We are in love and we have been together about four years. We have been through so much. Many ups and many downs. the question comes to me because he claims to love me he claims he wants to spend the rest of his life with me but here we sit in a stand still.
2007-03-12 09:53:22 · 8 answers · asked by TATSEL 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Maybe he's not ready to go forward. You can't force someone to do something that they are not ready to do. To do so will only cause resentment and problems down the road.
The best thing for you to do is to either be patient or get out of the relationship.
2007-03-12 09:57:48 · answer #1 · answered by Royalhinney 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is marriage, and living together the deal-buster? Then you need to know that, and so does he. It makes no difference whether you have been a couple for 2 years, 4, 6 or 8, if you are ready to go on and he is not then you will have your answer. There aren't very many things that are deal-busters --- marriage, yes or no, children yes or no, and the real deal-buster is betrayal. So, you have to decide: If you want what you want, and he does not, are you willing to stay if things are as they sit now? And, hon, you are the only one who can decide that.
It's the old "If , Then" contract" " If we don't_____________(marry, move in together) Then it is over." Is It.???
2007-03-12 17:02:12 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Do you mean, you want to get married? Have you spoken to him about it? What did he say? Four years is plenty of time for each of you to figure out what you want out of the relationship. Press him for an answer - but be ready to hear that he doesn't want to marry you. If this is the case, you will ultimately have to decide for yourself what your goal is: to be married, or to be in a relationship with this person.
2007-03-12 17:24:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him know how u feel, which u probably have. See what he says. If he doesnt want to right now and u feel u do , then move on. I know thats not something u want to hear but honestly sometimes thats what they need to realize that they dont want to lose u.
Good luck. I know how it feels.
2007-03-12 17:11:22 · answer #4 · answered by Liz 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting ALL the assets of marriage, without any of the liablilities, of marriage......the old proverbial "Why buy the cow, when you get the milk for free?" scenario. If you want action from him, cut off the "milk"!
2007-03-12 17:08:25 · answer #5 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are both happy and in love i dont see a problem here. surely a piece of paper will not make him love you more or vice versa.
2007-03-12 17:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by carrol_87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds to me like u have the perfect arrangement...or are u wanting marriage and he does not...a piece of paper is not going to declare your love for one another.
2007-03-12 17:07:11 · answer #7 · answered by sunbun 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him to S**T OR GET OFF THE POT
2007-03-12 17:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by Sheila D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋