. Good Luck!! Some group will be very lucky to get you as a team player, I can tell!! @8-)

Answer 3

I have 3 pieces of advice that can help you.
1) Internet "trolls" are bullies and they feed off of you talking back to them. They will continue to harass you as long as you respond. Because you have responded and shown vulnerabilities, they will continue to attack you no matter what. So remember, never talk to the trolls.

2) Find out who the forum moderator is and ask them to block those trolls and their Internet address. This should help to stop them or slow them down.

3) Clear the cookies and Temp Internet files from your computer. Then go back to that web forum and start a new name there. Use an alternate email address if it asks for one and continue to get the help you seek. Those trolls will have a hard time finding you under a different name.

Answer 4

I had a similar experience at a forum where I went seeking help for something unrelated. What you say reminded me of what I went through.

I know you feel like you are learning more from that forum than you have ever done in a long time, but are you absolutely sure there is not another forum where you can go to on the whole internet that you can get the help and advice you need without getting harrassed? The internet is big, lots and lots of things around if you look for them.

Do a google search, maybe there is a forum somewhere dedicated to natural treatment of sleep disorders. There are lots of yahoo groups and msn groups. It's not really healthy for you to stay in a place like that getting harrassed.

It sounds like they feel threatened by your dedication to natural treatment. Most people know that trying to keep things as natural as possible is usually best in most circumstances, and feel threatened by anyone who is dedicated to natural-ness, when they have made a different decision for themselves.

I have been on both sides of the fence. I have Adult Attention deficit disorder, as well as avoidant personality disorder. I need medication for this--People try to convince me natural is best..better than medication. I know this, but for me the natural treatments just don't work. On the other hand, I'm committed to feeding my child naturally. I breastfeed, and I will continue to do so until my child is ready to stop. If you REALLY want to kick up a stink, try going to a mosty formula feeding/mainstream parenting forum like Babycenter.com, and try to talk about the benefits of breastfeeding in there. They will really hurt your feelings in there for trying to do things naturally.

If these people are getting you to the point of feeling suicidal, you definitely don't need to be in there. I would not divulge any of my personal information to people like that either. In the first place, you do not owe them an explanaition or your confidences to explain such personal things to them. In the other place, like a previous responder posted, they will only use it. Really, they don't care. Try to keep in mind, they are just losers on the internet. In the long run, nothing they say really matters if you don't want it to.

You should beat a hasty retreat from such a place, and try to find somewhere else cool to hangout and get the info and advice that you need. The internet is a big place, you do not need them.

Answer 5

(((hugs)))

That really is awfull, people can be so cruel sometimes.

Just remember that you are never going to meet these people, and they play no important part in your life.

You metioned it is a forum about sleep disorders.Perhaps these people are not getting much sleep and they vent their anger onto the forums because they dont actually know you, if you get my drift.
I bet if you checked to see their other posts they would probably be abusive to others as well.
Some people are just plain nasty.
And others are the kind of people who always think they are right and will not listen to anyone suggesting otherwise.

I would suggest creating a new user account with a different email address and user name, and start all over again, and take note if these bullys and try to avoid them as much as possible on the forums.

Good luck!

Answer 6

You have to seriously realize that there are a gazzilion opinions everywhere no matter where you go.

And we are lucky to have that to be honest
realize also that alot af people abuse that to.

YOU know what to listen to. only you.

So if you find yourself being sucked into their world, you really need to ask yourself why.
Forums are fun and a great many things can be learned.
But skipping abusive postings should be easy...just scroll past that crap..cuz that what it is. nothing to learn there.

If your not learning something that helps you as you read, why are you reading it.

But the best thing i can advise you....THERE ARE TONS OF FORUMS OUT THERE THAT CAN HELP YOU
search around by using google or another search engine.
just type " sleep disorder forum" or "sleep forum" etc.

good luck

Answer 7

My advice is not to worry about it. People in forums and chats are often horribly mean to anybody they see. Why? Because they have nothing better to do, and because they feel like they are safe behind their computer screen, typing letters rather than saying words. I doubt any of the people you are referring to would say these things to your face. This is a form of "online bullying", which is becoming very common in our world. Next time you go online, just ignore them. You're better than them, and you shouldn't have to deal with their insecurity. Good luck!

Answer 8

hey xx well i feel really sorry for you those people are just hateful spiteful people and you could do much people i would like to hear more about what you are going through because you seem very nice and i want to help you maybe you should add nice people on to your contact list and then talk to them about it and if other people Say anything rude your friends will know and they will stick up for you try not to let it get to you the only reason they are doing it is because they have nothing better to do with their sad pathetic lives!!

Answer 9

I would simply delete that forum from my files and not go there anymore. It is bad for your health. It is not worth the effort to try to get it back on topic. Forget it. It was a bad idea.

Answer 10

Many people are decent, but then there are the sharks that smell blood.
The more you admit they're getting to you, the longer they atack, and hang around for you to die, so they can go back in for the real feed.
That's shark behavior,
and that's the way these jerks are.
You cannot control them- only your reactions.