It went just like that. And of course as you can imagine, i was scared to death. Had the abortion, was scared to death that i would never conceive again. Then a year and a half later i conceived and then lost the baby at 6 weeks by miscarriage. And now, here i am pregnant again, at 6 weeks and scared to death that something bad is going to happen. At every little pain, i start to think i'm going to have a miscarriage and I am praying and keeping my hopes up high and i have faith and hope and love that tells me that everything will be fine this time, but can anyone sympathize with me? Ever been in my situation?
2007-03-12 09:44:32 · 10 answers · asked by ♫Mama of One♫ 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
First of all, the bible says "Do not judge, lest ye be judged!" You are still a woman with feelings, even if you had an abortion, you are still entitled to feel scared and nervous about this pregnancy. Losing a child is the hardest thing for a mother to deal with...and yes, even though you chose to abort the first baby, you do not deserve to lose another child...no one deserves that! The person who called you cruel needs to examine her life and realize that no one is perfect! I will pray for her attitude to change and that she will realize that casting a stone, before examining her own life, is not very smart!
Second, you are not a bad person and you do deserve a healthy pregnancy. Talk to your doctor and have them check you t ease your fears.
Third, turn to Jesus! He will hold you and keep you and your baby safe. He has already forgiven you for your mistakes and is not "punishing" you for them! How ridiculous is it to think that becuase you took a life, that God will take yor baby's life. God is a God of love and life, not death and punishment! You are a child of God and he loves you! Your baby is fine!!! I call you healed and relieved of unecessary fear and doubt, in Jesus' name!
2007-03-12 10:39:06 · answer #1 · answered by Katie L 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I was a nervous wreck with my second pregnancy after a miscarriage. It pretty much ruined the entire first trimester for us. My miscarriage was the kind where the baby's heart stops and they have to do a d+c to remove the fetus because your body doesn't expel it. It was awful. The doctor told us to wait a while before trying again and we planned on a year, but of course 3 months later I was pregnant. I bought a book called "Pregancy After a Loss" and it helped a bit. Just remember that neither abortion nor miscarriage causes subsequent miscarriages. There is no reason you cannot carry the baby to term. Your body will do what it needs to do, either way. If the baby is healthy it will work out. Every week realize you are one week further in and there is a greater chance of it working out. (Personally, I wouldn't get too attached until week 12, but I hate to advise that.)
Good luck! I am sure many, many women can relate to you. Relax and distract yourself with things that make you happy for a few weeks. No heavy lifting though! :)
2007-03-12 18:29:20 · answer #2 · answered by storm_in_teacup 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well stay calm and relax. When you had the miscarriage did they check you out and make sure the abortion did not damage anything. They could check things out on ultrasound with your ovaries and tubes. Some abortions can be harsh on the body and cause trouble for future conceptions. Just do not stress out over little things that can make this pregnancy a rocky experience. I would talk to the doctor about your fears and I am sure they can help your through this. Good luck.
2007-03-12 16:55:37 · answer #3 · answered by luvthbaby2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have never had an abortion but i have had a miscarriage and i understand the worry. i was so scared and nervous that i felt the same way, even after i gave birth to my daughter and for my pregnancy after that i was still scared of it happening again. just try to relax-stress is very harmful during pregnancy. good luck and oh ya, ignore those other rude comments-people need to learn to keep their mouths shut unless thye are going to help
2007-03-12 17:10:51 · answer #4 · answered by emery_sage 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really hope you wont have a miscarriage but once you have an abortion its very possible for miscarriages there after. I wish you the best. I dont understand why you would get an abortion in 2005 and your sad that you lost your baby in 2006. Whats a year? I truly dont believe you deserve a baby once you had that abortion. No I never been in your situation because I would never kill off my baby! btw..Grow up..abortion 2005, miscarriage 2006, preggo 2007? come on now, birth control!!
2007-03-12 17:08:58 · answer #5 · answered by FutureMrsBeck 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I apologize for the people who cannot be nice regarding your question and while they are allowed to voice their opinions, they should not hop on their soapbox to make you feel bad or guilty about the choices you made in your life. In dealing with your pregnancy right now, congrats. Day by day after miscarriage your confidence level will increase that baby is going to stay with you this time.
2007-03-12 17:17:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many can sympathize with you and you are far from being alone. Many women(even those without your history) are afraid of misscariage, and worry about every little pain. Try to stay relaxed and not too worried. Try paryer, relaxation excercises and breathing. If you stress out too much it could be bad for baby. Best of wishes for you and your baby.
2007-03-12 17:01:00 · answer #7 · answered by krissy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God works in mysterious ways...U took one of Gods children away by having an abortion that was meant to be on this earth...Your unborn baby was gods child that he was having u carry..u didnt have a right to make a decision whether the baby lived or died..abortion is cruel and the last moments of your babys life he/she was in pain which is horrible. Adoption doesnt cost a dime,i dont know why u wouldnt even think about that option..u selfish selfish people drive me crazy!!!
One of my friends had an abortion then two days later her 11 month old baby boy passed away in bed one day...my other friend has 2 kids,she got pregnant again and had an abortion..she got pregnant again and was going to keep it she lost her baby in miscarriage..she got pregnant again months later and her baby passed away at 14 weeks inside her womb..this is reality...u f up your uterus,your body and health and things like this tend to happen..its never right that these happen but they do...i hope u dont have a miscarriage as that is sad for the baby,but i feel no sympathy for you...how can pick and choose which of your babies live and which die?
2007-03-12 17:00:13 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 4⤋
no, but I will pray for you and your baby
i wish you lots of luck....best wishes and congrats!
2007-03-12 16:55:06 · answer #9 · answered by ~*common sense*~ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no never been in your shoes...but i'll pray for you dear...
2007-03-12 16:51:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋