My B/f's son shows me no respect..I always clean up after him?

Question

I am 21 yrs. old and pregnant by my b/f who is a lot older than me. He has a 15 yr. old son who is a slob. Im not working right now so I stay home, and I clean the house and what not, but I feel like Im not getting the respect I deserve by my b/f or his son. His son leaves empty boxes in the cupboard/refrigerator, dirty dishes in the sink which we have a dishwasher and load it up each time theirs a dirty dish, but his son leaves it in the sink. Its not ever just one dish either, he will have tons of bowls and spoons, etc in his room and then put them in the sink. I recently had to take care of it and their was moldy milk all in it. He will leave crumbs on the counter, food out on the counters, etc. He NEVER cleans up. I talk to my b/f about it, and he doesnt do anything about it, and says nothing to him. We got in an argument about it recently, and I still ended up cleaning up after him. His son has no dicipline what so ever. What should I do?

I feel like if I dont clean up after him (thats where the messes always comes from), then I will be considered lazy since im not working right now, (I got into a car accident, and need to buy a new car). I am tired of the disrespect!

Answer 1

from now on just wash the dishes you need for the day, for you and your boyfriend. and when your boyfriend son comes and ask where are all the clean plates and that direct him to the sink or dish washer and tell him there is the soap and water was them. and if he leaves any bowls in his room leave it there. and also if he leaves empty boxes in cup board, or frig leave it to. and if your boyfriend ever says anything tell him to talk to his son. and if your boyfriend starts yelling at you for not doing it. I would pack and leave and let them live like they want. you are not their slave. you need to find someone that will give you the respect you need. good luck.

Answer 2

I think you need to have a serious talk to your boyfriend and his son. I don't think you should be cleaning up behind no 15 year boy, also you are pregnant and it doesn't matter if you are not working. You should still recieve RESPECT.