When men say "What she doesn't know, wont hurt her?" But wont it hurt them, because karma. She may not know, but it will come back to him. Why do men think that just because we dont know what's going on behind our backs, that if I were to cheat and get caught they feel so mad and miserable, but they were doing it first. The only difference is I didnt know because he was sneaking around behind me first. Wouldnt that be karma for all the times that "WE DIDNT KNOW".
2007-03-12 09:03:40 · 11 answers · asked by Still Standing 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you also believe in the tooth fairy? We make our own fate, our own decisions, our own destinies. Become the kind of woman who will attract a responsible, faithful man, and who will accept no less. Then, you won't have to worry about what you don't know.
2007-03-12 09:11:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess you're right. I think it's true though. what she doesn't know won't hurt her." The problem is when they do find out. I'll tell you what, IF my husband were to cheat or do something i don't approve of on accident and slip up, i would rather not know because i have a vivid imagination, and i would rather think of him as perfect for the rest of my life than to envision him getting hea.., or kissing, or anything with someone else. that is rough, and in my opinion, people always say it's good to tell the truth because the marriage should be honest and all this crap but i'm thinkin they must be wrong because #1 if more people told the truth, noone would be married, #2 I think it's a vicious act to clear their own conscience, all the while, making you feel sad and miserable after telling you. ok maybe not vicious or premeditated, but definitely to clear their own conscience. right?
2007-03-12 09:29:33 · answer #2 · answered by Lovely 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Karma has nothing to do with it.
Relationship psychology explains that when a spouse cheats, their behavior changes. They unconciously begin to treat their spouse differently and neglect many of the basic foundational needs within the relationship, creating a slowing opening rift of relationship degeneration.
In the end, the cheating will have destroyed the relationship even before (if) the loyal spouse finds out about the actions of the unloyal spouse.
It's cause and effect...
2007-03-12 09:23:52 · answer #3 · answered by Ritz Grimarren 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No one should cheat in a marriage(husband or wife)! If you make a promise to be faithful and break that promise you are a liar. Their is no gray area here. Whether he did it first or you did it first it still amounts to being a liar if you do it at all. I wouldn't want anyone to know me as a liar regardless of the circumstances. That is why it doesn't matter whether he may not know that you've done it or you may not know that he's done it. You are both aware if you've done it yourselves and the worst hurt is to yourselves because it makes you a dishonorable person. I pride myself on treating other people with more respect than that. My intention is not to bash you, but to remind you that if you seek an honorable person to share your life with you had better look within yourself to make sure you deserve such a person. Don't expect to get something that you are not willing to give yourself. Remain an honest and decent person and look for someone who is the same. When you do find him it will be a marriage of happiness that you wouldn't have ever believed possible.
2007-03-12 09:18:20 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say it's "payback" but not Karma. Karma is something you can't control, and not something you can MAKE happen. People who are bad, evil, conniving, etc, will eventually get a pay back from the universe, and that's Karma.
2007-03-12 09:10:29 · answer #5 · answered by bina64davis 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because a lie by omission is STILL a lie, and it WILL be found out eventually. Also, two wrongs don't make a right, so NO, it doesn't matter about the times "we didn't know". All that does is bring you down to THEIR level.
2007-03-12 09:55:21 · answer #6 · answered by Romans 8:28 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What makes an oath valid is whether or no longer you maintain it or no longer. once you're asking what makes Allah care, then i think He frowns on failing to tell the reality with or without an oath.
2016-11-24 22:53:28 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who say that are selfish. They don't actually care if they hurt anyone or not. They are just hoping they don't get caught. What goes around comes around.
2007-03-12 09:10:42 · answer #8 · answered by QT 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yeah Karma. What ever they do will hurt them in the future! THANK GOD!
2007-03-12 09:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by Shibby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're trying to justify cheating on him, just because he cheated on you first....forget it. Karma will get you, too. Cheating is cheating.
2007-03-12 09:42:13 · answer #10 · answered by thankamy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋