I snooped in his pictures and found one that bothered me?

Question

My boyfriend & I have known each other for 12 years-always been best friends. About 2 years ago, we started seeing each other on the sly (while we were both cheating on people) He broke it off with the girl he was seeing but I continued to see my boyfriend at the time. He got fed up that I wasn't making a decision one way or the other & became interested in someone else. He told me all about her, I don't think anything ever happened but he wanted to stop seeing me & maybe try something with her. This all happened about a year ago. Now we are together & live together. I recently came across pictures of the two of them from that time (a year ago) and they were dancing & having fun.. Nothing incriminating. But it bothered me SO much to the point of making me physically nauseas and sick! She was the one that grabbed his attention while he was angry with me--it made me jealous to see them having fun. Do I tell him I snooped? Do I have trust issues?

Answer 1

I'd keep all this to myself, if I were you. You definitely don't want him to feel that you're invading his privacy; also, he's clearly chosen you over her, so there's nothing left to be jealous about. Maybe you'd feel better if you took some pictures of the two of you out together having fun?

Answer 2

You snooped and found something you didn't like. Curiosity killed the cat as they say. You know what happened to Black Beard's wife too don't you? Anyway, you do have trust issues but I wouldn't tell him you snooped. Just get over it. What were you doing at the same time he was seeing this person? You were seeing someone else. So why should it bother you? If he saw a photo of you with whomever you were with at the time, would he freak out? Probably not.

Answer 3

Let's recap. You and your man cheated on your respective partners to see each other, he had some fun with a girl that he told you about, and you're sick over it a year later? And you found these pictures because you were snooping?

I don't think you need to tell him that you snooped, but I think this is the last time that you do it. And I do think you have some trust issues. If you can't work on them by yourself, it's time for counseling.

Answer 4

If he provided you with permission to use his computer carte blanche as my ex did then you should not be concerned with technical issues.

As for jealous feelings I think you are more mad that you know he is playing you.

Any pictures I have seen of ex girlfriends only reminded me I was the better option.

Buy him a naughty magazine series, tell him that you would like to swear off computer pictures of extra curricular design.

Set a plan in place that say in a week's time you have the hard drive maintenanced back to zero content. See if he puts the picture back on the computer.

If the picture still reappears, sit down and definitely have a discussion about it.

The other option of course is to contact the other girlfriend and inform her that her ex boyfriend is not protecting her privacy issues to the best of his ability.

Either or depends on what fits your situation only you can know the right thing to do.

Answer 5

I wouldnt tell him, and i would put the picture back and never look at it again.
If you are going to start out a relationship cheating, of course you are going to have trust issues.
And now you are snooping through his things, which looks even more like you have the problem.
Go get some help with it, your issues may just stem from something when you were young. if you want this relationship to work, you have to trust him and you have to be a trustworthy person.
Good luck and go talk to someone =)

Answer 6

It's not really snooping to come across photos of someone your living with. To answer your quesyion yes you can mention it in passing that you came across photos of him with another woman and tell him how they made you feel. Be open and honest with him.

Do you have trust issues? I would since you already know he was with you while he was with someone else. But then you did the same thing. Are you living together in a Monogomous (sp) relationship? If you are, then is he aware. Trust goes 2 ways. Best advice is to be open and honest with him as to how you feel.

Answer 7

If you have both cheated on people, you are both capable of being dishonest in relationships.

Your lack of trust in him is:
1. Because he cheated on someone.
2. Because you have cheated as well, and understand the deception involved.

I would throw the picture away and not say anything and pray that karma hasn't come back to bite you for being unfaithful in your own past relationship.

Answer 8

Well to make yourself feel better you need to be open and honest with him and tell him that you were being a snoop and you found the pictures and it made you feel rotten and sick and jealous. But at the same time you need to tell him how you feel about him now, and how you want you relationship to stay NOW.

I think you were fine with your own cheating, but not his, and definitely not seeing him with other chicks. Us women don't like to see our dudes with other women, doesn't matter who we are sleeping with, we would rather scratch the wenches eyes out!

Do you trust him now? Does he trust you now? Are you Committed?

Answer 9

I would just tell him you were curious and looked at some of his pictures. Be open with him and tell him it bothered you. I'm sure he can reassure you that he loves you and only you. He may even throw the picture out once he realizes how much it bothers you. Ya'll are together and are serious enough to live together. He should be serious enough to let go of the past and be rid of the picture.

Answer 10

How do you think there will be a true trust relationship between you two to start with? You both cheated on other people so whats to say what goes around comes around.